My ex told me to Take Care?

[tarara]

He sent me this,

'" I'm really sorry for making you upset. I know you have been feeling unhappy with me. I can't be the guy you want in your life. I hope you will meet someone better. Perhaps we might see each other again someday. Please take good care."

What should I reply to change his mind/heart and want me back?

Should I just,

a) Ignore his message and let him come back to me

b) Get angry and tell him I will never want to see him again

c) Say sorry too and say that I will forgive him

I'm not going to send him a long message to tell him my feelings which I already did.

I don't know why he keeps thinking he is in the wrong. Does he really don't want me? Did I unintentionally hurt him?

[embemm99]

I don't know what happened in your relationship but if I recieved that I would reply... why? because he has forever put the ball in your court so if your ever going to make contact again its up to you! This is a sh*t position to have because it makes you really vulnerable and if you don't say anything he will move on. My reply I think would be like...

(this depends if you want him back or not?)

"I really do appreciate your apology... I know it would have taken a lot for you to say this. However I still have my standards for the way I should be treated and if you feel you cannot meet those standards then perhaps it is best we go our seperate ways. I wish you all the best"

^this does a few things... 1) you don't sound like the bitch 2) it plays on there male ego a bit and puts the ball in there court and 3) you don't sound like a push over that he can have whenever he pleases

this message will also allow him to contact you if he wants you back because you havn't shut him off completely but at the same time if he doesn't contact you, you know his not worth it

[tarara]

Yesss he's making me feel guilty and wanting him back again. I just don't know what to say. I guess it"s up to him to still want me back? Before that he even said that he knows our dreams are not the same and he can't fulfill it. What should I even say? I want us and I want to reconcile the differences between us.

[embemm99]

My opinion on breaks ups is that if both people are willing to work on the relationship then it's worth a shot (given there was no cheating) in response to having different dreams, my ex and I had the same dreams and it became too competitive to the point where I was afraid to console in him because I didn't want to be judged for failing (so not always the best) but if he makes you happy then I would try again.. Same ex that I referred to before I know I should have given him another chance

[Arwens-Fire]

Well,if I were you.I would just accept the break up.No begging,no crying...just accept it by writing that you accept it. Secondly,breakups are hard on both parties.He probably feels awful that he had to breakup with you,and that you're hurting...so all he can do is continue to apologize...just because HE feels bad for having to hurt your feelings.NOT necessarily because he wants you back,or regrets breaking up with you.No one likes to hurt people feelings...so all he is reall feeling is...GUILT. Don't start turning this on yourself either.As I said,accept the breakup and leave it alone.

Lastly,i will not say that you guy

[Skygirljenn]

Play his game and reply to him. Say " I understand and you take care too". This is short and sweet and will let him know you are not going to play these games of back and forth crap. Its quick and to the point and it will eat at him more than anything you could ever say, especially because its not a long or drawn out reply mentioning specific events etc... Try it girl, you will be suprised at the response you do get.

[martyfellow]

Most of us wantto be forgiven and reassured that we don't HAVE to be perfectt, all the time...but tell him what DOES bother you.

Be specific and tell him he needs to start working on that right away.

He will listen now. Partly, he's telling you he's willing to listen to what is making you unhappy. That's always a hopeful sign from a guy, or a girl!

[Stacyzee]

I'd say option C but minus the apology.

You only say sorry when you have done something wrong.

If you haven't then let it be known that you accept his apology and forgive him.

Tell him words are just words, and he is going to have to put into action to make sure that he doesn't do those things again (a true apology is not only said but it is also acted on.)

I really think he is doing that just to put a guilt trip on you.

[Nicefuture]

"I really think he is doing that just to put a guilt trip on you" I agree +1

[Prettygurl12]

Well telling him option B is not the right one...He'll just leave you alone if you do that. Tell him you're sorry too and explain your feelings. Then leave it at that and if he wants to be in your life, he'll keep the conversation going.

[tarara]

I did explain my feelings to him. The more I said, the more sorry he feels. I don't wish to say anymore. I just want him to want me again.

[Prettygurl12]

You can't force someone to like you again.

[Anonymous]

My respond would be :

"You know what?

A- F**k you.

B- F**k you.

C- F**k you.

And I'm not sorry at all,Oh wait I'm really sorry ,I feel bad for saying that,please get a hit by a truck"

[adamretex81]

C

for sure. not a or b

[Anonymous]

Who broke up with who?