How soon do you want the second date?

[OlderAndWiser]

If the first date went well, how soon do you want the second date to be?

The next day/night

2-4 days later

The following weekend

Two weeks later

Maybe more than two weeks later

[Lliam]

I'd say asap. But it depends on level of interest, comfort levels, mutual schedules and distance from each other. The dates don't have to be up tight or orchestrated like fancy dinner or anything. Some can just be hanging out together to chat casually, like over coffee or while walking or doing something fun.

I don't like playing psych games like trying to second guess the amount of time to wait in order to either not seem desperate or to achieve some kind of upper hand or whatever. I know there are some videos out there by self-professed "players" who give advice about how to maximize success in getting into women's heads. I think all that is bullshit. It seems dishonest and manipulative.

I'm also a fan of chatting on the phone regularly as friends in order to get to know each other. I don't think you can do that by texting.

[OlderAndWiser]

I am with you 100%!

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

A couple of days later, generally.

[Anonymous]

Depends on schedules but if he leaves it longer than I week I presume he’s not interested.

[OlderAndWiser]

Exactly! If she doesn't want to see me the following weekend, I will be looking for someone else to go out with next Saturday night.

[Opinion Owner]

Can’t say I blame you. Sounds fair. When you’re excited about someone you can’t wait to see them again.

[ItsACatWorld]

Exactly!
The problem is most people don't get excited because they've caught FOMO.

[AwesomeLadaaay]

Asap

[OlderAndWiser]

I'm with you! None of this game playing; if you both had fun, be honest with each other and go have more fun! Why wait?

[AwesomeLadaaay]

Exactly!

[Unit1]

I agree with you both as well.

[StingRayxoxo]

Probably the following weekend would be the most practical but of our schedules allowed, it could be sooner.

[sean1234]

schedules... people are just so busy these days. People have to make an appointment just to go out on a date.

[StingRayxoxo]

True

[sean1234]

Its another reason why I've always been single.

[StingRayxoxo]

I always had trouble actually meeting someone because I live in a small town and I'm pretty busy. Finding time to go on dates wasn't as difficult as actually meeting someone.

[sean1234]

I live in
Gwinnett County · Population
927,781 (2018)

and never have been able to find anyone.

[sean1234]

... go figure

[Logorithim]

A few days later. If it went well, I'm not going to want to wait a week to see her again unless I have to.

[Pinay_ako]

Within the same week. 2-3 days later. Keep building the momentum

[SuperManiac]

As soon as she's up for it. Next day is fine with me and I often went on second date the next day. It was also usually easy since I lived in very urban areas like LA and Taiwan and Tokyo, and usually the girl didn't live too far away and we could very conveniently meet each other after work without driving to distant places (and in Tokyo and Taiwan, I often didn't even bother to drive and we met at a train station).

My dating style was also very casual (not necessarily always dressing up fancy) and kind of like just "hanging out" in the beginning, so I was okay with just meeting up after work and have some dinner and fun.

[Xoxocutekitty]

I find the sooner the better. If you put things off too long, someone gets bored or meets someone better. It's not really fair how dating works, but if you want feelings to develop, they either have to happen right away or you sort of get stuck in the friendzone.

[Izumiblu]

I don't know. Can’t say I’ve had enough shots at actual typical dating scenarios for me to know what I prefer. I guess I probably don’t prefer dates at all tbh

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you just get married and then figure it out later? :) :) :)

[Izumiblu]

Lol yeah.

Mostly I only have dated guys that I’ve been friends with for a while and for me the transition from hanging out as platonic friends to something of romantic interest is usually kind of grey. I’m usually interested a while before I make it known so the first date isn’t even like a first date etc etc.

[Kota-the-Unhearted]

2-3 days to a week later if we have the time. Keep in contact of course. It allows us to truly think about what we feel for eachother. If we meet up the next day there might be the whole "honeymoon" phase and then 2 or 3 weeks later they no longer feel the same for you. Or maybe I'm just too cautious.

[NineBreaker]

Personally, I think it should be whenever convenient to both parties. The reality is that almost all of us have work, school, and other obligations, so the next day or couple of days is not usually feasible, unless there's a particular plan.

In a week or two, would be reasonabl for me. If you're planning a couple of events, one on Saturday, and one on Sunday... Sure! Even then, that's not common.

[DiegoO]

2-4 days. Waiting till the following weekend can be risky (if it would be only the second date). Is like trying to light up a campfire. If you saw sparks that gave you a little flame wile you are working on it, certainly you would not expect the flame to grow alone, it would need to be feed with dry vegetation, then with woods, until you get that campfire you work for.

[DiegoO]

* ... with dry vegetation, then with woods, the soonest of possible (...)

[Wolframium]

And as usually, only constant.
It varies and it depends. That would be my answer.
Someone with the name „OlderAndWiser“ should get it. I think.

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay, but most other users have an answer to the question.

[Wolframium]

I am not like most users, and I believe it matters also for most users.
What if date didn't go well? Or what if it's just fine? Get it?
It depends.
Why are people so simple? Context matters.

[OlderAndWiser]

The question states, "IF THE FIRST DATE WENT WELL, how soon do you want the second date to be?"

[Wolframium]

Yeah, sometimes I'm retarded and not read.
Cool.
But it still depends. For me. It would matter on many aspects.

[Miss_Savanna_Dry]

The following weekend* not too soon and not too much time between the initial first date and the second date. I'd be willing to go on a second date even a few days after the first date.

[ecfresh]

Keep the momentum going while not sacrificing other weekly responsibilities. The next weekend is the best, gives time for reflection while slowing some anticipation.

[elissa23Trans]

If I like him a lot, I wouldn’t mind having a date every day lol

[SexyAshh]

Depends on if i really liked the guy!. Would be whenever he asked for next

[HOAAH]

We talked via messages on Facebook every day after the first date. The second one was the weekend after.

[jgokgotit]

For me there is no real timeline as long as I know whether or not there will be. I hate it when girls ghost though.

[pleasestopthis]

I never dated someone I wasn't familiar with... so I don't know how it'd be in a first blind date scenario... but the following weekend sounds good. Not so soon, not so far away.

[lovedejj_xo]

Our second date was a week later lol and we’ve seen each other every week now for a date. Went on one last night and then he’s coming to a party with me Saturday night... not really a date but still.

[monkeynutts]

Unfortunately it's expensive. So I would probably chose the next fortnight.

[Shuri]

4-7 days later. I picked 'next weekend' but it can be sooner. Not the next night, though.