My ex broke up with me 4 years ago and it has been almost 3 years I've talked/seen her, why does she all of a sudden want to meet & talk to me, HELP?

[Lonerup]

So my best friend and my ex's bestfriend go to the same college and her bestfriend started talking to my best friend about me, she eventually did say that my ex wants to meet and talk to me while all these years she didn't even care if I were alive or dead. Why do you think she is making this move? Like, why does she want to create drama all over again (we didn't breakup on good terms) and allegedly mend things with me now after 4 f'in years? Why doesn't she just let things be the way they are and let go? (FOR CONTEXT - SHE WAS THE ONE WHO WANTED TO BREAKUP NO MATTER WHAT, SHE WAS THE ONE WHO IGNORED ME LIKE NOTHING EVER HAPPENED BETWEEN US).

[TommyMountainFigure]

I feel your pain man, I really do.

Like you said. She could have reached out at any time to find out if you were doing ok. The fact she didn't then, but wants to now speaks volumes.

My guess is, she's recently been dumped by someone who treated her as badly as she treated you, and developed some form of guilty conscience.

If there is one thing I've learned about people who need to know how treating others badly feels, before knowing right from wrong, it is that they do not deserve a second chance and certainly would never be granted one by me!

[BIZARRE_TRUTH]

I totally disagree with this man

Jesus teaches forgiveness

And if tommy was treated by his pwn logic
He would have no family or friends

Forgiveness is important

[TommyMountainFigure]

@BIZARRE_TRUTH Different viewpoints are what makes this world so colourful. I do however think you've found yourself in the wrong place. The Religious Nutjob area is down the hall and to the left :)

[Lonerup]

Agreed, but do you think that she wants to meet me so badly just to apologise or to try and get back together?

[TommyMountainFigure]

It could be either, but, have you thought about what damage it could do to you dragging up the past like that?

[Lonerup]

I know, I am not gonna play along them and meet them and jeopardize the progress I've made all these years. Thank you for talking bros

[TommyMountainFigure]

You're welcome buddy. Stay strong.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Thank you for MHO

[Anonymous]

cause she's desperate and wants to rekindle the relationship duuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh

[Lonerup]

Like, even after when she was the one who didn't want me and after this long?

[Opinion Owner]

yes. the fact that she's reaching out now means she wants to rekindle

[Opinion Owner]

its very common

[Lonerup]

I see, but her freind kind of hinted that she just want to kinda apologise and set things straight, you think she lying?

[Opinion Owner]

her friend doesn't know anything, just like you dont. just find out for yourself if you're interested. whats the harm