Am I too weak to get a girl?

[Anonymous]

I am only 5'9'' and around 140-145 lbs. I am not too weak for my size (I can do 10-15 pullups) and I am physically fit, but since I am so small and pathetic, I am weak compared to tall big guys. I feel like that's the reason girls don't like me. Those few girls who liked me were very petite (short and skinny), so I think I am only left with a very small percentage of girls who would agree to date me. That was a few years ago, now most girls and guys are bigger and I am too small.

For most girls I am the size of a child and not a real man. I wish I could work out a lot and become muscular, but I don't have time for this because of my studies.

So should I just forget about girls since I won't get any?

And before you say to just lower my standards and date a fat girl, I would say that it's just a myth that they like skinny guys or that they are easy. If that was true I would happily take a fat girl and would not complain here. But they are only attracted to either guys who are fat like them or guys who are fit.

Yes, you should just forget about girls, you are too pathetic.

No, there is hope for you.

You should just end this all, there's is not purpose in your life.

[Anonymous]

It's not because of your size that no girl wants to date you (you are average for that matter in height...), it's because of your "let's throw me a pity party" attitude... There's always someone that finds you attractive if you aren't obese/underweight and keep yourself clean, so just change your attitude and you will see improvments.

[Asker]

I never pity myself when I am our there. I share these thoughts only on the Internet.

[Opinion Owner]

But do you shy away from girls just because you feel you aren't "worthy" of their attention? Or do you act more confident?

[Asker]

I am confident when it comes to common interactions, but shy when it comes to romantic ones. Yeah, I don't really think I am worthy even when a girl shows signs of liking me.

[Opinion Owner]

See? This is your problem! I know it's hard, but you have to stop this feeling and you have to realise that you deserve love.

[alice7702]

If you really wanna u can take time to work out. So dont bullshit. U dont have to go to gym. U can even work out at home for 30 min. ALWAYS better than nothing. Dont put it on ur school work. I can find time being in school u can too. U just gotta want it boy

[Asker]

Doing a couple pushups or pullups 30 minutes a day is not a work out. You need to pump real iron to become strong.

[alice7702]

Doing 30 min a day is better than nothing

[Asker]

I do pull ups everyday. This won't make me strong.

[alice7702]

Well then u need to find time in the weekend or something. If u want to be strong. Else dont complain

[CholoSwag69]

False you can become ripped without weights. Look up calisthenics I did calisthenics for a year before hitting the gym because I was too embarrassed to go to the gym back then

[cashusjaxkson]

I literally prefer skinny, nerdy, twiggy looking guys. You're fine

[Asker]

Is it you on your avatar? If yest, then you are gorgeous. You prefer skinny guys even if you are curvy?

[cashusjaxkson]

That's me :) thanks. I prefer skinny men.

[Asker]

What do you like in them? And does it bother you if they are skinnier than you?

[Blackfists]

You mentioned there were a few girls that liked you. That should be enough. Having baseless ambitions won't get you anywhere. It's exactly as you said... You can't dedicate time to build a body. So when someone does it, he needs to reap rewards for it too, don't you think?

[IrishLad_IRL]

dont lose hope but maybe u need to be realistic and go for the tiny girls that you mention. anyone is better than no1.

[Asker]

There are very few tiny girls left. It seems like they all grew and became big and tall. And still there's great competition for those tiny girls.

[DriverSolus]

You know what girls don't like? A wiener. So grow a set and stop playing the pity me i'm only slightly over the average average. Work out if you think your a wuss. Damn man, or buy a motorcycle. Women love motorcycles!

[Asker]

@DriverSolus I wrote in my post that I can't work out seriously because I don't have enough time.

[DriverSolus]

You don't have 10 minuets a day to crank out some pushups? really? REALLY? If that's the case then you don't have time to worry about girls anyways. So what's the issue?

[Asker]

@DriverSolus Pushups, are you kidding? In order to become really strong you need to pump some serious iron.

[shepardmaddison]

I am just half an inch taller than you and weigh 130 lbs... But I think the most important thing is personality, and of course not being ugly. Just be open, funny, etc.
Are the girls in your area taller/bigger than you?

[DriverSolus]

your above the average in height. So whats the problem?

[Asker]

5'9'' is manlet tier, I feel short most of the time. I need to gain a few inches and lots of pounds of muscle to become attractive to girls.

[GoddessShosanna]

At 5'9, it is massively over. 5'10 is the absolute minimum to be considered a man. Anything less will just result in a "life" of failure, humiliation, rejection and loneliness. This is the law of nature, the way of the world.

[UsernameMadness]

Not every girl is wanting to date Andre the Giant. You'll do okay.

[kevinaskmenow]

Are you trying to get into olympics?