How much money does a man need in order to date a woman?

Question

It is no secret, that girlfriend cost money. At least in the long term.
Be it sparing an ice cream or an entire banquet.
How much money does a man have to have per month in order to keep the girlfriend happy?

lumos · Accepted Answer

I don't care as long as he is able to pay for (at the very least) his own shit. I've never been one to expect my partner to pay for anything, I always pay for myself. It's a bonus of course if we can do things together that are a bit more expensive, like travel or eat at nice restaurants, but it's not mandatory and I'd still prefer to pay for myself.

shimmeryns · Accepted Answer

As long as you are able to sustain yourself with your current employment and not being dependent on welfare system then you are good to date.
How much do you need exactly then depends on the type of woman you date.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

Money is important in life and in dating. If you can't afford gas to get to the date I would suggest you don't date. Dates can be cheap if people are still in school or low on money but in general... make sure you got your bills paid first... keep the lights on!

worldscolide · Accepted Answer

I love the women on here saying it shouldn't matter, or saying just have a job.. you're the reason I haven't lost faith in women..

Just be careful who you date, if she is overly fancy, appears high maintenance, that's a big red flag..

jennifer_bloom · Answer

If you have good qualities - money becomes less important. My ex-boyfriend was so broke he ate only rice and lentils for breakfast, lunch and dinner and when I said I could buy him food he said no he didn't want my money. After we broke up - I saw him walking outside without a winter jacket when it was minus 14 degrees outside because he could not afford a jacket - I offered to give him a winter jacket so he wouldn't be cold and he ignored me because he thought it was wrong to accept money from people you weren't dating. He had a very good personality - so I didn't care that he was broke. I thought he had things that were more important than his financial situation.

Logorithim · Answer

Enough to pay his bills and have money left over for the costs of dating.

btbc92 · Answer

In my opinion, don't date unless you have something to offer a woman and is able to take care of yourself. Invest in your life and yourself first. If I want to get married, why would I want to date somebody who has nothing and refuse to do anything? He would have to show me that he is willing to make concrete steps to getting a job like I have to for myself. I can be friends with them yes, don't mind investing in them a little, sure. But I need equal effort. Dating overall shouldn't have to cost anything. But when you want to hang out at the park if it requires a fee, the movies and eat something out, you have to have money. And if you asked that person out, why should the guess pay?

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the woman... but around my area, to get one that lives a middle class lifestyle, (I live about two miles from a place dubbed “The Million Dollar Mile, because it’s filled with McMansions...) my sister went to a school where the typical complaint was if the maid shrunk their clothes... there are a lot of local celebs and sports stars that probably throw off the average.

So most women here would probably claim a good estimate of dating a guy who makes $40,000 a year. If they don’t want to sound shallow and if they’re not wanting to be considered “gold diggers.” many people in many areas of the US could be sort of comfortable with that if it was a small family... and there weren’t any huge health concerns that would sap that money away more quickly.

But most of these girls who would claim to date a guy who would earn only $40,000 are marrying guys who have stable jobs and are earning probably at least $55,000 to $60,00. Some are complaining that they have to work on top of that... there’s still somewhat this level of the man provides and the wife does the taking care of the kids so they’d probably be happiest if the guy was earning $70,000 a year or more. Many couples around here are pulling in $90,000-100,000. Lowest is about $29,000 (but that’s each person) making an average of low income being $50,000 between the couple.

So a good looking guy who’s high up on “the list” (influence, stability, secure home life, decent financials, some influence, etc) will probably do fine earning $40,000... and could probably find a girlfriend who wasn’t shallow and would be honestly happy with that (for now), but an average guy had probably better earn at least $60,000 or better make it work for him.

So assuming an average of $40,000 on the low end, that’s roughly $3400 a month. But to be safe and considered a real catch, probably $5,800 a month - locally.

