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Most of the girls will say they prefer a nice guy but in reality they are the ones whom they share the stories about how big of an a** hole their boyfriend is. Girls like to experience the rough side and it turns them on when their cocky boyfriends are not intimidated by their excessive demands. There is no proven answer for this question but I am telling you from what I have seen, the jerks are the ones who get laid the most. My suggeestion; stop acting nice, weak and don't go out of your way to accomodate the other person unless your obviousally great friends with them. Start standing up for yourself and think about yourself first before thinking about others.
The majority of women lack insight into their own motives (most men, too, but women are the ones constantly flattering themselves about their supposedly advanced emotions).
Here's the big secret. It's so simple that most people overlook it.
Ready?
Here it is:
Women who prefer bad boys are afraid of intimacy.
When women date a bad boy, they're guaranteed that they never have to be open and honest, never risk a deep and meaningful emotional connection. With a bad boy, women can fool themselves into believing that it's all his fault. If he'd only share his feelings (or stop drinking, or always answer her calls, or hold a steady job, or stop sleeping around, or whatever) then the relationship would be perfect!
Avoid these girls, because they're messed up and don't deserve a minute of your time.
Well I can honestly say that I was that girl who thought she wanted a bad guy.. but after you've been in relationships and they all failed ...Girls should realize that's not what they really want..It is a phase(well it was for me). All the girls want a bad guy because they think they are appealing and because that's what everybody else is looking for and they try to fit in. When you become a woman your whole mind frame changes and you know what you really want... an all around good guy! I hope this answer helps!
the so-called bad boys have 2 things the nice guy dnt have: confidence, and a backbone. Lotsa nice guys are too damn nice... what woman wants a wussbag? the bad boys are shallow underneath the smoothness... it will take more time for the nice guy to get his, but it will be real. Also, the nice guy, by the time he gets his girl, will be whole and developed, instead of the bad boy being incomplete... that's why game is their calling card. Period. Getting girls isn't hard... show up with some confidence, dnt be afraid to talk to em, and dnt have em on a pedestal- less creepy that way...
I know exactly what you mean man,I'm a nice guy and was left by 2 girlfriends for the bad boys. What I learned about that is basically it's a challenge for the girls to see if they can "tame" the bad boy. I have no idea why they want to do this but it's legit. Plus they aren't women yet so they make dumb choices and suffer for it later on. But on the other hand I have been chosen by the girls who are with the bad boys,I think it's because they get burned out on the bad boys and see that they need a nice guy. So at some point the girls who want the bad boy realize they need a nice guy,see the want v.s. the need part? Go for the older women,you say your 19 so go after the 25 year old "women" who don't deal with drama.
Don't worry, in the end, the nice guys win. Those who choose the bad partners either end up unhappy are into self abuse.
Sounds corny, but its true.
You are only 19, go to school, or something to improve yourself. This will attract a nice mate.
That's true... I agree and I'm going to school and looking for every possible way to improve myself so in the end, I hope things work out.
The truth of the matter is women prefer that bad guys more to the good guys. FACT. I'm a nice guy but it has got me nowhere. The arseholes pull women, the nice guys are there for being a shoulder to cry on when the bad guys hurt them. So often I got "oh you'll find a nice girl" from girls. That's cos they all prefer idiots and not us nice guys, bu in reality we are really the idiots for sucking up to these girls. Don't change from being a nice guy, just do not let any girl use you as a doormat or a shoulder to cry on, be cold at times, never be desperate, never reply back to her texts or emails straight away (ignoring helps a lot as well), show other girls attention, soon you;ll be having girls without being an arsehole.
And remember, only a small minorty of women like clean cut nice guys, most prefer a bad guy.
"And remember, only a small minorty of women like clean cut nice guys, most prefer a bad guy."
I wouldn't necessarily say 'bad'; I would say 'rugged' or 'rough around the edges'.
Actually, I'm one of those people that get turn off by the bad boys. I think that it just pathetic when someone try to be cool by smoking or drinking. I don't believe in SMART people, or nerds whatever you call it are ugly. I meant of course I don't like boys that's super duper ugly but I WILL NEVER EVER go out with some low life losers.
Deep in our hearts... we want the good guys... but the bad guys... damn... they're f***ing hot, and got everything. The nerds... they're just there...
We do like and want the nerds... but we're just being stupid... we know these type of guys suck. :D
Hey, I'm 16, never had a gf, never kissed, etc. Unfortunately, in this case I don't think that it's that we're undesirable at all, but we're not for girls our age; we're actually too mature for them.
I think you may be right! lol
I think you may be right in that you are too mature for the types of girls you are going for.
There are probably some very cute, super bright, sweet, low-key girls out there noticing both of you, who neither of you are giving the time of day to. And I assure you they are wondering why guys like you always go for brainless bimbo barbie dolls who treat you like crap or blow you off?
