Do you greet exes on their birthdays? Why/why not?

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EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

@pinay_ako  I send both Birthday and Christmas cards to all four of my ex's, and in return I receive theirs. As we all parted company on extremely amicable terms, and as life is far too short as it is, there's absolutely no point or reason to hold any grudges. Also three of them (the fourth one was away on business) attended my wedding, and I have been to three of theirs, with the fourth one marrying later this year.

Delle123 · Accepted Answer

Nope. He left me and I was still madly in love with him. I was so tempted to text him happy birthday but I didn’t want him to know that I still cared

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

I text my ex-wife on her birthday, wishing her a Happy Birthday. She does the same to me on my birthday. We also exchange texts on other days like Christmas and New Years. Our divorce was amicable, and we still occasionally see each other at family events.

I don't do this with other women I've dated.

Sameone · Accepted Answer

Nup.  Because i don't have time

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Not anymore. I did once.

I think not worth it, I’ll say in my mind

“Happy Birthday, bad boy. Hope all goes well for you in your life. Cheers”

I’ll just think it, not type not text.

and that’s all.

Just a tribute to the love I had for him.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

An ex is an EX. That means they are part of my past, not a part of my present. Maintaining a relationship with an ex (if you don't have a child together) is unhealthy for several reasons. Once we say goodbye, my exes NEVER hear from me again.

Summeroflove · Answer

Not really. It depends on your rapport with them. If you’re still friends or at least aquatint's then it’s fine. But if they’re not really someone you talk to anymore. It’s better to leave them alone unless there is something important come up.

Finchie40 · Answer

No, , an ex is an ex for a reason , if a girl is my ex , she is no longer a part of my life , she was just my past

Avicenna · Answer

Nope, except for the ones I had kids with and the one I'm friends with

FreyaRed · Answer

I don't. After scandalous behavior of my 6 months after we broke up among our common friends I decided to cut completely al ties. He just misinterpreted my kindness as I sent him a short SMS to birthday and thought I want him back. As he recognized I'm not that nostalgic, he started to talk about me among my friends to destroy my reputation. Most people are bad losers and it's better to treat an ex as 'persona non grata'.

supercutebutt · Answer

Haha, no. But I saw a guy honor the one year anniversary of the death of his ex's father on live television yesterday. It was during a baseball pregame show. It seems to be a stunt to try and get her back. I'm friends with his ex's sister so we'll see if his ploy works.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

That's a really great question. I've been thinking about that. Her birthday is coming up in July. I would like to send a friendly greeting, because I do care about her. But at the same time, she doesn't care about me, so I'm thinking maybe I just won't say anything.

ThatBaldGuyOvetThere · Answer

I don't contact exes, not unless it's for something actually important that we were both involved in. Otherwise, I dont keep contact. Nothing personal, but an ex is an ex for a reason and it should be that way for any set of former partners.

Inviting the past back into your circle can have negative effects. Even if you left on good terms, I suggest you keep contact low to none.

The ONLY exception is if you both had a kid. Then you kind of have to keep contact as long as you at least keep it civil.

ZackBan · Answer

No good can come of it. Dredge up old memories for both of you for no reason.

Now that I said that, my ex did wish me a happy birthday last year and her birthday is next mont so I might actually wish her a happy birthday...
But we've been broken up longer than we dated and we actually stayed on good terms after the relationship failed so that's a specific case.

I wouldn't do it with all my exes for sure

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Nope! That's why is an e (X)... Done good towards them, and they "crushed me" without merci, took my time for them, my love for them, my everything invested in them, and crush it in the dirt, so for me (personally) is a NO-NO, an EX is a "term" for the past, so if we keep on going 2 steps ahead and 1 back, then out "road ahead" will become Longer, our Goals will be Further away...🤷‍♂️

MrOracle · Answer

No. I'm almost never hostile or mean with my ex's, I have no reason to remain in contact with them. The main reason an ex wants to remain in contact is to use you for attention and favors and possibly a back-up plan - and I have no interest or intention of being used that way by anyone.

