How to get a fwb?

[owens97]

so rn i dont want a relationship just a friends with benefits or fuckbuddy or casual sex unless one of those turns into a relationship in which i won't push it away but

my question is how does a guy get into a friends with benefits, fuckbuddy situation with a girl in the first place what do we say to u and do online to make u want this or find someone that does?

[Anonymous]

Online ad worked for me but I wouldn't expect it to work. I think I most definitely lucked out and it took a LONG time. Like years of nothing at all, no responses. Most women suggest being friends with them first, or meeting somewhere first in person, then when she gets a bit more comfortable with you, suggesting it. But no matter what, it's hard for a guy to find it no doubt about that. Almost all women want more and if they don't, then there's just the fear of meeting unknown men (safety) or appearances (don't want to be seen as a "slut" etc).

[owens97]

where did u put the ad?

[Opinion Owner]

Craigslist, but again, I wouldn't put much hope in that and I didn't advertise specifically for a fwb's but did include the possibility in with my ad. I also think there are very few women that go there to look even (probably 99% guys, and guys pretending to be girls). Get a lot of spam responses if you get any at all.

[Opinion Owner]

Have you tried Tinder? Known as a "hook up" site, maybe have more luck there?

[owens97]

i have tried tinder but women either dont reply r to far away or after a gold convo they r just to busy

[chris1965]

I agree flirt early on and right away say that you are attracted to them in a sexual way and you just want to be friends with benefits they are comfortable with it. Be upfront and honest.

[someho]

Flirt and start sexual conversation early...

What most of guys do anyways...

[Sha84]

easily done by flirting and honestly admit intentions

[owens97]

but im not that good at flirting what do i say

[Sha84]

hi sexy are you still interested in me casually

[10dsw]

Agreed with this. Just flat out say you're not looking for anything serious. 4/5 women will probably vanish but that'll leave 1/5 who will be okay with this.

Source: personal experience

[Sha84]

sift out the crowd fast for the pearl

[ricky_ok]

From what I've heard tinder is the place for this lmao. I have no experience with this though. And I've always wondered how this even happens, I would think eventually you will start to fall in love with the other person.

[owens97]

thats ok by me

[mT2359]

Its not like an interview. But you can try and put an advertisement online, that u would like to meet and chat like a date kinda thing. Don't jump right into it by asking her if she wants a friends with benefits while you talk to her maybe on phone or face to face. She should be comfortable and u should also like her as a person before you jump into a friends with benefits kind of arrangement.