Of course this would be different for different areas.

needhelp777 · Answer

For me it is no money
I'm not in a relationship because of money I am in a relationship:
Because I truly love my boyfriend we can have quality time together without money we can be together without money
Money doesn't bring people love.
If someone is only with a person because of money that is so fucking wrong

So.. no money
Only love
And If your SO. Only wants you for money then get the hell out of there u need someone that truly loves you and you only no one else and no things at all
It shouldn't be about money or how your body looks or what you do and not do and what you have and not have
If you truly want to be in a relationship with your SO. Then it should be about love and love only and how much y'all mean together

Kaazsz · Answer

Women want masculinity, not money.

But I think that many men have been taught to be feminine. So many of us believe women want money or six pack abs. Those are the alternatives when the only options are a bunch of feminized men.

And society feminized us. Shamed us for our masculinity, told us we are bad. And now we think women only want money.

If all women became ugly and fat, how would you choose a mate? Probably by some other secondary trait, like she gives good head, or cooks and cleans or something.

Basically a lot of men have become unattractive due to the lack of masculinity and women cling to whatever vestiges are available.

TripleAce · Answer

easy, lets take one simple movie date

1. movie tickets, can't be cheap so max 3D cause thats what she wants, 25$ a ticket, 2 tickets at 50$
2. gotta pick her up and drop her off, 10 bucks gas extra
3. food at the movies, popcorn, drink and some candy.. thats 15 bucks
4. parking at the theatre, 10 bucks
5. if you happen to do anything before or after lets say another 20 bucks and thats being cautious. more like 50 bucks

total tab for a movie date
approximately 100$ all within 2-4 hours rofl

DizzyDesii · Answer

Just have a job and save up like im doing. You can be broke as in... not having money to spend for fun because you're saving towards our future home/kids/wedding just like i am. But dont be cheap. If im willing to spend $100 on a theme park ticket, you should too. Dont make me pay for both of our tickets

hhues · Answer

My boyfriend makes around 60,000 a year, and that means we get to go to the movies and eat out fairly often, but I would be just as happy sitting around watching Netflix on my moms account on my phone screen in a living room with just a futon.

I grew up without any money at all, I was sent to my prom night dinner with $5 in my pocket and a couple quarters I took out the couch. I dont need anything much to be happy personally.

MysteryPerson70 · Answer

in this world, people think to much about money. there is one thing i will say about money (actually 2 things) first, the love of money is the rule of all evil, second, money can NOT by happiness, it only gives you options. a man could have literally no money at all to his name, yet if he's a man who's heart is after the Lord that would care and love his wife (or care for the one he's going out with), then that should be good enough. (and vice versa). and if a pour man and pour woman meet and both of their hearts are in what's truly important (the Almighty aka Jesus Christ and his word, the King James Bible), then they should both know that according to God's word. God will supply with all their needs (Philippians 4:19)

zed-789 · Answer

Honestly a guy needs to bring in around the same amount as I do it could be a bit less or maybe a bit more but u can't be flat out broke especially in a serious relationship. Everyone saying "only love matters" r seriously delusional. Guy or girl, unless ur a millionaire, who has time and energy to ALWAYS pay for everything? Dates alone can get pretty expensive and no one wants to pay for all of them alone.

MusicMayhem · Answer

Your purpose in life should centre around getting a secure job before focussing on dating women. It's a waste of your time otherwise. Every time I've dated women when unemployed (or tried to), they've ghosted me before the planned date when they found out or ended the date in a hurry.

But more important is confidence and finding a girl that likes you because you know how to attract women in other areas. If you find the right girl, she'll be the one buying you stuff to try keep you happy!

