Do good looking people know they're attractive?

[Solanaceae]

The popular girls always seem to know that guys want to date them, they look like Barbie dolls, and they seem to own it. Same for the popular guys. Is it for every attractive person?

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I asking everyone, the people who think they're attractive and the people who don't. I wouldn't be asking if I knew the answer haha <3 And I don''t know because I'm not good looking.

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+1 y

The photo that they’d put is actually a good respresentation of what a Barbie looks like. That’s a how the girls in my school do their makeup; thick and cakey. i think the girl in the photo is pretty, but she’s look better if she didn’t try too hard. Does this show that she thinks she’s uglier than she actually is and is trying to cover up?

[Quintessence]

I feel like popularity correlates more with confidence and extroversion than it does with physical attractiveness. Thinking back to my grade school days, there were a number of popular kids that I didn't think were physically attractive at all. Not every famous actor/actress is super attractive either; in fact, some of them are well below average. Now, if you're confident, outgoing, AND attractive... well, that puts you at the top of the food chain, and those are the people that get the status of 'representative' of what it means to be popular. And while being attractive certainly HELPS you be confident and outgoing, being attractive ALONE... I don't think that's enough.

As to whether someone can be attractive and unaware of it, I believe they can, but it's far more likely to happen if they're closer to average attractiveness than some godly level of attractiveness. If they're what most people would consider a 7/10, it's possible that they might see themselves as 5/10. But if they're a 9+/10, they probably know it, unless they live some sort of reclusive lifestyle and don't get much interaction with different people. I also men are more likely to be unaware, as we still live in a culture where men are the initiators of romantic interaction, and so they tend to be more vocal and straightforward about complimenting women. Women also tend to compliment each other on their physical appearance more than men do.

[oOsecret_starlandsOo]

Absolutely. You start to realize it through direct acknowledgments or societal cues-like always being able to turn heads when you go anywhere.

Friends are a good indication- I've been asked numerous times to "dress down," or not be able to hang at certain times with girlfriends because their crush or something would be there.

Yea it seems rude but when your friend's are constantly undermined by your beauty, and their dang boyfriends keep confessing their hidden attraction about you, you can see why that happens.

I would never be so disloyal to even slightly flirt, let alone cheat with any of my friends dudes-lol I call them bro and keep convo to a bare minimum. But it's assumed since you're hot that your lusty and get some high out of being the taken guys secret desire, so your friend's get all weird.

No such thing as dude buddies, borderline impossible, and I prefer masculine oriented outings and company due to having strong male figures in my life. I like to cook and be hospitable to my friends naturally, but to the guys tell me it's very sexy and wife-like. So instead of having guy friends, I have multiple "husbands" I don't kiss or sleep with lol

Unfortunately when we go out, I have to keep distant or other women think I'm their really hot girlfriend and won't flirt or approach them.

Yep, so you're definitely aware. What matters is how you let it define you.

[Anonymous]

I don't think attractive people know they are attractive. People who are popular (thus popular with the opposite sex as well) tend to think they are attractive because of that reason, which isn't always true. Think of someone who was ugly and was bullied for it as a child and grows up to be really good looking and because of fear for being ridiculed, they stay shy or quiet. They may be attractive, but won't have succes with the opposite sex and will think that they are unattractive. On the other hand, a more sociable average person has more options, so they think they are more attractive.

[anoopranger03]

Guess I qualify for the ugly kid.

[curiousnorway]

I knows a person who looks like Ruby Rose. She don't wear any makeup, but she wears cool clothing and is the minority who actually suits short hair among girls. Both I and other people thinks she's very pretty. She however don't see herself as pretty and complains over that she looks plain, that she needs to lose weight and that she don't want candy from anyone [friends] because she don't want to gain weight. When her friends tell her she's beautiful she's glad to hear it, but gives signals that she don't believe in it. It's like she don't know it and is very confused.

I've also met other people I finds good looking that don't know it and I've heard about celebrities that says they don't find themselves good looking. So from my experience people knows if they're popular or not, but not everybody knows people finds them nice looking and not all of them finds themselves good looking. I guess people perceive themselves a lot differently than what other people do. It's common for people regardless of how they looks to not be satisfied with how they looks like and be a bit insecure. Popular people may not be insecure about other things, but about looks, yes, many are insecure from what I've heard. But beauty is subjective, so it plays a role too.

