Be it sparing an ice cream or an entire banquet.
How much money does a man have to have per month in order to keep the girlfriend happy?
I don't care as long as he is able to pay for (at the very least) his own shit. I've never been one to expect my partner to pay for anything, I always pay for myself. It's a bonus of course if we can do things together that are a bit more expensive, like travel or eat at nice restaurants, but it's not mandatory and I'd still prefer to pay for myself.
As long as you are able to sustain yourself with your current employment and not being dependent on welfare system then you are good to date.
How much do you need exactly then depends on the type of woman you date.
Money is important in life and in dating. If you can't afford gas to get to the date I would suggest you don't date. Dates can be cheap if people are still in school or low on money but in general... make sure you got your bills paid first... keep the lights on!
Thanks for the MhO
I love the women on here saying it shouldn't matter, or saying just have a job.. you're the reason I haven't lost faith in women..
Just be careful who you date, if she is overly fancy, appears high maintenance, that's a big red flag..
The other thing I would say.. to those that say dont date if you're broke.. honestly you're the kind of women most men should avoid to begin with.. thots and gold diggers.
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If you have good qualities - money becomes less important. My ex-boyfriend was so broke he ate only rice and lentils for breakfast, lunch and dinner and when I said I could buy him food he said no he didn't want my money. After we broke up - I saw him walking outside without a winter jacket when it was minus 14 degrees outside because he could not afford a jacket - I offered to give him a winter jacket so he wouldn't be cold and he ignored me because he thought it was wrong to accept money from people you weren't dating. He had a very good personality - so I didn't care that he was broke. I thought he had things that were more important than his financial situation.
I respect that.
Good man.
@Twenty2 I think he began to question whether we could have a stable marriage cause I was having health issues and he was having health issues and he may have thought I was problematic cause I told him I wanted to murder the people who bullied me when I was a kid. There was a guy who spent 8 hours harassing me online and I said I wanted the guy to burn in hell and get set on fire by the devil after he dies so I guess this kind of speech made him distrust me. When we broke up for the first time - he said - he hopes - I never think of him with the same anger.
Enough to pay his bills and have money left over for the costs of dating.
it goes both ways
In my opinion, don't date unless you have something to offer a woman and is able to take care of yourself. Invest in your life and yourself first. If I want to get married, why would I want to date somebody who has nothing and refuse to do anything? He would have to show me that he is willing to make concrete steps to getting a job like I have to for myself. I can be friends with them yes, don't mind investing in them a little, sure. But I need equal effort. Dating overall shouldn't have to cost anything. But when you want to hang out at the park if it requires a fee, the movies and eat something out, you have to have money. And if you asked that person out, why should the guess pay?
Thata balony it's a freaking date not a career move. Or going to a interview. so chill and get to know one another I totally go against movie on first date its awkward silence and can't talk or get to know them. I prefer food over dinner and game of bowling so u can cuddle and show how to do throwing moves.
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Sounds casual, like how things should be
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Maybe you don't want to take life seriously but that is not other people. This is simply why you be friends first and you get to know each other that way and you don't go around dating people for the sake of dating. That cause a lot of heartbreak, emotional baggage, extra stress Etc. Nobody cares if is 2019 or 1920 what any other time of the year. People date have a way they choose to date. The point is he is asking simply how much money he should have before he starts dating a person. Regardless of what he chooses to do with that money, he is either going to get somebody to enjoy that time with or he doesn't. Nobody really has time for all of those silly games anymore. Many of you are not going to be friends with a woman for a few months to a while to really get to know her you jump right into dating her on the first time you seeing her so whose problem really is it? This is why I don't hop around dating men I don't even know. Because that same money could be wasting on dates could be used to be paying my bills.
@AJC997 Nobody is generalizing. Just saying it for what it is. The ones that are complaining are a lot of you men. Is it really that hard to get to know people and getting your life together such as a career, marriage, etc? This is what happens when people don't prioritize the way they should.
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I would say the same thing about men who generalize women
And you both need to stop making it all about yourselves and have an understanding for other people. If you would, you wouldn't be talking about who is generalizing. People will look and judge you for what YOU do. And if you don't understand that now, you will at some point if you're still living. The same way I am also being judged for what I do. It applies to everybody.
So if you don't have it together for yourself, you will not attract the kind of woman you want and NEED. Let alone find a wife who wants you REALISTIC, not just IDEALY. These are trying and demanding times. I would prefer it if we had life simply as it were in biblical times. But that is not those times anymore. And we must adapt to modern living. And complaining about it and pointing fingers isn't helping. Its time to do what you say you want to be done.