Megatrizzle · Answer

It really depends on the girl I think. I've met girls who want guys with money to take care of them; I've also met girls who don't really care. In my experience, money is not necessary if you can pull your weight. I don't have a lot of money and girls are quite attracted to me. My friend didn't have a job and had 2 legitimate girlfriends at once lol. Girls just want someone independent (from my experience at least).

lightbulb27 · Answer

you don't want to be house poor and you don't want to be dating poor, that won't work.
you can find girls who will tolate lack of resources if you have something else to offer. like... into growing your own food and love is felt. in the end I agree with @btbc92, I'd get yourself stable first.

elizamichale1 · Answer

All you need is a true care and affection for her.
Be understanding enough and be there for her and that would do coz if you 2 are happy and truly into each other then money becomes a secondary matter coz then she will also adjust her likings as per your budget
So you can't really have a fix number of amount honey

yucel_eden · Answer

You see my first girlfriend had bought all the tickets to the film before I got there on my first ever date.

I wasn’t broke and I had a car and job. My point is if the girl actually likes you money is not a factor. A simple job to look after yourself is enough.

I get rejected or overlooked for pizza delivery drivers, I AM ENGINEER lool. Not trying to brag but I make their yearly salary in 3 months and girls prefer them.

Why? Because they don’t have their heads full like mine worrying about the next car launch. They deliver their pizza and go home and that’s it. No more stress. Girls like that cool headiness which I can’t have otherwise I won’t be a good engineer.

I get girls too sometimes better but my point is Money ain’t shit bro. People without as much money as me get girls too.

Anonymous · Answer

If he’s broke then as long as he’s working on getting his shit together then it won’t really matter for most. He doesn’t need to be rich, that can actually deter some women, he just needs to be able to take care of himself and any children he wishes to have with her. As she has the same goal of taking care of herself and her children she has with him. When they both merge on this they become the ideal team.

Shuri · Answer

I just care that you are reliable and not on welfare. So long as you meet that, the actual amount doesn't really matter to me. I actually find that guys who make less money are much nicer. Guys who think they're rich and rolling in it are think women should just spread their legs for them.

AynonOMouse · Answer

There's no set amount. I have a friend that makes twice as much money as me, yet he has less spending money each month because he wasted it on an expensive house that is too big and cars that cost too much that aren't even as good as mine.
How someone manages the money they make matters more than the total amount they make.
I'd say if someone has $500 per month discretionary spending money each month they are doing really well.

Ljd213 · Answer

Enough for you to pay the bills, allow her to go shopping crazy, buy a house, a car, beauty treatments, traveling, pets, pet food, college bills, surgery fees, support her family relatives, support "her men" that she is cheating on you with, support her when you get a divorce and pay for child support when things go super wrong.

Browneye57 · Answer

A mega shit-ton.  The more ya got the more women will want you. Guaranteed. :)

Bax854 · Answer

Dating has definitely gotten more expensive as money has been losing purchasing power due to all the money being printed. If you have a plan and can show that your putting it to work (Goals to Grow) you should be okay along with some confidence in yourself. Some girls won't care about money and other girls will so it just depends on the girl at the end of the day

Poppymarie · Answer

Not a lot. I would be flattered and pleased if he paid for our dates sometimes but I don’t expect him to be throwing out tons of cash all the time. That’s not fair for him.

purplepoppy · Answer

You don't need to be rich but you should usually have money left over before pay day comes round. We'll understand if you're broke because you've just had a huge bill but if you can't regularly make ends meet then sorry.

LuWe22 · Answer

You should be able to affort the dates. (eating out, swimming, amusement parks) You don't have to pay for both. Then you should be able to affort a car. It's best when you have a good staple Job for that. Also some few gifts would be nice (food, flowers, accessoires)

Horror_lover · Answer

Well my ex had 0 money and I was still happy with him. Some girls doesn't really care.
But just have enough for you, and if are going to pay for her just go to places that's affordable. Nothing expensive.

AlphaGhost · Answer

It will always matter bro and woman will always try to save their cash, they will try their best to make you pay for the date and then complain when guy left after tasting her pussy.

MollyTheOriginal · Answer

It *shouldn't* matter, anyhow. That said, there are people who want their SO to have a certain income to accommodate their lifestyle, and that happens for men and women, so it shouldn't be specific to men.

adoration · Answer

I don't think money is that important. Some women care about it but if a girl truly likes you I think it shouldn't matter.

