Is it ok to contact my ex just to say hello?

[Anonymous]

My ex and I broke up a little over one month. We were in touch for a little bit afterwards, with more initiative on his part. I don't want to get back together but I want to be friends (have good relations). It's been two weeks since we last had contact.

I was thinking of sending a quick message to him to say hello. Is that fair?

[akumakuja]

I apologize for what I am about to say.

WTF is wrong with you females and this I want to be friends thing. Are women aware at all of what it means to kick it around your ex. Leave him the f*** alone good god. He probably still loves you back off. Why you women think that crap is ok is beyond me.

Now let me explain this. When men become emotionally attached they need time to move on much more than a women who has been brought up feeling that is ok to deal with emotions. Which has gave WOMEN a better ability to cope with emotionall stress and move forward.

Now men on the other hand emotional stress in are lives we are taught to hide and disregard which means that it requires much more time For us to heal from emotional tragedy.

Now if you insist on being his friend after the break up leave him alone for a while.

[kairon156]

I agree altho without the swareing. give him some time to deal with not haveing you as a girlfriend for a little while.

[John-Bee]

No, it just prolongs the agony. For me it was like a quick fix. I/we made contact. Then another week or two goes by & I started to feel the same loneliness/emptiness. It really is best not to make contact. If you bump into each other in public than just be polite. Nothing more.

As hard as it is & as much as it hurts it's over let it go.

Believe me I have been there and done that.

[Anonymous]

That might give him the wrong impression because they say one of the signs of wanting someone back is getting in contact with them for no real reason. I know your intentions are good and you just want to be friends but you said that he has been taking more initiative then you to stay in touch so he might take you contacting him the wrong way. If you see him out somewhere then say hello and be polite but other then that don't put too much effort into staying in touch just yet, I think it is still too soon.

[Anonymous]

I would leave it for a while before you make contact again and if you see him in public say hello to just be polite.

It is hard to just be friends with someone after a relationship. I have been there and it does not work for a while as there are still feelings for each other.

I would leave it another couple of months before making contact. That way you would be over him more and you will not give off the wrong impression.

And just be polite if you see him in public.

[Shlei3]

If you were both ok with contact with one another that is fine to leave him a message. Just make sure to keep it completely platonic.

[Sir-Robert]

Ha, I'm in kinda the same situation, but on the male end, wouldn't it be weird if we where each others ex's? I really doubt it, but still

Ya, I actually just got a text from my ex. but it turned out to be from her friend, and that made me more sad, I would give the guy some time, especially sense you aren't interested in him anymore, though it may help to ask him how he feels about everything, and explain how you feel

[palek]

I may be immature, but if I were still in love with someone that was not in love with me, I would prefer not seeing or hearing from her. It just makes the pain more pronounced. Wouldn't you feel that way?

[Anonymous]

THTS ALSO MY PROBLEM I ALSO WNT TO BE FRIEND WITH MY EX BUT DNT YOU THINK ITS COMPLICATED BETWEEN THE TWO PARTS/? ITS MORE GOOD NO CONTACT REDUCED HURT NO MORE PAIN FORGOT