So long story short: No. Not every good looking people knows they're good looking and not all of them think they're.

[MrOracle]

The majority of them know full well, but some have self-esteem issues and can't accept that they are attractive. Usually a parent or someone else important when they were younger telling them that they were ugly, etc.

Some attractive people also try to pretend that they don't know, and that being attractive isn't important, but that is usually false modesty.

[TheChocolateWriter]

Of a bunch of people online

[MrOracle]

@TheChocolateWriter Yes, but I've encountered it in the real world too sometimes. It's just a lot more obvious in real life that it's either fake OR that there are self-esteem issues at work.

[curiousnorway]

Even if parents tells them they're pretty many don't believe it because they thinks every parents says it to their children if they loves them.

[TheChocolateWriter]

My parents tell me I'm pretty.
I don't believe it because they are family and the rest of the world disagrees with them.

[curiousnorway]

@TheChocolateWriter, I don't believe it either if my closest family members says so because it's a thing parents who loves their children says regardless of how they looks like.

[TheChocolateWriter]

Or they are supposed to.
But yes, it's dumb to think there is no bias in calling your own child pretty or handsome or adorable.
Even when, subconsciously, they know they aren't

[ManOnFire]

This is probably true. A lot of women who genuinely know they're attractive let it go to their heads, and even if one guy doesn't think she looks good she still doesn't care because she's gotten enough feedback from other ones to support her ego.

[lumos]

But that’s the thing, outer feedback means close to nothing if you don’t have inner acceptance. If you don’t have inner acceptance, you’re less likely to believe other people’s compliments, even if the majority of the things they hear are good. And to some people, hearing just one negative comment shatters their ego and it becomes the only thing they can think about. Even if they have tons of compliments that outweigh that one bad comment. Insecurity is a pretty big monster to battle with.
I battled with this for a good chunk of my teens, so I would know.

[curiousnorway]

I thinks @lumos is right. I've met people who looks good and looks like celebrities the majority finds beautiful. They still don't see themselves as good looking and seems confused if they gets compliments.

[ManOnFire]

@lumos You are 1,000% right about this.

[jacquesvol]

@lumos Indeed

[Mexicoman101]

I imagine most of them don't, but towards the higher end from like 8-10 out of ten they definitely know it. To the point that they become full of themselves. Attractive women who are like between 5 to 7 (which is most of them) can doubt whether they're attractive at all & those are the ones whom you most need to apply compliments to that are specific to their looks. Very attractive people who know it don't react well to physical compliments, because, they know. There's no reminding them of what greater society already doesn't let them forget. They want to be complimented on their personality, because many of them become conceited & they don't want to think they're just another conceited 10 people hate inside. Ugly women, from 1 to 4, however also cannot be complimented for physical reasons as much for similar reasons. For them, you need to say they're very funny, have a nice personality, or excel at a certain skill like singing or their roles in their chosen career. If you try and call a 2 beautiful, she will assume you are blowing smoke up her ass before trying to put something else up there. They generally want to be told that their lacking in physical beauty is well compensated for in the other pragmatic perks they have to their personalities.

So yes, very hot women totally know it & that's why they're so insufferable so often. They consider everyone of the opposite sex like their pick of the litter.

[babylips14]

Some beautiful girls have very low self-esteem due to past emotional abuse and don't realize how beautiful they truly are. I was bullied throughout my childhood and was called "ugly" by the bullies. I even had an abusive ex who made me feel unattractive by constantly reminding me that other women were prettier than me. It took me a while to regain my confidence and see myself the way most people see me. I get asked out left and right and get up to 100 messages a day online from guys reminding me of how hot/sexy/beautiful I am. But while my self-esteem was very low, I did not realize how attractive I was. I figured that many attractive girls may also not see their own beauty.

