Do you greet exes on their birthdays? Why/why not?

[Pinay_ako]

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Texting/calling/emailing them or go to their house with a birthday cake 🤣… whatever ways, do you greet them?

[EmmaMary]

@Pinay_ako

I send both Birthday and Christmas cards to all four of my ex's, and in return I receive theirs.

As we all parted company on extremely amicable terms, and as life is far too short as it is, there's absolutely no point or reason to hold any grudges.

Also three of them (the fourth one was away on business) attended my wedding, and I have been to three of theirs, with the fourth one marrying later this year.

[Pinay_ako]

Wow sounds like you’re a very good ex!

[EmmaMary]

@Pinay_ako

As they are to me.

[Kelly6]

@EmmaMary
that's also how i am with my exs,
which is better way

[EmmaMary]

Thank you so much for the MHO.

[Mrtcn01]

You are very friendly but I don’t take it 😩

[Harshbro]

That’s very weird, I don’t know how your man can accept that

[Zer0kay]

You know what else life is to short for? Dwelling in the past and not focusing on your current partner.

[Zer0kay]

My question to those who still talk to their exes after an amicable split. If you were single and your ex asked would you see them again? If the answer is yes and you don't see a problem with that just because your with someone now... your messed up. Women are mean and sly men are dull and violent. I'm talking about the average at our worst. If your man doesn't seem to love you anymore your telling me your so loyal you wouldn't consider getting comfort elsewhere? Good for you if thats true. Better if your man feels that way too. To the men who say they keep in contact with your exes. Same sort of questioning. Except instead of love, if your woman is constantly disrespecting you and your ex still shows you respect and the opportunity arose your so loyal you wouldn't try?

[Delle123]

Nope. He left me and I was still madly in love with him. I was so tempted to text him happy birthday but I didn’t want him to know that I still cared

[Zer0kay]

Sorry he did that. More reason to try to leave him in the past.

[AviatorTom]

I text my ex-wife on her birthday, wishing her a Happy Birthday. She does the same to me on my birthday. We also exchange texts on other days like Christmas and New Years. Our divorce was amicable, and we still occasionally see each other at family events.

I don't do this with other women I've dated.

[Sameone]

Nup.
Because i don't have time

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Not anymore. I did once.

I think not worth it, I’ll say in my mind

“Happy Birthday, bad boy. Hope all goes well for you in your life. Cheers”

I’ll just think it, not type not text.

and that’s all.

Just a tribute to the love I had for him.

[OlderAndWiser]

An ex is an EX. That means they are part of my past, not a part of my present. Maintaining a relationship with an ex (if you don't have a child together) is unhealthy for several reasons. Once we say goodbye, my exes NEVER hear from me again.

[OlderAndWiser]

And that includes no birthday card, no birthday phone call, no birthday cake, no birthday etc.

[Lovelylady95]

I absolutely agree. I have had issues with relationships in the past where they were friends with exes, with no kids.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Lovelylady95 I don't want to be a "friend" with an ex and hear her start talking about the new guy who is spending nights with her. And there isn't a good reason for me to give to a new lady about why I am still hanging with an ex if the relationship is really over. There just too much that can go wrong! And no contact means I start moving forward sooner.

[Lovelylady95]

Exactly. I feel like the guys I've dated weren't really over that relationship which was a part of the issue for me them being friends. I want to be the only woman occupying space in his heart, romantically.

[Summeroflove]

Not really. It depends on your rapport with them. If you’re still friends or at least aquatint's then it’s fine. But if they’re not really someone you talk to anymore. It’s better to leave them alone unless there is something important come up.

[Finchie40]

No, , an ex is an ex for a reason , if a girl is my ex , she is no longer a part of my life , she was just my past

[Avicenna]

Nope, except for the ones I had kids with and the one I'm friends with

[Wetdreamz]

I assume the ex who is still a friend was after the one you had kids with or no?

[Avicenna]

@Wetdreamz: No, the one I'm friends with I didn't have kids with.

[FreyaRed]

I don't. After scandalous behavior of my 6 months after we broke up among our common friends I decided to cut completely al ties. He just misinterpreted my kindness as I sent him a short SMS to birthday and thought I want him back. As he recognized I'm not that nostalgic, he started to talk about me among my friends to destroy my reputation. Most people are bad losers and it's better to treat an ex as 'persona non grata'.

[Pinay_ako]

Yea this. Any form of reaching out does send somewhat a message of trying to get back together.

[Wetdreamz]

How did he know of your 6month scandalous behavior after you broke up? If you didn't tell him, then it would seem you made it obvious enough that the common friends couldn't possibly have not seen themselves.