@AJC997 It's not that they are golddiggers. They will waste your time because your wasting time. If you were focusing on marriage, you would befriend a girl, get to know THAT GIRL, her friends and family if you didn't grow up with her, find out what she wants and let her know what YOU want. If you both share commonalities and are compatible with life choices, THEN DATE. See how you both are as dating partners, not SEX. THEN talk about getting married, set a date no more than a year and get married. THAT is prioritizing.
When you so focus on sex, partying, drinking, casual so-called fun, she will drain your money because you allow it. You move her in before you marry her, if you not even marrying her in the first place, she is TAKING YOUR WIFE'S SPOT! If you give up your virginity for these girls and them for you they will have higher EXPECTATIONS. Just because they don't say it, it doesn't mean they're not thinking or PLOTTING it. And now you will be an even bigger idiot of you MARRY THAT person. That's how you men fail. And you call good women prudes and religious when they do the 1st statement.
And their also quick to open up their legs and get dolled up for you. Anything for your happiness until they take it when you give it to them. Real women WORK for it, and it's not always referring to careers. The work for their education, to please their family, to support their friends and cultivate friendships and try to support you when you're dating them. But so many of you neglect them when they make you work for their affections for wrong reasons. You think every woman who makes you sweat is just playing with you. Not always true. That's how you guys get fooled even more because you go by your own bias' and the bitter experiences of other people.
@AJC997 I sound irritating because of its the truth. I'm bitter for telling the truth? It must apply to you then because I'm not bitter. I rarely see a good man today of his own heart especially Christian men, and rarely secular men. If you're not of godly standards whether your religious, a believer or not, your not good men. If it doesn't apply to what I write, then just ignore it. Because there are guys who agree with me and the rest who do not because they are guilty. Which are you? Are you guilty?
This is coming from years of observation, intra-, and interpersonal interactions, experiences, wisdom, and knowledge. I study people on both the subconscious and conscious level. I wouldn't be talking about something I don't know. I learned quite a lot in all of my 27 years. So much so is why I stay to myself because of its all fun and games to you people.
@AJC997 I'm not telling you to become religious. Don't. I'm not telling you if it will or won't. That is a choice. Go to church for your OWN salvation and relationship with God. God is here to love you and teach you and will judge you when you do wrong. He will teach you to become a better man through his word. But that is your choice. You have to decide what kind of MAN YOU want to be. I cannot tell you how to be a better man. Because sadly many girls and women out here don't know what a real man is because they haven't been shown and taught.
@DaMack999 And more than half of those men FAIL in 1 marriage and 1 relationship. Women too.
Knowledge is in the word of God. And if people turned to God with a humble heart and change we wouldn't even be in this fix. It says 'My people PERISH for the lack of knowledge'. People forsake his knowledge, create their own foolish doctrines and wants to know why they're always miserable.
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1Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
6But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.
7For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
8I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
9But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
10And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
1 Corinthians 7:1-11
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Nobody is taking anything out of context. It is what it is. So now gentleman DECIDE how you choose to INVEST your pocket money. Because God called YOU to be heads of your own home, to wear the pants, not the woman to take over everything and do everything, no matter how badly her mouth is flapping and keeps on yapping. A woman comes equipped and packaged to help supply your needs as she is uniquely able. She is supposed to be your help meet. If she is NOT equipped to help you in any way, shape or form, nor able to help her own family, DO NOT MARRY HER. You're even stupid to date her knowing this. If you don't take it seriously then your wasting others time and yours.
I am telling you no different than I told my family and friends, and that is how one of them got married. But she got married to somebody who was not doing what he needed to do. Do it his way, and get about his business and everything else falls into place if its promise to you and is for you.
@DaMack999 Are you about feminism or are you about God? If you're about God, stop worrying about feminism. It only effects you if you allow it to. You guard your heart and mind. That is a commandment, not a suggestion. When you step into God's kingdom nothing is impossible.
@DaMack999 And you're going to let that STOP you for doing what God commanded? The world can perish tomorrow, I will still complete my mission when God gives me one. I blame men for cowaring down. And cowardice is not of God. Stand up men and take your place in the world and stop allowing these hussies take over the world and singing Beyonce's song 'who runs the world GIRLS'! Godly women can't fight the battle all to themselves either.