[Mexicoman101]

@babylips14 Well yeah, that happens. Because some guys are just cunts who want to have the power to emotionally manipulate women they once thought of as works of art because they feel the pressure of having to deal with their less pretty and more monotanous or confrontative side & aren't adult enough to handle the fact of that being able to work with that is a part of any healthy relationship dynamic. Bullies always have their own reasons though. People aren't original, so they can tend to blend together but you can never quite know exactly what makes a bully conditioned to spite. I've never known what its like to recieve tons of praise or requests from potential partners but I have been the butt of a lot of ridicule and insults, especially from asshole kids bullying me growing up. Sometimes its not even our looks but rather that we don't fit in, & whatever roughness around our edges that they didn't like just became the target. For me, I was a fat kid, so that was what the fixated on.

[Mexicoman101]

@babylips14 from my experience with some girls I tried relationships with, it can be very difficult to get damaged girls to recognize your sincerity when all you want to do is cure them of the plague of ill-logic that convinced them they ever looked anything less than lovely in your eyes. I think trying to 'fix' this about a woman can feel like a futile act, but I feel like that's a large part of why we needed poetry as a species. I'm not like a linguistic Rembrandt but I feel like one of the things that has gotten me the furthest through to damaged girls (& nudes) was my ability to use it to water the dying roots of their self image.

[newbie2015]

Im an artist. Im a solid 9 out if 10. 10 would require a nose and boob job. I'll pass.

Growing up i had no idea. My parents did not once tell me i was pretty, only smart and kind. I found out in my early 30s i was hot bwhaha! I still think my looks are the least interesting thing about me and veer toward men who are smart opposed to chiseled

As an artist i also recognize most people have the potential to be good looking. Its about picking thibgs that play up your positives. I've known some super sexy people who don't fit conventions. But it often takes work. If you have other priorities thats not bad. If i go "put" i wipp brainstorm for about 2 hrs, shop for 1, hair and makeup 2+, nails waxing 1+. That's a lot of effort for a fri night.

So i don't think its as much about knowing as it is about prioritizing. It typically is the first thing that fades though so you deff need a back up!!

[itslizx3]

First off, I looked at your picture once you said "... because im not good looking" and I have to disagree. I think people are able to tell when someone finds them attractive. Whenever I talk to a guy, I can tell right away if they're interested in me. Not that I believe that I'm attractive but I know that many people tend to be attracted but I think its due to my personaility than anything else.

[Solanaceae]

That's a good answer. And you are very pretty

[red324]

I have no idea honestly. Girls are super sneaky about checking a guy out, so I find looking around trying to lock eyes with a girl doesn't always work well. They're more likely to take a peak while sitting down at a table at starbucks and I'm in line not even looking. I've even looked at a girl briefly, then looked off to the side pretending to look at something else only to see who then take a moment to look at me not realizing I can actually see her out of the corner of my eye. lol This happens rarely though.

[Enaya]

I'm one of those late blooming pretty people so yes, I totally see a difference in my treatment. Women hate me now and want to cut me down and men either gape at me or do me favors. Male batistas will offer me free coffee when I go to pay at least once a week, while my female colleagues always try to say passive aggressive stuff. Back when I wasn't pretty or dressy, they all just treated me as a friend.

[Anonymous]

No. I don't think I'm very attractive, like maybe a hard 5 to put a number to it, but people swear differently.

Were I live, amongst other southern bombshells, a lot of people who know me swear I blow them out of the water.

Only reason I can kind of grasp it, is because of how the people around me respond to me, and the "heartbreaker" label that is now tattooed on my forehead.

But at the end of the day, I truly do not think I'm anymore than anyone else in the beauty department.

I'm a construction worker. Like, just a dude with an alright chick face, so no. Man, no.

[kayakkyle46]

Most attractive men now the deal but on the inside know that being attractive will only get you the handshake or nod.
Women however don't wake up beautiful like men do. Not too many "hot" women out there who are all natural and look amazing in a t-shirt. Women have to work at it to look the way they look. Anyone can be attractive if they work at it. How you carry yourself goes a long way.

I'd be lying though if guys don't treat pretty girls differently than normal looking girls. Guys can't get on the same level unless they knock the girl off that high horse of hers.

