He still uses the app. It says when he was last online. I only use it to see that. I have brought this up to him before, he tries his hardest to make me believe he isn't using it to try get on anyone and hook up. he says he just likes to make conversation. but its a site to meet girls and guys.. not usually for just friends. he says he will show me his connections and messages when i next see him. but im worried hell delete them.
i am a very anxious person and he's trying to handle that. i just dont get why he needs to. I know he tries hard to make me believe. but is he just lying because he knows ill believe it.
when i do believe him. somehow I can't fully,
do you think you can just be friends on sites like that. He says he hasn't talked to anyone on there like he did with me when we first met on there 4 months ago. I am always worried he's meeting with someone. but its probably all in my head.
Most Helpful Guy
This is not okay... I met my girlfriend on tinder, we became official almost two months later, but it turns out we had been exclusive since our second date lol I deactivated my account when we became official and I looked when she was last online, it was the day before our first date...
If that makes you feel uncomfortable and he respects you, he would stop, I dont think that is a crazy request, for your boyfriend to not be flirting via a hook up app, even if he never cheats, that can be emotional cheating with flirting.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
i couldn't accept my boyfriend using such an app while he is with me. To me it is obvious that he wants to keep options open. And I also think many guys get away with what their girl lets them get away with. I understand you are insecure and maybe you are afraid to "forbid" him to use the app, but it really isn't respectful! And he should stop, especially if he sees it is hurting you!
My advice would be to tell him in a calm and secure way that you are not ok with it and that you think he should stop. If he starts defending his behaviour just tell him again it is not right and if he doesn't want to change his behaviour, say: alright! .. And give him the cold shoulder, but not in a way like you are hurt, but as if you made a decision in your mind (like as if you decided to do the same ad he). Don't let him know what you are thinking... It might make him wonder why its "alright" all of a sudden and start thinking. If you beg him to stop and whine he'll just have you right were he wants. Act like a woman that deserves respect and hopefully it will make him respect you more! Good luck dear!0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE