So, before I begin, I must place my stance on this myTake. Yes, I feel as if I am the woman on the invisible side of the spectrum. I did not enter my first relationship until my early twenties and it was sadly short lived. I have befriended other ladies in high school, even some that I work with and these women seem to get so much attention. This makes me envious and I guess that makes me juvenile.
I would not say that I am beautiful or gorgeous by any standard. I am thick (around a size 10-12 in Women's clothing) and above average in height. I am hispanic and live in the south, where a majority of the men are probably appealed to a different type of woman. I feel regardless of my location, I do not measure up to the other women in the area or the others I am acquainted with.
I grew up in New York for thirteen years and never had a "boyfriend" in middle school. In H.S., I was never asked out to a prom or homecoming. I did not get guys to ask me out until I was a Senior in H.S. and that was only because they were friends with one of my friends.
People have complimented me throughout my lifetime and I am not including solely family. Friends, strangers (in person and online) and work. I know beauty is in the eye of the beholder, however, I am skeptical as to how women flourish in their dating lives.
Some say it is a due to their approachability and physical appeal that draws others. Yes, I am considerably reserved, yet I did not think it would take me so long to enter a relationship. I had to put myself out there online to encounter a guy that seemed suitable and the process was not as easy as it may sound.
Whether you are the belle of the ball or a wallflower, what is your opinion on the matter? What is this it-factor women have that makes them socially and sexually/romantically acceptable?