I Don't Date Outside My Race (Page 2)

[diamondhair]

I feel if you have a preference that doesn't make you racist. I have no preference. My only attraction to someone is personality. My boyfriend is Arab. Unfortunately his family won't accept me but not bothered! Honestly it's just about finding that one good person you can spend the rest of your life with.

[Mekkalyn]

I've never dated outside of my race, nor do I want to.
Culture is an impact-full thing.
I am not racist. I do not look down on other people. Everyone is equal.
But my dating preferences are my own and don't have to be justified to anyone. Nor should anyone be made fun of or looked down on for interracial relationships. Everyone should have a choice, that's the beauty of equality.

[vishna]

Often this isn't the case, my high school was roughly 50/50 black and white. A whole lotta white guys had never dated outside their ethnicity, not because they weren't around black women, but because they refused.

I get Joe's dating style

I don't get the average racist's dating style.

[Anonymous]

I've heard girls say this in public and i never took it personal but it did kind of make me feel bad considering im black and i would never not date a girl im attracted to based on her race I just never thought it was that serious.

[Anonymous]

Someone who has never dated outside their race is not necessarily racists.

Someone who finds people from a given race more attractive, on average, is expressing a preference.

Someone who says they -would not- date someone of race X, or finds 'none' of the members of that race attractive is almost certainly projecting ideas on them based on their race in a way that is prejudiced.

[Anonymous]

tl;dr

it's fine if you don't date out of your race. you're attracted to what you're attracted to. the problem people start to have is that you don't think anyone outside of your race (or anyone in a certain race) can be beautiful. i'm not Asian or attracted to Asian girls, really, but there are a lot of Asian girls that are attractive.

[sweetkiss99]

I don't find it racist you're into, what you're into.

[Anonymous]

It was an interesting mytake to read and I do like how organized it was but I still don't understand why race even matters. Biological speaking race doesn't exist so why do we spend so much time focused on this subject. All humans living today belong to a single species, Homo sapiens.

[Punkbuster107]

Very well written take. You painted your ideas very cleary, in a compelling and interesting way. I liked you choice of example scenarios.

[Anonymous]

Conversely, those who don't typically date within their race are considered self-hating. I don't see how having a preference automatically means you HATE members of your own race, but okay.

People are going to like what they like. Stop judging folks for it.

[sjoes006]

I don't think people should be shamed for not dating outside their race/ ethnic group. Do what feels right.

[art84]

I never dated outside of my race which is Hispanic. I find other races attracted like Asian for example but its hard finding Asian women in texas when you have Hispanic women making the majority of women with black and white women. My brother has dated a white girl before which wasn't the best choice of wonen for him. He has dated Hispanic women as well but that's it.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

I like how the Hispanic guy is the one living with the gangsters and criminals who are all minorities, thanks, us Hispanics totally appreciate that...
*Sarcasm*

[myTake Owner]

it wouldn't have mattered what race I made that hypothetical person, someone was going to complain. Is there someone like a Michael that does live in that situation, yes there is. You can complain about it, but it doesn't make it any less true.

[Anonymous]

Lol, why did you have to write an entire take on this? Nobody cares if you don't date outside your race. That's your business, and there's nothing wrong with that, but it becomes everyone else's business when you don't date these people because of racial stereotypes, and skin color. That's when it becomes racist.

[myTake Owner]

I take it you didn't actually read the take. Go figure.

[Opinion Owner]

Why are you being so rude? I read it from beginning to end! I was just making a point. No need to be rude.

[myTake Owner]

several people have made comments having not read the take either fully or at all, and I'm like if you read it, then you wouldn't be making that comment. Clearly people care about this topic which is why I wrote it and there are some 54 comments thus far to the fact. As much as people want the issues with race to just quietly disappear, they aren't. In fact, they may be getting worse in some or a lot or all parts of the country. Whether I discuss it or not doesn't mean its going to go away.

[Opinion Owner]

I read it though I was just clarifying something. I wasn't being rude or anything

[dejeson]

I use to want to date people out of my race, but then as I got older... I realized that I love black men... black men are really the only people I want to date... probably because im black to, and it may play a role in my choice

[Anonymous]

"I think largely because Jessica has been exposed to so many different races and cultures and they have been portrayed to her in a positive light, she is free to, and freely dates outside of her race"

Not always true. I was only exposed to some white people in person until I went to college. My boyfriend of 4 years and 4 months is white. He lived only in a dominate white neighborhood. Honestly never saw a black person until college

[Anonymous]

if I were to date I wouldn't mind dating out side my race I'm from the us and i used to meet a few on other community sites who were older then me and American and some of them weren't nice to me and there's was one who was 19 who wasn't nice to me ether

[TripleAce]

there's a fine line here. On one side its a personal choice but on the other side to isolate people, 100% of people based on race, is surely discriminatory towards them

[RachelBrigs]

Its fine to have a preference. Its racist when you say you refuse to date someone of another race based on principle though.

[Folklore]

I've been in more relationships with women of a different race than I have of my own. Purely coincidence though. Not like I went out of my way to make it happen lol.