Besides that, my girlfriend certainly wouldn't be happy if I kept in contact with my ex's, and I can absolutely understand her point of view.

Vcent · Answer

Yes and No... but yes in my case since I only got 1 ex.

I would say it depends of your current relationship... are you still friends? Are you still having contact regularly? Do you see eachother sometimes? Maybe same school/workplace? Do you have family together?

If one or more of those are correct I would say it is a good idea to still treat them as friends or family... you probably ended on good terms or you have something that brings you together still... which means you have to accept eachother. So being nice is a good idea... Think about how close you are or not... You don't say happ bday to everyone you know... but you say to your friends, coworkers etc... does your ex fit into the groups of people you usually greet or not?

But if you ended bad and never want to talk to or see eachother at all... why bother?

MisterWack · Answer

Greet ‘em with a vow of silence.

They are your EX so, they should stay your EX unless you two ended it on good terms / were friends before falling in love, there is no excuse to be talking to them / wishing happy birthday.

Leave exes in the past, give your man/woman of current year all the tender love & care.

Sjoerd85 · Answer

No. First reason is she dumped me, and ignored me ever since anyway (I had tried to get back together for a while after the breakup).

Second reason, and far more important to me; I am married now, and I wouldn't want my wife to keep contact with her ex romantic partners either.

Yoursweetgirl · Answer

I don't have ex boyfriend but I have ex friends with benefits and I always greet him on his birthday and he always greets me on my birthday. I want to be on good terms with him, because he is very successful, smart and has a good career. I would say the same about myself and I think that's probably why he wants to stay in good terms with me cause we might be useful for each other in the future. 😂

BadApple69 · Answer

Yes I wish all my ex ladies a happy birthday, merry Christmas and all other major holidays. Why? Why not? There are people I shared everything with… and it’s not one direction either. They wish me happy birthday too. When I have had breakups they aren’t bad breakups.

Screenwriter · Answer

Umm. Ex is ex, as in you're not in a relationship with them anymore. Why on earth would you contact them at all?

Do you contact former friends or greet them on their birthdays? Of course you don't.

Relationship over, greetings, cakes, cards are done with too.

sawno · Answer

Last time I did, to let her know I still care. We had contact since and she let me know she moved on and then also didn't write me back on mine. So next time unless we got in contact again, I won't send her another birthday letter since I doubt she'd want one to begin with.

Wallythewalrus2 · Answer

I did with one of them for the first two years following our break up. Her grandma sent me birthday cards for five years! Probably would have continued but I moved.

KittyKat90210 · Answer

Depends on how and why we broke up. If he was nasty then I wouldn't give him the attention. But if we just decided we were better as friends than as a couple I'd have no reason not to wish him a happy birthday.

jshm2 · Answer

I still do business, and meet a lot of my ex's. Just because things move on in life, doesn't mean they become a different species. You need to grow up.

Obviously, bad blood and cheating is a different thing.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

yeah, I do I don't keep a grudge, and we share a lot of great memories, so some small, decent gestures are needed to keep them this way

SomothErgai · Answer

Not really. I'm still friends with a number of exes but I don't really greet them or anything special on their birthday. though to be fair I rarely say anything to anyone on their birthday. I never remember when it is.

Caroline91 · Answer

It depends on the ex. Some I want nothing to do with; they are in my past. Others have stayed on as friends and I am likely to send them some kind of birthday wish, just as I would any other friend.

nessiee01 · Answer

noo, I personally do not greet exes on their birthday. I truly believe that there’s no necessity to do that, because what would you gain from it? -the relationship you had it’s over. move on. leave the person alone. & have dignity.

Drew-1990 · Answer

If I had an ex I would not, but if I happened to run into them on their birthday I would say something not just ignore them but I'm not going to go out of my way unless we somehow remained friends.

