because i always get these kind questions here i wanna write about what i think is the real problem behind this.
Ok, so the base line is that i get to hear so many people (girls and guys, but mostly girls) " I am "better"(in some way) than my crush, thats so awkward!"
Well, I dont think its awkward at all...the awkward part about it are just our society stereotypes, that say it should be this way.
I think the problem here is a contradiction between social norms and tradition.
If we take a look at tradition, women wouldn't work, they would stay alone home while the husband is working, they were not allowed to go to school or college.
This just changed in the last 150 years, this is a very short time, and we still have these traditions, reinforced by social expectations and the stories like fairytales that we tell our kids. (at least i can't remember a story where the princess saved her knight :D)
On the other hand our modern society looks totally different, take for example the typical part about dates: who pays for the first date? A lot of people say, the guy right? But why? Because this tradition is from a time where girls where not allowed to work, so we had no money in the first place.
Now girls earn as much as guys, and we still have this stereotype, because our society has changed, but our traditions did not. But nobody questions traditions for some reason.
And if i am honest, i think from a financial perspective this is just the beginning, girls make up for over half the college degrees now, numbers still rising. In a couple years we gonna earn more on average than our male counterparts.
And this is why i think society has a big problem. Its just observed as weak, if a men asks for help, or a women is taller, stronger or wealthier than him.Its not the case, its just a tradition that we dont question. But we totally should to that!
I talked to my boyfriend about this, and we came up with an idea, to start solving this problem.
We write a fairytail book! :D