We are called to BATTLE spiritual entities and principalities and you sit there saying 'their brainwashing young females', because you and others [male and female Christians alike] refuse to PRAY WITHOUT CEASING. Its a WAR out here. If you men are too chicken that you have to lay down your weapons that means God called the wrong sex to fight. Or the genders have switched. Because if Godly men and men in general step up to this monstrosity the godly women will fight alongside you. Not abandon you. When you give up, WE give up.
With nobody to lead, we end up leading ourselves and we fail. When you put God on a bus instead of allowing him to order your steps, you fail and then blame God. You blame women. It has to stop. Like I had to stop blaming men for all my problems. I had to take personal responsibility and give it to God.
@DaMack999 Everybody needs to wake up. People are too caught up in their own little world to really see how much damage is being done.
Depends on the woman... but around my area, to get one that lives a middle class lifestyle, (I live about two miles from a place dubbed “The Million Dollar Mile, because it’s filled with McMansions...) my sister went to a school where the typical complaint was if the maid shrunk their clothes... there are a lot of local celebs and sports stars that probably throw off the average.
So most women here would probably claim a good estimate of dating a guy who makes $40,000 a year. If they don’t want to sound shallow and if they’re not wanting to be considered “gold diggers.” many people in many areas of the US could be sort of comfortable with that if it was a small family... and there weren’t any huge health concerns that would sap that money away more quickly.
But most of these girls who would claim to date a guy who would earn only $40,000 are marrying guys who have stable jobs and are earning probably at least $55,000 to $60,00. Some are complaining that they have to work on top of that... there’s still somewhat this level of the man provides and the wife does the taking care of the kids so they’d probably be happiest if the guy was earning $70,000 a year or more. Many couples around here are pulling in $90,000-100,000. Lowest is about $29,000 (but that’s each person) making an average of low income being $50,000 between the couple.
So a good looking guy who’s high up on “the list” (influence, stability, secure home life, decent financials, some influence, etc) will probably do fine earning $40,000... and could probably find a girlfriend who wasn’t shallow and would be honestly happy with that (for now), but an average guy had probably better earn at least $60,000 or better make it work for him.
So assuming an average of $40,000 on the low end, that’s roughly $3400 a month. But to be safe and considered a real catch, probably $5,800 a month - locally.
Of course this would be different for different areas.
For me it is no money
I'm not in a relationship because of money I am in a relationship:
Because I truly love my boyfriend we can have quality time together without money we can be together without money
Money doesn't bring people love.
If someone is only with a person because of money that is so fucking wrong
So.. no money
Only love
And If your SO. Only wants you for money then get the hell out of there u need someone that truly loves you and you only no one else and no things at all
It shouldn't be about money or how your body looks or what you do and not do and what you have and not have
If you truly want to be in a relationship with your SO. Then it should be about love and love only and how much y'all mean together
Women want masculinity, not money.
But I think that many men have been taught to be feminine. So many of us believe women want money or six pack abs. Those are the alternatives when the only options are a bunch of feminized men.
And society feminized us. Shamed us for our masculinity, told us we are bad. And now we think women only want money.
If all women became ugly and fat, how would you choose a mate? Probably by some other secondary trait, like she gives good head, or cooks and cleans or something.
Basically a lot of men have become unattractive due to the lack of masculinity and women cling to whatever vestiges are available.
easy, lets take one simple movie date
1. movie tickets, can't be cheap so max 3D cause thats what she wants, 25$ a ticket, 2 tickets at 50$
2. gotta pick her up and drop her off, 10 bucks gas extra
3. food at the movies, popcorn, drink and some candy.. thats 15 bucks
4. parking at the theatre, 10 bucks
5. if you happen to do anything before or after lets say another 20 bucks and thats being cautious. more like 50 bucks
total tab for a movie date
approximately 100$ all within 2-4 hours rofl
My boyfriend and I can do a movie date for under $30 for both of us, and that’s in AUD.
tickets: join the cinema club - $8 each
snacks: go to the supermarket together beforehand, packet of chips/popcorn, block of chocolate and a drink each - $10
petrol: go to a cinema within 10-15 minutes away - couple of bucks tops.
Better yet, just watch a movie together at home on the couch, make your own popcorn and you’re set!
Your calculations are excessive and outrageous and just trying to make a ridiculous point. Dating doesn’t have to be expensive.
Just have a job and save up like im doing. You can be broke as in... not having money to spend for fun because you're saving towards our future home/kids/wedding just like i am. But dont be cheap. If im willing to spend $100 on a theme park ticket, you should too. Dont make me pay for both of our tickets
You're nice lol
@brittslitt im honest
I just prefer more. the more money he has the less time he has to spend at work and away from his family
@brittslitt not true for the men i know. They have enough and still choose to be workaholics so fck that
That's true 2
And that's why men in average earn more because there too many men who work too much
My boyfriend makes around 60,000 a year, and that means we get to go to the movies and eat out fairly often, but I would be just as happy sitting around watching Netflix on my moms account on my phone screen in a living room with just a futon.
