Are there really men who take care of and spoil their girlfriends, out there?

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Is it a fairytale? Or is it a fact that there are "Knights in Shining Armor" who take care of and spoil their woman like queens? If so, I sure would like to find one, just to feel special and find out what I have been missing my whole life. I have always made everyone around me feel special, gone above and beyond for them, and never got the same in return. Meanwhile, I have friends whose boyfriends/fiance's/husbands treat them like queens, give them whatever they want, spend lavishly on them, etc... I know this because they're always flaunting pictures of those things on social media. In the meantime, my ex-boyfriend didn't even want to give me a ride to school one time while my mother was out of the country and I was broke, because in his own words "he wasn't a taxi cab." I was shocked when I heard this coming from him.

Are there still men like this out there?

LesterJester · Accepted Answer

This all might have existed a long time ago and I am sure there are some guys who treat their partners as you describe, but the reality is that you are no more special than your partner.

Why should you be treated like a queen, spoiled rotten with money and gifts and put on a pedestal?

Because you look attractive or because you provide sex?

That was a rhetorical question and I wasn't implying that you do or don't do the above.

In this day & age of equality, why is it expected of men to still treat women as being better than themselves? What do women do that makes their man feel special?

Those friends of yours who post all that crap on social media and showing off how great their relationship is and all the thing's their guy gives them are compensating for something. A good relationship does not need to be advertised to the whole world unless you are trying to convince yourself of something or to remind you of the good things so you can try and forget about the bad.

Seriously, if being showered in money and gifts is what you expect out of a relationship, then you may need to rethink your priorities... And for guys, if you think the only way you can keep the relationship going is by blowing all your money on her, then once again, priorities need to be checked.

A good relationship is when you know you care for each other. It's about listening and helping to solve each others problems together as a team. It's about enjoying each others company. It should not be defined by material acquisition and superficial bribery.

If the only way you can know if your partner likes you is by them buying you stuff, then you have to truly ask yourself if you're really in a relationship, or just being rented out for the time being.

OpinionatedChap · Accepted Answer

Yes, it's every guy who never talks in public. I haven't seen any of the responses here but I assume most of them are "yes, that man is ME". Being truly altruistic isn't easy and everyone thinks that they are Jesus for once gifting something to someone.

Short answer: yes but they're not here or anywhere online and they'll never tell you that they're altruistic.

P. S. I think that your friends flaunt their lives to you not because the have such wonderful things, but because they want to have them and have you envy them for it. It's a status move many women in my life do.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Read what she said, she said she does everything for the guy and he doesn't give in return, so thus she's always been in a give relationship where she's the only one giving.

I know how you feel. Though i've experienced both. I would do everything for my friends and never got anything in return, sometimes it would bother me cause it would make me wonder about our friendship but other times it didn't bother me cause I it was their choice. I met this guy and he would take me out on dates and do a bunch of things for me, he was a really sweet, so they are out there. I however ended up with my ex who would do nothing for me. I always got him birthday and Christmas gifts, he would get me nothing, i'd make him breakfast in bed sometimes, always make food, always clean, always do everything and i'd get nothing in return. I'd be the one always paying and taking him out. It really broke my heart and i even told him about it and was crying, he felt sorry for me for a few minutes and said he'd start doing things for me and then was over it quickly and went back to doing what he was doing. My parents had the kind of relationship where they used to do things for each other, spoil each other and make each other feel special. That's the kind of relationship I want and I think you shouldn't give up on finding it.

annabarrera · Accepted Answer

Of course there are.
My fiancé treated me like a queen, not to brag but he always put me on top of his priority.
Well I was once in your shoes in past relationship, and I guess that’s because I love him more than he loves me. Remember the settlers and achievers theory from How I met your mother? Yes, to become a settler you need to date an achiever. And you’ll be treated like a queen.

AdventurerofOoo · Accepted Answer

My friend's boyfriend is like this, she gets mad if he doesn''t spoil her though... I personally don't care or want my boyfriend to spend a bunch of money on me, I want love not gifts or things to flaunt on social media.