GuidoThePizzaMaker · Answer

Depends on the woman
Ideally 0. But women are wired to be attracted to wealth and status
So you need to have at least 1 of the two, they also tend to be correlated
So showing off, is part of the price of reproduction in the modern age.

Contraception ruined relationships. Now you have to spend money on a woman, because she isn't having your kid, but still supplying you with sex. If she had the kid, both people would be focused on raising the child.

TacocaT6969 · Answer

None.  Love is love even if it’s in a poorly renovated refrigerator box.

leestella1999 · Answer

I think for me I really pay half then my boyfriend pay half so it is fair for both of us. One date I dated before the guy have not enough cash and love to be everything to be free and thinking I have too much cash until it piss me off

Lance1965 · Answer

If you can't live a comfortable life yourself then you probably shouldn't be dating. That is not to say don't date because love can cost nothing but realistically you have a lot of work in front of you to make a female happy if you are broke.

Repa33 · Answer

My boyfriend had 10 dollars to his name on our first date and here we are

Dsg1193 · Answer

there's no set amount. It’s a matter of being able to pay bills and have enough to go out and have money ready for holidays.

Staiby · Answer

enough so that he's not a financial burden on her and can at least afford to treat her on her birthday

Cammy137 · Answer

My girlfriend and I balance everything out. Overall I haven't spent any money on her that she hasn't then spent back on me.

alice55 · Answer

Where I live women date men who have no money and don't work so I think it really depend on the woman.

Reach500 · Answer

When dating, you don't need a lot of money if you're creative. It's just when considering marriage, you want enough (combined) to run a household and to have a bit of stability.

DovaahKittyLady · Answer

It shouldn't matter but the reality is that you need money to pay bills and to go out anywhere unless it is walking distance. There is no set number since the cost of living varies by place!

Dchrls78104 · Answer

"Where love is sold to the highest bidder, there can be no trust, And where there is no trust,  there can be no love."

winterfox10 · Answer

Probably about $500, honestly. If you aren't comfortable devoting at least $300 to your relationship, then you probably shouldn't be dating.

Anonymous · Answer

If you think you need money to get women than take the discount option: prostitutes.

Seriously most women just want to see you are independent and have the ability to provide/protect for a future family.

loveslongnails · Answer

With some, an endless supply. With others, it truly makes no difference as long as you're into each other.

ChiTown33 · Answer

That's real simple. As much as he feels he needs. If it's a problem it's time for a different girlfriend because you're clearly with the wrong one.

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morrowlow · Answer

it really depends on the size of girls' ego. a few girls are cool but we still hear about gold diggers who date billionaires, get everything they desire and still talk shit

Smegskull · Answer

If you have money people with access to it will find a way to spend it, be it partner or kids. They didn't work for it so they don't feel protective of it like you do.

Anonymous · Answer

The answer SHOULD be: exactly as much as it she needs in order to date him. The reality, of course, is that women have zero interest in equality when in comes to these issues.

asianfreak · Answer

Enough to take care of himself and his partner. He doesn’t need to be a millionaire or billionaire, he just needs to use and manage it wisely.

up_64 · Answer

More than she considers she's worth. Hypergamy mandates than women always date up.

codycccccccccc · Answer

Around $1000/week or if you want a rental $120-300/hour

stf75013 · Answer

The more money you have, the more "women" you attract...

tesm69 · Answer

Why bother to date if there's no spare cash? Surely the object of dating is that both you and your go out and have fun (well one of the objects anyway :0))

CT_CD · Answer

It's the best to not bother dating women while being a broke guy

caesarsalad77 · Answer

I don't know just depends ha I'm only making 22 dollars an hour and it seems to be enough

Pulimuli · Answer

doesn't matter unless you are looking for a woman who will use you for your money

Anonymous · Answer

Enough to support yourself because she should have a job

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