[supercutebutt]

Haha, no. But I saw a guy honor the one year anniversary of the death of his ex's father on live television yesterday. It was during a baseball pregame show. It seems to be a stunt to try and get her back. I'm friends with his ex's sister so we'll see if his ploy works.

[Pinay_ako]

That’s low of him.

[Wetdreamz]

Oh absolutely. I can't imagine some guy doing that unless it was his first relationship and he lost himself In loving her to a level that's unhealthy on a whole different level

[Jamie05rhs]

That's a really great question. I've been thinking about that. Her birthday is coming up in July. I would like to send a friendly greeting, because I do care about her. But at the same time, she doesn't care about me, so I'm thinking maybe I just won't say anything.

[Pinay_ako]

Jamie, leave it. Don’t say it

[Jamie05rhs]

Aww 😥

[ThatBaldGuyOvetThere]

I don't contact exes, not unless it's for something actually important that we were both involved in. Otherwise, I dont keep contact. Nothing personal, but an ex is an ex for a reason and it should be that way for any set of former partners.

Inviting the past back into your circle can have negative effects. Even if you left on good terms, I suggest you keep contact low to none.

The ONLY exception is if you both had a kid. Then you kind of have to keep contact as long as you at least keep it civil.

[ZackBan]

No good can come of it. Dredge up old memories for both of you for no reason.

Now that I said that, my ex did wish me a happy birthday last year and her birthday is next mont so I might actually wish her a happy birthday...
But we've been broken up longer than we dated and we actually stayed on good terms after the relationship failed so that's a specific case.

I wouldn't do it with all my exes for sure

[DannyUk2017]

Nope! That's why is an e (X)... Done good towards them, and they "crushed me" without merci, took my time for them, my love for them, my everything invested in them, and crush it in the dirt, so for me (personally) is a NO-NO, an EX is a "term" for the past, so if we keep on going 2 steps ahead and 1 back, then out "road ahead" will become Longer, our Goals will be Further away...🤷‍♂️

[DannyUk2017]

"Mercy" damn thick fingers...😅

[MrOracle]

No. I'm almost never hostile or mean with my ex's, I have no reason to remain in contact with them. The main reason an ex wants to remain in contact is to use you for attention and favors and possibly a back-up plan - and I have no interest or intention of being used that way by anyone.

Besides that, my girlfriend certainly wouldn't be happy if I kept in contact with my ex's, and I can absolutely understand her point of view.

[Vcent]

Yes and No... but yes in my case since I only got 1 ex.

I would say it depends of your current relationship... are you still friends? Are you still having contact regularly? Do you see eachother sometimes? Maybe same school/workplace? Do you have family together?

If one or more of those are correct I would say it is a good idea to still treat them as friends or family... you probably ended on good terms or you have something that brings you together still... which means you have to accept eachother. So being nice is a good idea... Think about how close you are or not... You don't say happ bday to everyone you know... but you say to your friends, coworkers etc... does your ex fit into the groups of people you usually greet or not?

But if you ended bad and never want to talk to or see eachother at all... why bother?

[Sjoerd85]

No. First reason is she dumped me, and ignored me ever since anyway (I had tried to get back together for a while after the breakup).

Second reason, and far more important to me; I am married now, and I wouldn't want my wife to keep contact with her ex romantic partners either.

[Yoursweetgirl]

I don't have ex boyfriend but I have ex friends with benefits and I always greet him on his birthday and he always greets me on my birthday. I want to be on good terms with him, because he is very successful, smart and has a good career. I would say the same about myself and I think that's probably why he wants to stay in good terms with me cause we might be useful for each other in the future. 😂

[BadApple69]

Yes I wish all my ex ladies a happy birthday, merry Christmas and all other major holidays. Why? Why not? There are people I shared everything with… and it’s not one direction either. They wish me happy birthday too. When I have had breakups they aren’t bad breakups.

[Screenwriter]

Umm. Ex is ex, as in you're not in a relationship with them anymore. Why on earth would you contact them at all?

Do you contact former friends or greet them on their birthdays? Of course you don't.

Relationship over, greetings, cakes, cards are done with too.

[sawno]

Last time I did, to let her know I still care. We had contact since and she let me know she moved on and then also didn't write me back on mine. So next time unless we got in contact again, I won't send her another birthday letter since I doubt she'd want one to begin with.

[Wallythewalrus2]

I did with one of them for the first two years following our break up. Her grandma sent me birthday cards for five years! Probably would have continued but I moved.

[KittyKat90210]

Depends on how and why we broke up. If he was nasty then I wouldn't give him the attention. But if we just decided we were better as friends than as a couple I'd have no reason not to wish him a happy birthday.