Radicalash · Answer

Yes, but treating a girl like this can actually be a detriment to the relationship. Being treated like a queen means treating your partner like a king. But I’ve seen too many times where this has led to a one sided relationship with a lack of respect for the man.

xanku · Answer

Indeed! I mean I'm not rich but I spend whatever left over money on my girlfriend (which I don't have🙃) I drive "her" to and from work and school. Cuddle and watch movies every night and take her to a nice dinner at least once a week. I try all I can but I am not perfect. I'm not extremely wealthy and my bills come first and whatever I have left I spend on her for whatever she wants after we goto dinner for that week (where ever she wants to go).

Chaz269 · Answer

It's real. But for most guys you have to give to get. There is an exceptionally small percentage of guys who will give you everything they are and everything they have for nothing in return. I've been that guy, but got tired of being used. I've known other guys like that and all but one grew out of it. He can't possibly be the only one.

Names93 · Answer

"Meanwhile, I have friends whose boyfriends/fiance's/husbands treat them like queens, give them whatever they want, spend lavishly on them, etc"

So you want a man who's going to spend his pay cheque on you.

Tell me, how much money are you going to spend on him?

Caaarl · Answer

It's one thing to want a guy who can do go out of his way to show that they care, but I think girls who want to be put up on a pedestal are ditty soul sucking creatures. Yes they're out there but you might not get what you're looking for in that kind of relationship the power balance will be completely flipped.

Clinkz · Answer

Yes there are men that spoil their women. But if she doesn't give anything back she's nothing but a gold digger.

I would get it if you said you wanted a guy to spend more time and plan things with you. But you only mention the money except for the ride thing at the end.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

I'll spoil my girl if she is worthy of being spoiled.. I don't need a woman to cook, clean or do my laundry... My mom raised me to take care of myself in that regard.. I'm not going to spoil you if your not going to also contribute to the value of my life... And no pussy isn't it... Can get that from any girl.. in order to be spoiled, you must be able to contribute to my already successful life.

yousir · Answer

The entire point of social media is to make others believe your life is more interesting than it really is. How many of your girlfriends post pictures of when their boyfriends treat them like dirt? None? I'm shocked! Obviously that must mean it has never happened! You will never find the person you are describing because you are never going to be attracted to a man that is tripping over himself to try to please you. If you do somehow fall into a relationship with one you are going to be in the most boring relationship of your life and it will not last. Disagree if you like. I'm just stating fact.

callmeyourmuse · Answer

Most of the people who replied are jerks (guys mostly). She isn't asking for someone to only care about her and that she won't do anything in return. Maybe she's just asking for a guy who isn't all about sex or a jerk like most guys nowadays. But that's just my opinion

ncannon18 · Answer

There are many guys out there who's more than willing to give their girlfriends exactly what they want in no time.

Jayson101 · Answer

Yes there are. Many of them. Usually they come form rich families and have a lot of mum-and-dad money as well as a good start in life.

RizingProphet · Answer

I mean, personally in my relationships I feel like you should treat your significant other like they are the most important thing in the world, but if they can't get the time to go out on a date or to hang out because of work or something like that then. You have to understand that and work something out for another time. Your boyfriend or girlfriend should be like your best friend, I dunno thats just hiw I feel

Chasesullivan · Answer

Yeah I am one of them I love to spoil my girl and do random little things for her when I get the chance to

Sweepthelegjonny · Answer

There will always be both kinds of guys. But subconsciously u may only be into assholes that treat u like shit. Either way, i hope u the best

Cerberus_1773 · Answer

I'm actually "with" a guy like that right now and he's so sweet and smooth that I feel like it's actually killing me

johnboymuscles · Answer

Most women want to be treated like a queen but treat him like a servant. That will only last so long before he realises you are not actually a queen. He needs to feel like a king too

SlothySlob · Answer

Knights in shining armor, you mean beta cucks who are willing to bankrupt themselves for a chance at pussy? Yes, they do exist.

azzntittiz · Answer

If they feel guilty for cheating they do, but it must be cause her pussy loose and they feel bad.

Zak_Viel · Answer

One thing is sure, I'm not one of those. Sure I spoil here and take care of her time to time (she does the same by the way) but when I see something going wrong I become a little bit harsh and strict with her.

dwiller943 · Answer

The only do that to horrible twats that treat them like shit or have nothing to offer but sex, nudes, and drama.

Are there really men who take care of and spoil their girlfriends, out there?

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