How can you show interest without looking desperate?

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How do you show that you’re interested or that you really like a person without looking desperate/needy?
I guess I’m just a very caring person.. I like to text and call like twice throughout the day to see how’s your day going to the person I like, but my friends tell me to be careful about not looking too desperate... any advice 🤷🏽‍♀️

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The idea about showing interest without looking desperate is very simple and that is to NOT actually be desperate.

Difficult to understand? Let me elaborate.

Being caring and asking about someone regularly is not desperation, simply shows your concern. You can call someone you have just met twice and text them quite frequently over a particular 24 hours and that's perfectly fine. What's not fine is how you behave and react once they are not able to respond adequately to all your calls and texts but give reasonable explanation as to why they weren't able to attend or reply in time. Perhaps they are not on their phone as often, perhaps they are an introvert and don't like talking as much as you do.

If you are genuinely okay with them not being as active and on their phone as you are and that the next time you two talk or meet, it'll show two things. One that you are NOT desperate and one that you are still interested in him/her despite their lack of usage of their cellular devices.

Always be you when it comes to the good things, if showing interest and caring for someone is you, stay you!

If being desperate is you, change and evolve... be better.

Best of luck with everything! 🤜🤛

nick1979 · Accepted Answer

I've had this problem in the past and it's a great question.

Showing interest isn't the problem it's dropping everything for someone. When you put someone else's needs in front of yours to the point you don't get anything back it unconsciously shows the other person that you don't hold yourself to a high standard.

heylovess2001 · Accepted Answer

As long as the “vibe” is there, text and call when you want! Obviously if he is not calling or texting first ever, or he does not seem excited when you call, or worst case scenario he ignores you, then you need to re-evaluate and move on. However, life is wayyyy too short not to show interest and go with the flow. So just be sure not to think so much, and whatever will be will be!

mandi308 · Accepted Answer

i think having a genuine care about someone and how their day is going is amazing, not desperate, and more people need to be like that!

lemens · Accepted Answer

Tone it down a little, some people need space ya know? Only text when they text you or only call if they want to talk on the phone

cutiebytheshore123 · Accepted Answer

Ignore men.

GeorgeGeorgenson · Answer

There is no "desperate". Desperate would be if you told him he rejected yiu and you continued doing ehat you sre doing. What you should do is draw his attention by making some statements of man/women relationships making it specific almost like its just for you two. Laugh arround him hug and cuddle with him as friends like lay down on him if ur chilling in the park or just give him a rich hug. After some time just either ask him out or tell your feelings or just attempt to kiss him while freindly hugging or such ^-^

fearless_strength · Answer

This can be debatable. I think this should be based on how individual reacts to it. For me I prefer to talk on the phone or be in person then text any day. To me if I'm conversating with somebody. And I get a random text and I say hold on let me talk to the person that's 30 miles away. That's rude to the person I'm talking to. Hope that makes sense!

skateranon123 · Answer

I bet people would have better relationships if we stopped rejecting people for dumb reasons like clinginess. To be honest I'm really flatered when a girl show a lot of interest in me. If I'm interested in her too I show the same level of interest fuck it.

If she thinks I'm too clingy the too bad if I'm gonna be with a girl I'm hoping she wants to talk to me a lot and talk to me a lot and let me be a part of her life. If not then whats the point?

idk777 · Answer

To me you don't look desperate until it looks like you'll do anything to keep them. You freak out at the first sign they might leave, you act scared when they take a while to text back, you apologize for flirting... Stuff like that. So if you're just seeing how they're doing I don't think that seems desperate.

Twistboy101 · Answer

Smiling helps. But also being thoughtful helps. Thinking about what this person wants. Maybe offering to buy them a little lunch. That's what this girl offered to me yesterday. I was kinda flattered and told her that I appreciate the courtesy lol... just being thoughtful in any way you can really helps... but only some people can really pick up on thoughtfulness. Not everyone does. People who think abstractly, people who think under the surface will notice thoughtfulness. I do.

ATuairiscean · Answer

I see where you are going - Let the other person set the tone and pace for things like messages - Send no more a day than he sends and try to judge how they feel from their messages by being no more than a bit friendly than they are - That should hopefully reign in the "FULL ON" you but if they like it unleash it (LoL)

phxdennis · Answer

Go 3days without checking on your friends wellbeing and take note of the ones who reach out to you to see if your okay because you broke your Routine , kinda of reverse ghosting , lol , but twice a day is too much in today social environment unless it's returned by a close friend.

ImagineSketchy · Answer

The thing with women is, they don't look desperate until they reach the stalker phase. They become overwhelmingly jealous, they watch you wherever you go just to make sure no one else can have you. That's called desperation, for they fear that losing you may be the end of most of their world.

And only calling/texting throughout a day is a super low amount. I talk to my friends far more than that.

Prakbio · Answer

Just show them they are important by giving A true smile whenever you meet them, try to show them you are inerested in them by showing interests in their hobbies, while talking ask abut family.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Honestly I think you're reading too much into it there's nothing wrong with calling or texting to show that you're interested in someone. I mean do you guys kick it like that if y'all do then why not call or text there's nothing wrong with that do y'all flirt too cuz if you do then he knows you're interested already you understand

lonestoner · Answer

Don't worry about it and find someone who appreciates those things about you. Not everyone finds those qualities desperate or needy.

JP_Man · Answer

Advice would go the same way your friends go. Point is if it's a new relationship then you're gonna have things to tell each other. If it becomes a habit then at some point you guys will not have anything to tell each other anymore and it will become invasive. There is nothing wrong thinking about the person you seek most just remember you both have personal space. Learn to like to miss each other to a certain measure. It's healthy.

PossiblyImpossible · Answer

I think it depends on the person really. Sometimes I love lots of messages and calls, sometimes I don't. The most important thing is to not freak out if they don't message you back right away. Sometimes people are just busy and you need respect that.

crooks1 · Answer

Honestly i would say. Dont matter. But i think i look needy myself sometimes lol so im not the best for this question haha

Burgerboy21 · Answer

Seriously, just tell him you like him. There's absolutely nothing wrong with women asking men out and he'll appreciate the straightforwardness if he likes you too.

unkqty · Answer

2x/day says you're needy. he'll run - unless he's needy, too - at which time you'll enter into a dysfunctional relationship. 2x/week says you're interested but cool.

Merictanok · Answer

I would be ecstatic if a women would be that interested! Yes some people are less interested when someone keeps messaging for hours on end, but if they are interested in you as well, they will answer when they can. Just dont text or call 20times in 5min that shows either needy, desperate, or an over zelus control freak. You are much better than some people out there. 2 times is nothing. If the guy says goodbye because of that, he's a player.

OldDad · Answer

You can text or call me 3 times a day. There is nothing wrong with you.

LifeEqualsLove · Answer

Smile often and laugh at his jokes. Hit him up but when you have something funny to share or something sweet but don't overdo it

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Look at their reactions to your display of interest. If they give one word answers and don't ask any questions back, move on coz that is when you seem desperate.

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