I grew up without any money at all, I was sent to my prom night dinner with $5 in my pocket and a couple quarters I took out the couch. I dont need anything much to be happy personally.
That’s really good. Is Louisiana a good place to live? I live in Puerto Rico and it’s expensive here but I’m from here so I kind of know how it works, but I have been trying to pick a state to move to and progress because there’s not much room for progress here. I had a job offer for Louisiana but I wasn’t sure if the cost of living was expensive
in this world, people think to much about money. there is one thing i will say about money (actually 2 things) first, the love of money is the rule of all evil, second, money can NOT by happiness, it only gives you options. a man could have literally no money at all to his name, yet if he's a man who's heart is after the Lord that would care and love his wife (or care for the one he's going out with), then that should be good enough. (and vice versa). and if a pour man and pour woman meet and both of their hearts are in what's truly important (the Almighty aka Jesus Christ and his word, the King James Bible), then they should both know that according to God's word. God will supply with all their needs (Philippians 4:19)
Honestly a guy needs to bring in around the same amount as I do it could be a bit less or maybe a bit more but u can't be flat out broke especially in a serious relationship. Everyone saying "only love matters" r seriously delusional. Guy or girl, unless ur a millionaire, who has time and energy to ALWAYS pay for everything? Dates alone can get pretty expensive and no one wants to pay for all of them alone.
Your purpose in life should centre around getting a secure job before focussing on dating women. It's a waste of your time otherwise. Every time I've dated women when unemployed (or tried to), they've ghosted me before the planned date when they found out or ended the date in a hurry.
But more important is confidence and finding a girl that likes you because you know how to attract women in other areas. If you find the right girl, she'll be the one buying you stuff to try keep you happy!
It really depends on the girl I think. I've met girls who want guys with money to take care of them; I've also met girls who don't really care. In my experience, money is not necessary if you can pull your weight. I don't have a lot of money and girls are quite attracted to me. My friend didn't have a job and had 2 legitimate girlfriends at once lol. Girls just want someone independent (from my experience at least).
you don't want to be house poor and you don't want to be dating poor, that won't work.
you can find girls who will tolate lack of resources if you have something else to offer. like... into growing your own food and love is felt. in the end I agree with @btbc92, I'd get yourself stable first.
All you need is a true care and affection for her.
Be understanding enough and be there for her and that would do coz if you 2 are happy and truly into each other then money becomes a secondary matter coz then she will also adjust her likings as per your budget
So you can't really have a fix number of amount honey
You see my first girlfriend had bought all the tickets to the film before I got there on my first ever date.
I wasn’t broke and I had a car and job. My point is if the girl actually likes you money is not a factor. A simple job to look after yourself is enough.
I get rejected or overlooked for pizza delivery drivers, I AM ENGINEER lool. Not trying to brag but I make their yearly salary in 3 months and girls prefer them.
Why? Because they don’t have their heads full like mine worrying about the next car launch. They deliver their pizza and go home and that’s it. No more stress. Girls like that cool headiness which I can’t have otherwise I won’t be a good engineer.
I get girls too sometimes better but my point is Money ain’t shit bro. People without as much money as me get girls too.
If he’s broke then as long as he’s working on getting his shit together then it won’t really matter for most. He doesn’t need to be rich, that can actually deter some women, he just needs to be able to take care of himself and any children he wishes to have with her. As she has the same goal of taking care of herself and her children she has with him. When they both merge on this they become the ideal team.
I just care that you are reliable and not on welfare. So long as you meet that, the actual amount doesn't really matter to me. I actually find that guys who make less money are much nicer. Guys who think they're rich and rolling in it are think women should just spread their legs for them.
There's no set amount. I have a friend that makes twice as much money as me, yet he has less spending money each month because he wasted it on an expensive house that is too big and cars that cost too much that aren't even as good as mine.
How someone manages the money they make matters more than the total amount they make.
I'd say if someone has $500 per month discretionary spending money each month they are doing really well.
Enough for you to pay the bills, allow her to go shopping crazy, buy a house, a car, beauty treatments, traveling, pets, pet food, college bills, surgery fees, support her family relatives, support "her men" that she is cheating on you with, support her when you get a divorce and pay for child support when things go super wrong.
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