We did not speak for 4 months and suddenly a month ago she messages me up saying she still loves me and is sorry for everything she has done and misses me. Since then we have begun texting each other and I sleep over and we have sex once or twice a week. She acts as if we are still together, holds my hands, kisses me, tells me she loves me, calls me pet names,etc... yet when I ask her why she is still with this new guy and not trying to work it out with me again, she says she can't just end it with this new guy since she has a close group of mutual friends with him and that she wants to improve herself before seeing me again.
She then tells me she has no feelings of love or long-term feelings with him like she has with me. She says she wants to continue seeing me because she truly loves me and I make her happy, while she lets the new relationship slowly die.
I do want to believe her and continue seeing her but I do not want to wait forever for her to let her new relationship die. I also feel guilty that she is secretly cheating on her new boyfriend with me. (Even though she tells me she doesn't see him as a boyfriend and that they have not had sex).
Do you guys think that she is just stringing me along?
Also I have read that women tend to see sex as something more emotionally bonding and not just pure physical sex... does that mean she really still has some feelings for me if she is willing to have sex with me?
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Anyone who would hide you from public view and only deign to sneak around with you in secret does not love you. That's what *I* think, anyway. Sounds to me like that girl of yours (and his) is getting something from him she can't get from you (whatever that maybe, I have no idea) and she is using that as justification for lying to him and bullsh*tting you, too.
If I truly love someone, I can't be with someone else. I think that's the way it works. I may SAY I love the guy I'm cheating on, but if I'm cheating I don't love him. Or I may SAY I love the guy I'm cheating with, but if I make no move to make a legitimate, non-secret relationship withhim, then I don't love him. I'm no angel. I've perpetrated some shady sh*t before, myself. And I can tell you without hesitation that I don't f*ck over and lie to people I love and I never have. I'm not justifying my actions by saying since I didn't love them it was okay. All I'm doing is picking this apart for you and showing you what my experience has been when I was on the giving end of f*ckery. It wasn't about them- it was about *me* and what *I* wanted. That's not love. That's not even "like".