How soon do you want the second date?

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If the first date went well, how soon do you want the second date to be?

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I'd say asap. But it depends on level of interest, comfort levels, mutual schedules and distance from each other. The dates don't have to be up tight or orchestrated like fancy dinner or anything. Some can just be hanging out together to chat casually, like over coffee or while walking or doing something fun.

I don't like playing psych games like trying to second guess the amount of time to wait in order to either not seem desperate or to achieve some kind of upper hand or whatever. I know there are some videos out there by self-professed "players" who give advice about how to maximize success in getting into women's heads. I think all that is bullshit. It seems dishonest and manipulative.

I'm also a fan of chatting on the phone regularly as friends in order to get to know each other. I don't think you can do that by texting.

Jean-Marie_Céline · Accepted Answer

A couple of days later, generally.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Depends on schedules but if he leaves it longer than I week I presume he’s not interested.

AwesomeLadaaay · Accepted Answer

Asap

StingRayxoxo · Answer

Probably the following weekend would be the most practical but of our schedules allowed, it could be sooner.

Logorithim · Answer

A few days later. If it went well, I'm not going to want to wait a week to see her again unless I have to.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Within the same week. 2-3 days later. Keep building the momentum

SuperManiac · Answer

As soon as she's up for it. Next day is fine with me and I often went on second date the next day. It was also usually easy since I lived in very urban areas like LA and Taiwan and Tokyo, and usually the girl didn't live too far away and we could very conveniently meet each other after work without driving to distant places (and in Tokyo and Taiwan, I often didn't even bother to drive and we met at a train station).

My dating style was also very casual (not necessarily always dressing up fancy) and kind of like just "hanging out" in the beginning, so I was okay with just meeting up after work and have some dinner and fun.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

I find the sooner the better. If you put things off too long, someone gets bored or meets someone better. It's not really fair how dating works, but if you want feelings to develop, they either have to happen right away or you sort of get stuck in the friendzone.

Izumiblu · Answer

I don't know. Can’t say I’ve had enough shots at actual typical dating scenarios for me to know what I prefer. I guess I probably don’t prefer dates at all tbh

Kota-the-Unhearted · Answer

2-3 days to a week later if we have the time. Keep in contact of course. It allows us to truly think about what we feel for eachother. If we meet up the next day there might be the whole "honeymoon" phase and then 2 or 3 weeks later they no longer feel the same for you. Or maybe I'm just too cautious.

NineBreaker · Answer

Personally, I think it should be whenever convenient to both parties. The reality is that almost all of us have work, school, and other obligations, so the next day or couple of days is not usually feasible, unless there's a particular plan.

In a week or two, would be reasonabl for me. If you're planning a couple of events, one on Saturday, and one on Sunday... Sure! Even then, that's not common.

DiegoO · Answer

2-4 days. Waiting till the following weekend can be risky (if it would be only the second date). Is like trying to light up a campfire. If you saw sparks that gave you a little flame wile you are working on it, certainly you would not expect the flame to grow alone, it would need to be feed with dry vegetation, then with woods, until you get that campfire you work for.

Wolframium · Answer

And as usually, only constant. It varies and it depends. That would be my answer. Someone with the name „OlderAndWiser“ should get it. I think.

Miss_Savanna_Dry · Answer

The following weekend* not too soon and not too much time between the initial first date and the second date. I'd be willing to go on a second date even a few days after the first date.

ecfresh · Answer

Keep the momentum going while not sacrificing other weekly responsibilities. The next weekend is the best, gives time for reflection while slowing some anticipation.

elissa23Trans · Answer

If I like him a lot, I wouldn’t mind having a date every day lol

SexyAshh · Answer

Depends on if i really liked the guy!. Would be whenever he asked for next

HOAAH · Answer

We talked via messages on Facebook every day after the first date. The second one was the weekend after.

jgokgotit · Answer

For me there is no real timeline as long as I know whether or not there will be. I hate it when girls ghost though.

pleasestopthis · Answer

I never dated someone I wasn't familiar with... so I don't know how it'd be in a first blind date scenario... but the following weekend sounds good. Not so soon, not so far away.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

Our second date was a week later lol and we’ve seen each other every week now for a date. Went on one last night and then he’s coming to a party with me Saturday night... not really a date but still.

monkeynutts · Answer

Unfortunately it's expensive. So I would probably chose the next fortnight.

Shuri · Answer

4-7 days later. I picked 'next weekend' but it can be sooner. Not the next night, though.

LegendarySir · Answer

No longer than a week after. Between 5-7 days would be ideal.

Lman3000 · Answer

If I did, I'd say next week but try to change up the date a bit

sean1234 · Answer

at my age, I wouldn't want it to end.

Anjali090 · Answer

Hahacthe next day ! 👍

Kayla45 · Answer

Like a week or 2 is fine

mrArcher · Answer

I don't date. I just go out.

Scarecrow13 · Answer

I would say if it is not within the next month, there's probably not a lot there.

MlleCake · Answer

No more than 9 days later.

JackSmy · Answer

When our schedules allow. . .

TacosRAwesome · Answer

The following weekend at least.

Massageman · Answer

The next weekend feels about right.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Been years since I wanted a second date.

zagor · Answer

Kind of depends on our respective schedules.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

B or C, depending upon our schedules.

Iron_Man · Answer

The next Saturday night will be just fine

Twalli · Answer

It depends on our schedules.

Samhanks · Answer

Depends on your emotions !

LuWe22 · Answer

We had a date every weekend

GraveDoll · Answer

the coming weekend.

softwhelks · Answer

The next week probably

Paris13 · Answer

Weekend Again. xxoo

Slim57 · Answer

Probably the second weekend

Dreagon · Answer

Between 1-2 weeks.

alice55 · Answer

1 week after.

Zerstörer · Answer

As soon as possible. ^^

Kazzza · Answer

Week later

Wowgirl30q · Answer

Three days to a week

DeviloftheValleys · Answer

A week or two later.

DOMDADDY999 · Answer

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