So I came across this list of shockingly bad dating advice men give one another in Glamour Magazine and thought why not respond to such advice as a woman who could presumably be on the other end of it. I'm sharing my thoughts about the Glamour list, but would be most curious to see how guys feel about it.
1. Wait three days to call her
I think most women know about the whole three day wait thing, and it's stupid for either party to do so *especially* if you totally hit it off on a date. I mean, we live in a world where people send 100 texts to one another every second, so the fact that either of you who went on this date are like antiquated relics from a by gone era who don't know how to operate a phone, is stupid. You like someone, call them and let them know. Game playing is a waste of time.
2. Sleep with as many women as possible
Oh the irony here. I had a guy once complain that 5 was a high number, FIVE for Christs sakes!!! I'm sure you can find a lot of women who would say they want an experienced man, but I don't think anyone man or woman alike wants a whore. If you are 22 and your number is 192, that means you are just plowing through women with no care, probably no respect, and moving on to the next breathing thing. That doesn't translate well in the relationship department. Also, even if you've only ever had the one partner, if you studied well, by the time you get to us, that low number has zero relevance if you can handle your business.
3. Reject a woman to seem powerful
I actually laughed out loud with that one. What is the point of that? It suggests you enjoy going home alone and never going on dates.
4. Ask her out via text
Depends on the girl. Some don't care. I'm old school in that I had parents that raised me to not go out the door when a boy honks his horn at you in the drive, but that he should come to the door and pick you like a gentleman picks up a girl he respects. That's carried on into my adult life. If you're going to ask me out, call me or ask me out in person. In my life though, no one has ever tried to text ask me out, so yeah for humanity and the gentlemen in the world still left out there!
5. Complimenting a woman makes you look weak
Whaaaaaaat? Compliments are like the first step in getting someone interested in you other then like flirting you do with your body language. I do that if I'm trying to get to know a guy or to get him to talk to me. Yeah, this one is pure awful.
6. Men saying, "she's out of your league."
I can almost literally feel the eye rolling going on with this one by guys saying, no, this is true, but is it? If you've ever listened to this advice, by default, you've made it true. If you never ever try with a girl some guy friend tells you is out of your league, how can you know that? And based on what? Honestly if a FRIEND is implying that you are not good enough for someone, maybe you need better friends because if you walk up to that girl and she rejects your charming self, she's not good enough for you, not the other way round.
7. Work more on your body then your relationship.
True if all you want is one night stands, but in a relationship a hot body, but an empty mind, does not a relationship make. It's especially sad when you think the only thing that is important IS your body, but not the relationship or putting any efforts into it.
8. Just don't tell her
Uh, we WILL find out. When you sneak around and try to hide stuff like say you ran into your ex girlfriend who "happened" to stop by after work, and you "happened" to just go out to dinner with her for 4 hours...yeah, fess up or it will blow up and when you do fess up, don't pretend for even a second that if the situation were reversed you wouldn't care.
9. Put her down to turn her on
First, girls know about "The Game." Second, if a woman is weak and has issues and enjoys being insulted and thinks it's sexy, hey, more power to those women, but this is up there with the least sexiest things I can think for a man to do or say to a woman.
10. Straight men shouldn't care about style
Let a guy walk into a room full of ladies with his hair freshly cut, wearing a tailored suit and then tell me how much you shouldn't care about style. It is exhausting to have to explain to an adult man that there is more to life in the wardrobe department than cargo pants and his college T-shirt. Some guys are of the impression that slovenly and hanging out on the couch gear works for every situation in life. A girl wants a guy who can dress up on a date to a nice restaurant, or put together a simply outfit, like a button down, some Chinos, and a stylish shoe. In the same way brushing your teeth, getting a shave, taking a shower, shows you care about yourself, so too does putting SOME effort from time to time into your wardrobe.