NathanDavis · Answer

although I am friends with two of my exes... we don't usually do this, lol

we don't really keep count of birthdays, lol

maybe this is why we're all best friends... we just don't care that much about birthdays, lmao

Harris2294 · Answer

Yes. Definitely. I wish everyone of them every year.

DishLady · Answer

Depends on the ex and why/how we broke up. I have an ex whose family and entire social circle I still speak with on really good terms, especially holidays and birthdays.

On the other hand, I have another ex who’s blocked and basically persona non grata in my life bc he was just a toxic bum to me and I can’t have that in my life.

Wetdreamz · Answer

No and even if we had a kid, I still wouldn't but I would let kid know it's her bday and h Have them draw something for her (wouldn't want to spend money to get gift for kid to give her)

b_lova · Answer

No, I tend to stay as far away from exes as possible. They are an ex for a reason and rather than confusing the emotions associated I don't interact at all if possible.

Princesspeach1411 · Answer

Nope! They are an ex for a reason. Unless it was an amicable split and you still need to be in contact (e. g children) then there is no reason to go back to an ex.

ApplePie409 · Answer

All my exes live in Texas, and that's why I hang my hat in Tennessee. LOL

Princesspd · Answer

I do. I don’t cut off my exes. There are exes that I still keep in touch with and I have gone back to sleep with my exes.

relax24 · Answer

I would never greet an ex on their birthday. one ex shoved a valentines day present back in my face.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

It depends. If I don’t really speak to them all that much/ we aren’t close anymore, I don’t. If I’m friends with them or regularly speak with them I do

BCRanger10 · Answer

No. For one thing, I haven't spoken to them in many years. And for another, ultimately, it simply wouldn't be right.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Not typically. They’re exes. I don’t want to make them think I want them back. There is one ex I say happy birthday to but we both know and understand we’re just friends.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

No. I honestly don't wish their birthday to be happy.

justarandomperson_55 · Answer

It's been 3 months, and in 3 months, her birthday is coming. I'm not sure if I should or not...

Confucious900 · Answer

If it was a good breakup, I ust send a text and thats if we still have contact. But the ones who ended badly, Ill never text or hear from them

integrale77 · Answer

My ex wife is a bitch we started working things out then it seemed like she wanted in my pants again and wanted to ruin my current relationship.

FatNeville · Answer

I don't. But that might be because all of my exes have cut off all communications with me and disappeared somewhere.

rosemilk · Answer

personally, if i had any, i wouldn't do that. like, why? what's the point? i'd want nothing to do with them, even if it ended in a civil way.

JacobJordan · Answer

If I had an ex I wouldn't even acknowledge them much less remember their birthday. If they were an ex they would be deleted from every aspect of my life including my brain

blueonblack22 · Answer

I once believed this was okay for some people. But I had one ex change my mind on the dark resort of that many years ago.

HawkPerception · Answer

Say whaaaaa? Who greets their exes on their birthdays? Psychos that aren't ready for a relationship 😂

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

My exes greet me on my birthday.  I don't reciprocate when It's their birthday.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Nope. Unless we had children in common I cannot even imagine why I would want to communicate with an ex.

Mr_twoface · Answer

I used to but not anymore. Not cause wifey would have a say in it but we have all moved on, so in my case, there is no point anymore.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Yeah I'll dedicate and send them the song "I come to witsh you an unhappy birthday." by the SMITHS

LaterZ · Answer

Unless u trying to get back with them, why would you?

douride2 · Answer

Why would I call or text an ex. Most are exes for a good reason. I don't want anything to do with most of them,

Romasona · Answer

No. Because who is not present in your life, should not exist.

Amy10223 · Answer

No….. it was not an amicable decision to leave my husband. No way.

shafiya · Answer

It depends if you are still friends. If they are not then sis don’t bother.

coolbreeze · Answer

Once an ex is always an ex for a reason. It gets very messy to be friends with ex's.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I do not. They are exes for a reason, so I tend to focus on the one I am with.

Purpleronnie · Answer

If your my ex , your no longer on my radar.:. Period

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