[AthleticMom]

Surprisingly I've found:
> if they were cosmetically enhanced, e. g. auto accident or rich, then yes all of these KNOW IT
> if they were born with it and compare selves to others in their family, then betting only 1/2 of them believe their mirrors and often find others or their features to die for instead
> some have been beaten up by family/friends w/no taste they have no clue, humble and worship others' beauty... what they hear is "a line" if praised and 1/4 of them finally realize they are special

[TheMoroccangirl]

I've been suffering for years with a low self-esteem, because I got bullied by girls. I didn't know I was perceived attractive until I got modeling recommendations, noticed the behavior of guys towards me, noticed how other girls get treated and studied several things where I discovered that I have certain 'superior' genes which definitely stands out from the average and that I affect a soft spot of guys.
I think I'm beautiful and I've worked on getting my self-esteem higher. I still feel intimidated or even insecure when a good-looking guy is around me even when I notice he likes what he sees on me.

[bluejay5]

Depends, if you see a straight better than 10, she knows. If you see a 7-10 probably not, a 5-7 definitely not. 1-5 can make you believe they are a 5-7 cause they know there flaws acknowledge them, and work around them, they take nothing for granted..

[OhMyLeniency]

Yes most do.
You can look in the mirror and tell, it is clear to me I am what is considered attractive in western society right now, I have features people are getting surgery for. Along with feedback people will give you, not knowing is impossible unless maybe you have no access to social media
and aren't around anyone who does.

[AmitMohammed]

facts----- your lips 😘 Kylie Jenner who? 😂

[OhMyLeniency]

@AmitMohammed ew...

[El_Muffidore]

I personally feel that I'm a 3/10... I've had a few girls say I'm hot or cute. I've had one girl on omegel say I looked like a creep. Onetime a girl caught me staring and said "I don't date ugly guys!". The next day her and her friend drove up to me and said I have a nice butt, even though it's flat? So H2IK 🤷🏼‍♂️ women are weird

[Fitness-Fanatic]

No, because some beautiful women that i know personally, don't see their own beauty. They only notice their own flaws, coz they have low self-esteem. So not ALL beautiful women know they are beautiful regardless of how much attention they receive from guys.

The same goes for some handsome guys too

[soul_lifter]

It's interesting, but I've noticed that in many cases (at least with women), once they realize they are attractive, they start to take advantage of it and will start to almost 'overdo' their attractiveness. For example, they might start wearing more makeup, dressing in somewhat more risqué clothing, acting in more evocative ways... to the point where their natural beauty is lost. I for one am not attracted to the 'barbie' look, because I don't think any woman would look like that without putting in waaay too much effort.

So to answer the question, I think that in general women know when they are attractive. Some will then use that knowledge as an excuse to start behaving/dressing in a certain way, while the one's that I'm personally attracted to will be satisfied knowing they are naturally beauty, and not exploit that. But ultimately, there's no right/wrong way to go about it. It's personal choice.

[slatyb]

Some do, but I have seen many beautiful women who didn't have a clue. My wife has been extremely attractive since she was 14 but never knew it until I told her. Now she looks around at the women her age and thinks "Wow, I look great!" And she does. Now she's more attractive than almost all of the women I was crushing on in my 20s, even the unobtainable film stars and models.

[Dudette2357]

Depends. 'Attractive' is basically saying that they're appealing to you. However, 'beautiful' has a much deeper meaning. Most attractive people that I've met know that they're attractive, but the beautiful ones don't. Like the one direction song... "You don't know your beautifuuull, that's what makes you beautiful". Not a bit fan of 1D but those lyrics tell no lie :)

[Kapakani]

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Indeed we do mate, indeed we do ;)

[shy_girl96]

I think it depends on the personality and lifestyle of the person. Those with rich parents would think they are but those with less fortunate families wouldn't. For instance, I come a from a lower standard family and I don't feel attractive, however almost everyone I meet tells me I am attractive. So I think it just depends

[mishabartun]

Well I can say for myself I get told by everyone that I am good looking and im a "real life supermodel" I can't see it and the only reason why I own it is because people tell me but when I look in the mirror I don't see what people see. So I don't think good looking people know they are good looking tbh they just base it off of what others have told them.