I do not want a bad guy, I am completely turned off by the bad guys. I want no part in a guy who does drugs, steals,treats me like garbage.. etc.
Is it possible you are trying to get with the wrong type of girls? Its not that we want bad guys, we actually just want a guy that will speak his mind, not be a pushover or smother us We need a guy that won't take our bs, drool all over us or follow us like a puppy, we need a challenge. But that in no way means a druggy/loser/criminal/ahole.
This is an awesome answer I think. How can a guy be more of a challenge?
HA! The age old question. Girls do NOT like bad guys. What person would want someone that treats them like crap and slaps them around (in extreme case). It not the "bad guy" in and of himself it is the set of attributes he embodies and how they are naturally attractive to women.
He is:
Confident: He is never flustered, never afraid.
Adventurous: Always being cool and doing risky exciting thing.
Not needy: He doesn't call you all the time and doesn't latch himself to you like a wussy.
He is decisive: He makes decisions, leads his social grouping.
Mysterious: Probably doesn't give all of himself...and we all know women love to "figure" people out.
Funny: Probably teases a lot
These attributes are often part and parcel of a "bad guy" amidst the abusive tendencies. But guess what? Plenty of good guys out there have the same tendencies but respect women.
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I have a boyfriend that is the nice guy, who I plan on marrying.
I have an ex boyfriend who is the bad boy. In every way. I hate him so much that I can't stop thinking of him. He knows how to push my buttons and he knows how to hurt me. He also knows that the more he hurts me, the more I just want to have angry sex with him. He's basically the devil. I want to kill him, yet I want to be with him. Its the relationship that will never work, yet the feelings that will never leave. (Yes, my boyfriend knows about this.)
The nice guys win in the long run... He's the one that gets to have me for the rest of his life.
I can't wait for the bad boy in my life to feel half the pain he makes me feel.
I know it stinks. My boyfriend was the nice guy without a girlfriend for 22 years, until I met him.
It's the bad boys that teach girls to really appreciate the nice guys.
So your current nice guy boyfriend knows that your old bad boyboyfriend. still pushes yourbutton and you want to have angry sex with hiim? . wow ... badboys win even after they ditch the girl ..... sh*t all men would be bad boys .
When you say your feelings for your ex will never leave...does this mean you don't really WANT to be with your current boyfriend, but still stick around for financial security?
I'm guilty of liking bad boys. And I'll tell you why:
They keep me on edge. They're adventurous and spontaneous. I never know how they'll act or what they're going to do. They're a sort of mystery. I'd say the best part is that they're a challenge. And I for one, enjoy a good challenge.
I'm not saying that I've never liked a good guy. I've liked a very good guy before, but lost soon interest. He wasn't ugly- he was really cute. It's just he was too predictable for me.
He got boring. basically. its like sex. if you don't try new things in sex it gets boring and you don't "go" as easily with the same moves anymore. like how they keep having to come up with new medicines cause if you use the same one over and over the virus/bug gets used to it and he medicine doesn't work anymore
trying not to sounds like a boring old woman, I think a lot of the time it is an age thing.
There's this rumour going around that bad boys are more exciting. Of course you know that's not true, but girls have to suffer a few bad boys before they realise that!.
Carry on being a nice guy and you will strike gold in the end. :o)
aww firstly don't feel that way because it can lower your self-esteem. If you're happy then others are happy. I would say try t o keep yourself happy. Be confident, believe me that helps a lot. Try to focus on yourself, your goals, your career. One day an angel will walk into your life and be that baby girl of your dreams. Best of Luck!
yes I agree with some of the answers here.. the key is balance.. no one wants to be smothered and no one wants to be totally ignored.. a guy who can be caring and challenging.. a guy who can disagree and stick to his opinion and a guy who can support the woman's decision.. that is what most women look for.
Yesyesyes
idk about other girls but for me a "bad boy" is generally more dominant in a relationship and he tends to take charge more often. a nice guy isn't a bad choice either I just tend to like my guy to take charge and be strong and the "bad boy" feels more that way than the nice guy.
I prefer the good guys...although I've never had a bf, I'm still waiting and hoping that one day ill find one.
But to answer your question, not all girls like the bad boy type...sometimes that's all theyre handed. but then again you have other girls that want a NICE guy & yet he's with the BAD girl...
Totally true...i like the bad girls...and I'm considered a good guy...once was a bad guy...cleaned up my act...
Too bad it seems like you rarely see the good girls finding a good guy...and viceversa with the guy....
I don't like bad boys, but I see their appeal. They seem confident, exciting, & strong. I prefer respect over all these though, so that is why I don't go for this. I prefer a guy to be a good person instead of exciting me, I can excite myself, but I can't give myself companionship.