Why do you girls wait until the last minute to cancel?

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This happens all the time. 9 times out of 10 they wait until about an hour beforehand to cancel. This is usually when i'm getting ready and fixing to go pick them up within 20 minutes or so. This is something that has happened probably 20 times in the last year or so with all different girls. A friend even set me up with her friend and she cancelled. I wonder when she was planning to let me know, glad I texted her so now at least I can go do something else today.

Dipsy · Accepted Answer

Send them a message to ask why exactly they cancelled the date. Also add that you're just wondering this, because you'd like to know how women think etc. (so it won't make it personal etc etc).
To be honest, I find it disrespectful/weird to cancel on last moment, you shouldn't want those women anyway, they most don't care about other people, so don't feel bad. However if she had something urgent, then it's a different story, but then she would have said that.

But ask them anyway! It gives you a lot of insight :) It doesn't hurt asking though, because they don't really want to go on a date anyway.

Mesonfielde · Accepted Answer

I think they consider it, and then go for "nope" They obviously don't care beyond that point, so it's reasonable that you don't reply. They don't seem to seek you out either, so it's all for the best.

aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

I consider it very rude when people do this. I have always tried to avoid doing this and have never done it and wouldn't unless it was an unavoidable emergency. Actually, my boyfriend and I were trying to set up one of our friends with a girl we knew, and she did the exact same thing to him. Her excuse was that she had a birthday party to go to. We had planned our double date a week in advance and she cancelled about an hour before because she would rather attend a birthday party. We were all infuriated at her.

ninetynine · Accepted Answer

Are you meeting most of these girls online? A lot of people online flake for different reasons - they're nervous and changed their mind about meeting; they don't feel like meeting anymore, and don't feel an obligation to stick to the plan because of the anonymity factor; or they met someone else.

That sucks that this keeps happening to you. It's no fun when someone cancels plans, especially when he or she does it last minute without having a legitimate excuse.

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

Honestly I think it's just cold feet. It's a douchey thing to do but unfortunately people are inconsiderate at times.

pr3ttybr0wn · Answer

That's pretty disrespectful. My guess is that they were iffy about going on a date with you, they probably double booked with someone else and had you as a last resort and then went with the other guy instead.

Or they heArd a rumor about you at the last minute or found something out they didn't like. Or you said something they found distasteful right before.

justbanANNAz · Answer

well that's not very nice =/ I don't know why someone would wait till that late to cancel. that being said, not all girls are like this #generalisation491 there are girls who probably just don't consider that while she's realising she can't make it, you're in your home getting ready... u might wanna establish from when u guys set up the date, that if she can't make it, to give u a bit of an earlier notice. she should understand.
sorry u had to go through that.

Araya · Answer

1) Not all women do this.

2) Depends on the woman. There are many reasons. She might not have wanted to go out with you or something truly did come up. Maybe she was trying to get out of something that happened or maybe she was about to text you.

Life can throw curveballs when least expected.

redeyemindtricks · Answer

Boys who always have a Plan B ready to go are sexy.

Srsly. "That's alright, I can totally use that time to ______" -- now those are some hot, hot words to hear rollin off yr tongue.

Even if "____" is, like, taking a nap.

thatkaruguy · Answer

cause 70% of women are flakes. either she found a better option, got contacted by an ex, or just didn't feel like it

Heyyakkk · Answer

They are all weenies and you have a bad streak of luck.
I mean, yeah going on dates is nerve wrecking but damn they should sack up and just get it over with.

Sorry about your experiences. Maybe you are targeting specific type of girls?

James0 · Answer

It's not the cancelING that bugs me but them not telling me at all or like you said last minute without any apologize and rescheduling

CDyer · Answer

I can't speak for everybody but personally it's an anxiety thing for me!

tyber1 · Answer

Because they're not thinking of anyone but themselves.

Octavius · Answer

They're doing it to test you and see how far they can push you. Scrap them when they do that stuff.

YingKim · Answer

I don't wait until the last minute. I try be considerate ^^

orphan · Answer

when i'd do that it was because i'd hope she'd cancel before me.. thus i wouldn't feel bad.

Homebakedcookies · Answer

It sounds to me like you are their Plan B, if Plan A doesn't work out. I'm sorry to hear it bro.

Asshole01 · Answer

If a girl is canceling on you then she don't like you lol🙈😃😂😂

DarkHumorRUs · Answer

Because that means they don't wanna go.

FlutteringFeelings · Answer

Cause we can. Simple. 😂😂

lacorine197 · Answer

I hate when people do that

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