I know I personally reset my accounts every now and again. Sometimes people change their mind, or I've changed mine on people I've swiped a different way on.
I get way more results doing that, so I just reset every other week or so. If the people I'm matched up with don't get around to exchanging numbers with, it's not likely to go somewhere anyway.
Just sex. Im sure at some point he want a relationship with someone. Just not in this instance for sure
Maybe he hasn’t thought of it. Honestly I’d unmatch him, since I’m given the impression he only wanted sex anyway.
Oh I mean maybe he hasn’t thought to unmatch you
Yeah, what Presto said, unfortunately :-/
@Presto it was a recording a few days after our fourth date not sure if it was pocket dial or not. It was just a weird convo 5 min worth with her completely swooning him and saying how smart he is because he's a doctor. I tell him about this is his response "Maybe you shouldn't date guys who leave their fucking phones unlocked, if you have an unlocked phone you obviously have nothing going for you that is worth protecting". What does hat even mean
I skimmed through this lol, but Ally, girl, he just isn’t that into you, and texting him at this juncture will seem desperate. Who knows what his motives are, but trying to text him bc you miss him or want closure, is a bad idea. I feel like you wanna make up for not fucking him, and do it so he’ll stick around. Don’t feel bad for your choice. He’s a dick, and you’re lucky to have seen this before letting him “in”. Move on.
She’s looking for closure, because she’s feeling regretful of not having sex with him. Ally, be grateful you dodged a situation that could’ve been really shitty. This guy was trying finesse you/butter you up, to his ultimate goal of having sex. Are all guys like that? Absolutely not. But it’s so obvious he’s one track minded by the way he’s ghosting you for not giving up the Cookie. The only thing you did was say no, and that’s okay! Imagine if you had fucked him, 9/10 he still would’ve left bc that’s all he wants. Be grateful for dodging a bullet and stop giving this guy so much credit for being halfway decent.
Getting ghosted really sucks, but it happens girl. Please move on from this, and find closure in the fact that you hung onto your morals.
Of course we here at GaG are here to help, but I feel like this is beating a dead horse. Presto and I keep reiterating the same thing, and it’s as if you don’t want to understand. I’ve had friends like you that sometimes just have to learn the hard way. They wouldn’t be satisfied with anything being said until they learn on their own. So if that’s you Ally, then by all means, hit him up. I mean no offense, I just don’t know what else we can say, you seem adamant on your thought process.
I know I shouldn't text him everyone says I shouldn't but he's on my mind. What would I even text him? I just hate rejection. But I totally get what your saying and totally appreciative. It's funny cause he doesn't even look or act like a stereotypical player he works and plays video games all day that's why I'm shocked by his behaviour.
I’m glad we can help, but it just doesn’t seem like you’re really transferring our responses, as you keep asking the same thing :-/ rejection sucks, for anyone, but you shouldn’t be taking this as such a big blow. Why he left had nothing to do with your race or looks, it had nothing to do with the connection. He just wasn’t that into you, and you didn’t give him what he was working for, so he left. I don't know how much clearer we can make that for you, Love...
He was trying to butter you up, as I said lol. This was all build up, him working towards the sex, and when you wouldn’t do it, he moved on, to someone who would give it up. That’s why we are saying you should be glad you dodged a bullet, not sulk. This is not a loss.
The right guy will come along eventually, and he will appreciate every part of you.
I’ve been in your shoes and it definitely sucks to be ghosted like that. But honestly, he’s not worth anymore thought or negative feelings. You did nothing wrong, he’s just clearly at a juncture in his life where he wants to fool around. I’m glad you weren’t another victim, and said no. You can do so much better..
I agree with Presto. You’re spending way too much time focusing on what this guy is doing, and it’ll drive you crazy. Who cares how quickly he moves on to the next girl, you hardly knew him and dodged a major bullet. Delete him and move on.
I turned my notifications off hahah
@Presto thanks guys I know you're right. I keep thinking what is he doing is he on the app right now why was he on so actively this week on the app but wasn't on last night or today? I just hate how he can find someone so quickly probably to sleep with me. MAybe it's jealously I dunno. I also hate the voicemail situation. It was straight out of a movie. Was it intentional or not? And what's with that ambiguous text he sent insulting himself
Exactly what Presto said, he’s on there looking for ass. I understand that feeling when you’re watching someone else move on to a relationship while you’re still single, etc, but this man isn’t a loss. Certainly not someone to let consume your time watching all his moves. Let it go.
@Presto you both are right. But why could he just be like my bad with the voicemail and move on not some ambiguous message? It's funny how you can't judge a player by looks because if you saw him you'd think he's pretty nerdy he just works and plays video games a lot. It's not watching him go to another relationship it's just going on to another girl
You shouldn’t watch him at all. Okay, you guys had a couple dates and it wasn’t a good match. At least you can walk away with your hands clean. But no more obsessing over the situation, girl.
I don't watch him lol. I mean on bumble the dating app you can tell when someone was active within the last 4 hours. I also maybe got my hopes up cause after the first date we realized there was a connection. My parents and his aunt and uncle live on the same street and my brother and his cousin were old high school friend
Ohh okay. I’m not familiar with bumble. I never bother with try to meet a guy online anymore, because all of my experiences
Have sucked and it’s was nothing but guys that I was left wondering who the hell raised them lol. I learned that sometimes people just do dumb shit for no reason. Even go on several dates with you, make you think things are going well, then just disappear without a word, as I’ve had it happen too. It’s upsetting and confusing, but not worth getting hurt over.
He’s not a loss, he really isn’t, try not to put anymore thought into the “why” and let it go.
Question, why do you still like this guy so much? And are having a hard time letting go? Okay, you had a few dates and good chemistry, but if I were in your shoes, I’d be so over him after what he did. Yeah, he went about ending things the wrong way, via the voicemail, but that would make me dislike him all the more.
Lol @ Presto😂 but don’t get your hopes up Ally. I understand how much it sucks to be ghosted, but please don’t I’ve him the privilege of his bullshit equating to a breakup. There are so many more men out there and you will click again. Maybe next time don’t dive in so quickly, be cautious with your heart before you start giving it away. And no, you’re absolutely not lame for having morals. Do you think it would have been better to give up the Cookie? No, bc he’s shown his true colors and he would’ve left you anyway. He just wants to have sex, ultimately.
I guess part of me thinks if I slept with him he'd still be around. I wasn't like in love with him but there was a good physical attraction and I liked the attention. I'm giving him too much power over my emotions. Are you saying it's bad I made out with him and got naked in front of him?
I agree with Presto, stop it. Stop rehashing everything over this guy and move on girl. If you slept with him, he still would’ve left, bc he wasn’t interested in you in that way. If he was, no sex so soon wouldn’t have been a deal breaker.
Honestly Ally, you have to learn the your worth. Because if you believe that you are amazing, you won’t accept someone like him, or beat yourself up for him leaving. Let it go.
Anyway, we’re really deep into this topic, and I don't know how much more I can say, I still feel as though you’re adamant about your thought process. I really hope you decide to move on from this guy, and not let the situation hurt you any further.
@Presto I do think I have a lot to offer and I do believe that I am smart pretty funny good family have my shit together- even if he said it just to get into bed with me I feel those qualities of myself are true. It's just a mind game he said those qualities like they weren't true when multiple people have told me they are
You don’t need his or anyone’s validation or compliments, to make you feel good. Yes, he played a mind game to try and get what he wanted. It sucks but you have to stop dwelling. Be proud of yourself.
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