Does it matter if a guy brings his child along on the first date? Is that a bad idea and should we change days or doesn’t it matter? (Page 2)
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How old are you? And how old is this guy. I take it based on the age you present on site you are young? I highly recommend you NOT go on the date. That’s gonna mess the kid up meeting his dates ASAP.
The kid is 2. He has no idea who I am or why I am even there. I am23. He is 34.
Okay that’s good I was afraid you were 18. Yeah that’s not good he should have a brain for a father it’s not healthy for the child and I don’t care how old the child is. When a child sis. Toddler they develop an awareness to an extent in terms of who they are meeting and the child can become attached if the child likes you. I recommend you suggest he get a baby sitter or call it off if he doesn’t. If he was a mature father he’d get a baby sitter.
Get a babysitter, having a little child along will change the whole mood of the date and his focus will be split. You should get to know him first and then his kids.
Oh yeah you want him to forget his kid for the few moments he can share with him just so that you can have his full attention.
Talk about a narcissist eh.
I don’t think that’s what she’s saying at all. It changes the dynamics and I agree with her, which is why I asked. I think it’s better to see if we hit it off first and then meet his kid. It’s not about hogging attention.
Yes! The former is what I meant. It’s harder for a parent to listen to a conversation when they are constantly having to keep an eye on their baby.
I'd prefer to get to know him first. Then meet his child. Do what you feel is best
It's really up to you. If you don't mind then go ahead with it. And kids will like you over time, don't feel bad if he doesn't like you at first.
It's alright.. A bit weird for a first date but.. I guess doesn't matter.
I really don't think he should be taking his child on dates... most people are thinking about how long to wait before letting you meet their child, not bringing it along with.
Nope, bad idea.
I think that a guy or girl shouldn't bring their child on the first date. If you are a girl get to know the guy and if you're a guy get to know the girl first and if you see it going somewhere hang out a couple more times and then introduce your child or children
It depends it could go both ways. If the child likes you and the guy likes you then it won't be a problem. But it depends on what you are doing I would suggest to do something with that child like going to a park or something
Maybe he bought the kid because no one was there to look after him.
Precisely
I would try to reschedule and find a day when just the two of you can be together
Doesn't sound like a good idea for a first date. The kid could be having a bad day and distract you from learning about each other.
You are seeing what he is bringing to the table. It is something that you need to realize is this life is what you want and step up be a step mom. Or you just making harder to make a deal breaker.
Dates and kids are incompatible. The other person must be able to dedicate some time to you only. Better reschedule.
Ummm yea what the fuck is he looking for a new wife and step mom , I feel bad for the kid to be honest
It's a bad idea for a first date. But what would you want him to do? Put his kid away for the few moments he's with him just to see you?
No we would reschedule for when the kid is with his baby Mom
If you want to date him.. Kid will be part of your life anyway. Pretty good idea to bring that kid with him.
Yes that's not good and if it was you or a mum introducing your/their child to everyone you meet isn't good for the child. Best to tell him to leave him with the mum or his mum or someone. Once it's serious if it gets tgat far then yes but slowly
It is just a date, doesn't matter, let his inner father figure shine, at least you can learn how to deal with a child too
Yeah that's not proper.
Change to a day.
If you can't find the time to find a babysitter for the child then he's clueless how to date.
Red flag.
On first date it's date, he should do it later. Poor kid, I imagine if his father is dating hundred of women in a months or so