Is it normal that she never initiate conversations?

[Anonymous]

Hello, I went on a first date with my crush and while ago. Since we've been quite busy lately, we couldn't make up a second date, yet. Thus, we will surely schedule it soon as soon as both of us are available.

Nevertheless, I've been the one to initiate conversations via text. Despite being responsive to my messages, she never initiated any kind of message such as "hi" or anything else.

Do you think that she's not interested anymore?

Kindly provide some feedbacks, thank you

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Despite the fact that I already received precious feedbacks, I would like to know what do you think.

Kindly vote, and comment. Thank you.

[Razzle-Bedazzle]

I always assume people who never initiate contact with me feel indifferent towards me , and are only responding out of politeness. Stop initiating contact to see if she will.

[Asker]

Thank you for your reply.

I thought about it, and believe that what you said is unfortunately true. I was used to contact her once a week, and thus won't text her this week and see if she reaches out by herself.
Otherwise, it will be time to move on I think.

[Razzle-Bedazzle]

Yeah I'd do the same. Stop contacting her. If she cares , she'll notice and contact you. If not, then you'll know where you stand with her. You can't be the only one making the effort

[Hungry_Shark]

Trust me dude,
women do 70 - 80 % of initiating conversation if they have a high level of interest in you and she won't be able to walk away from u

[Asker]

Thank you for your answer.

I will trust you on that one, because I'm not into women where I have to be the one to do all the effort to make it work.
Thus, I believe I should start to move on unfortunately.

[Hungry_Shark]

Look this is what u have to do on a date -
Let her do 80 % of talking, u should give as little info about yourself and be mysterious and u have to take as much info of her as possible,
be humorous and if she asks u anything, be humorous and ask counter question, u should want her leaving more, dont be an open book,
and always end your dates with sex, then only it is called DATING , otherwise you are just friends,.
However since its your first date, u must have gone for kiss.
As for now , you should send her a message like -
"Hey, i would love to see you, when r u free to get together?" thats it, send this message to her and u must absolutely wait, if she doesn't reply, wait 2 weeks and send the same mssage again, if she doesn't reply again,
delete her number and move on.

[Asker]

Thank you for your precious advices.

I've never been in a relationship, and find it really difficult to become close to women now. Surely, it will become harder as I grow older and mainly if I do not gain some experience in this field.

I went on a coffee date with this girl, we talked. I really don't know how the date went, since I have no clues on what to look for. After the date, she brought up something we discussed and from there we chatted a little.

I haven't been able to see her this month, because she was busy in her final exams. Now she's done with it, nevertheless I tried to text her once a week on average in order to be as supportive as I can. Maybe I did it wrong, and shouldn't have done that. As I horribly lack of experience, I have a lot to learn.

On the first date, when we left. I gave her a kiss on the cheek, which is nothing much. Basically, we give a kiss on the cheek to anyone that we can consider as friends or family.

[Asker]

I just didn't have the courage to kiss her, call me a coward if you want. It was damn so hard for me. I don't know if I should try by asking her out for a second date or move on in order to avoid being hurt further.

[Hungry_Shark]

I was same like u, but i learnt this stuff, and im telling u all of what i have learnt...
If on a date, when she is playing with her hair or stuff, u need to say "u need to get it over with and come here and kiss me", if u go for a kiss, and she gives u a cheek, thats it, blow her off.
She ain't romantically into u if she gives u cheek,.
On a date, wait for her to touch u... when she brushes against u or bump into u, then u touch her or hold her hand, after few seconds she will let go of your hand, if she lets go off your hand let her go..
after 2-3 minutes , she will rub against u and then u can escalante further touching... that show seduction works,

[Hungry_Shark]

Keep hesitating and you will see , some other ugly looking dude will take her right beneath your nose,
You have no idea how many women dumped me because of my wussy like behaviour,
Be a man bro... trust me...
she will love u if u give her your dick,
She will dump you if you be a nice guy and dont give her your dick, you will be firmly placed in friendzone

[Asker]

Too bad that I wasn't able to contact you sooner, the first date would have went way better I think.

I noticed that when we were leaving the coffee shop she was close to me, but didn't do anything about it. I'm so slow at understanding things, mainly when it comes to the love life unfortunately.

I also realized that I didn't learn much about her, and therefore could not plan a second date to a place where she likes, if there is a second date eventually. All what I learned is her future career, she likes to travel, she likes make up, she has a phobia related to the sea and that's it, and that is going abroad for a wedding...

I guess that despite I failed this time, I might use this to make better dates in the futures.

[Asker]

Let me ask you a question, what should I do now?

I believe that you have more experience that I do, obviously. Thus, I would appreciate that you tell me what to do now. :)

[Hungry_Shark]

Women want you to be the leader, sex has to be your fault.
And dude, women are extremely quick in rejecting guys because they know which guys get it or which guys dont get it.

If a woman bumps into u or brushes past against u, and u dont touch her back
THATS IT - you're OUT
because, either u are a coward or u dont have confidence or u dont know how to flirt with beautiful women.
You see? you snooze you lose... make your move its pretty simple bro, she will love the shit out of u

[Hungry_Shark]

What you should do now? As i said - Just text her like this -

"Hey I would love to meet you, when are you free?" , then you will shup up and won't text again.
If she replies you, immediately make a date, time and place and get off the phone as soon as possible and dont get into texting or calling, phone should be used to just to make dates and not to be her therapist.

If she doesn't reply, text the same message again after 2 weeks, if she doesn't reply even then,
just assume that u have lowered her interest below 50 % , and now u have no chance with her.

[Asker]

Alright then, I will do as you suggested.

Since I learned so little during our first date, where should I take her for the second date?

[Hungry_Shark]

Coffee is fine for 1st date as u get to know each other,
Second date should be something fun, maybe Pool, or skating anything that u can have fun together.
Have logistics for sex lined up...
When she bumps into u touch her back, escalate, and when u are kissing and making out heavy ,
ask her "hey , lets go somewhere private?" and she will most likely say "yes"
Go to a hotel room, which u should have arranged previously and go and have sex with her.
and u will see , she will herself say "i love you" to you, its pretty simple

[Asker]

Thank you for these precious advices, you really show me the path to follow.

By the way, she said on our first date that she's not into sports, should we go for a bowling game or wouldn't it be right?

Looking forward to what you think :)

[Hungry_Shark]

BOWLING is great, any place where u can laugh and have fun,
and she can touch u and then u can escalate to kissing and pressing her boobs and ass
Youu get it, ? ;)
BEST of luck for your indoor olympics ;)

[Asker]

Thank you for your support, I really appreciate it ! :)

[Anonymous]

if a girl never initiates she isn't interested.

[Asker]

Thank you for your feedback.

I understand this situation, however when I do text her she is responsive. When I tell her what I did today, she asks questions. She doesn't answer with one word response most of the time.

[Opinion Owner]

Just likes attention and nothing more.

[Opinion Owner]

or as the girl said being polite.

[Asker]

Alright, thank you for this information :)

[Anonymous]

she is not interested