Like you mentioned in your question update, being a single mom tends to send off buzzers to other men (I admit that I sometimes have these preconceived notions). I think it's because when a man likes a woman it can seem degrading to him or his role when the woman biologically fathers a child with somebody else, it's kind of like that other person "stole" their opportunity.
It’s a tuff position to take on, for a guy without his own, I got married to a mother with 2 boys and then we had 3 daughters together, we lasted 17 years and now I’m just looking for moms with older children or no children. Your best bet is a someone that had kids already , probably aren’t with him anyway because the mother usually gets them and he might want one with you still
Why would i want someone with baggage when i can get someone without baggage? Sorry not sorry. I did consider a single mom once, she was 12 years younger than me, the hottest girl i ever met in my life and was completely obedient and sweet and respectful... i still turned her down because i want my own kids and not some other dude who fucked hers kid and i dont want him around either.
Why is the man who is NOT the father a coward? He didn’t make the child. Why the hell do women get mad at the man who prefers not to get into that relationship rather than the man who helped make the woman a single mother in the first place? It’s no man’s responsibility to raise your child except the biological father. A woman makes a decision not to be a mother and we call that women’s right to choose. But a man says hey you know I don’t want to be responsible for a child that isn’t biologically mine and he’s not a “real man” and a cowards. Total BS.
Pfooosh, I am so sorry for you, sister. You're the diamond in the rough, the rough being all the other single moms. You have no idea just how radical it is for a single mom to acknowledge the fact that it's bad for their kids. I wish you success. I think the best thing to do is to try to appear as put together and preoccupied in the eyes of the man you're trying to get with and try to find a man who'll be inspired to step up and lead the family.
Any guy that runs away just because you have a child isn't worth your time don't get discouraged there are good men out there in due time don't ever put a man before your child don't listen to idiots calling you a come dumpster or anything like that There fucking retarded & I bet there come dumpsters themself
First of all you’re thirty seven years old. Get real lady. No smart man your age wants to be with a woman your age, and you gave your best years up being the father’s cumdumpster. I want my own kids, not some other man’s. That’s why.
No guy wants to raise another mans children, they want their own. The relationship itself is a process and when you couple in someones children it just makes things even more difficult.
Your dating pool is very very small I suggest looking for weak desperate men who dont know any better and can be used to help raise your kids
Well, it's going to sound harsh but I would rather be honest : it would personally bother me to have to deal with the consequences of a failed relationship, to take care of a child that is not mine. I am young so my views could change but that's how I see it. Besides, I heard some single mothers in the USA can become really bitter against men and many men just don't want to dal with that.
1st off nokia needs a mother or a father there are keys they grow up in Foster homes that are better than kids they grow up in a house with a mom and dad
Anyway to answer your question most men even women who dated a single dad don't want to deal with someone else's kids
They don't want to spend their lives raising another man's child. Nothing mysterious about that. Why would't they prefer to carry on their own genes? No big mystery there. Maybe try single fathers.
Kids need their father, not some generic plug in. A guy is never going to care for your kid like it’s his own. Most guys are honest enough about that to not get involved in the first place.
No man, according to this one, the males of the world OWE her children a father. It's a fact, her kids need one, so she will just get him and plug him in - he does the caring, she can be a whore all over again. Her excuse/justification - well, the children need it. The worst type of woman.
Because we do not want kids... maybe ever or if we do we want to be single and carefree with a girl until we decide to marry and THEN have kids... way down the road. We do not want kids from day one... we do not want to raise some other guys kids.
Im single and I've considered being in a relationship with a single mom only because its easier to find a single mom that's interested in me than a single woman with no kids because she has higher standards. I'm also relying on dating sites because i find it unprofessional to hit on customers at work. So far i haven't had much luck attracting female coworkers. Its hard to be confident and charismatic when uve walked in my shoes.
They don't want to deal with your children and probably are not ready to be a father or even a father figure where they are in life. I also wouldn't be interested in dating a single mother at the moment. Maybe 10 years from now I might.
I highly value my own time, and the freedom to do what I want, when I want. When I'm off work, I want to be able to spend that time with my partner, doing things I enjoy, not worrying about children.
Beyond that, the high amount of financial savings from not having to support children, not having to constantly stress about their wellbeing, and just less headache overall. I've never met a child that I'd enjoy being around for more than a couple hours haha.
It helps that I have no real dream or motivation to have kids like some other people seem to have. I've never felt that pull or need
I could also get into the whole idea of not bringing more kids into an already fucked up system, where their future is inevitably going to be filled with hardship and disappointment due to humanity's impact on the planet.
If I'm being honest, I've avoided fathers because I don't want more kids. I might need to reevaluate that thinking. But how to transport/house so many? I have three of my own. Any more and I'd have to get a minivan. And I can't afford a bigger place. Integrating a step parent can be a messy transition, but then adding step sibling (s)? True chaos. But like I said, maybe I should rethink that...
I myself have 2 young boys (twins). But if it came down to getting a 5+ bedroom home and a minivan. I would consider it for the right person/situation.
While it is more common to see or hear about a single parent being a mother rather then a father.
I would wager that roughly about a 1/3 are single fathers. Who have custody of there kids. And are doing their best to raise their children. While have similar struggles when it comes to dating or meeting someone new.
Since a lot of people have misconceptions about single parent families.
If women had adequate logic and science, devoid of emotion, they could answer this one on their own: we live in a system of evolution, same as all the other animals on this planet have been doing for millions of years; so why would I raise another male's offspring? You like the cuckoo bird tryin to drop some eggs off in my nest for me to raise for you? Come on, snap out of Disney fairytale "logic", AKA female "logic", and start using actual logic based in science, AKA man's logic
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Like you mentioned in your question update, being a single mom tends to send off buzzers to other men (I admit that I sometimes have these preconceived notions). I think it's because when a man likes a woman it can seem degrading to him or his role when the woman biologically fathers a child with somebody else, it's kind of like that other person "stole" their opportunity.
It’s a tuff position to take on, for a guy without his own, I got married to a mother with 2 boys and then we had 3 daughters together, we lasted 17 years and now I’m just looking for moms with older children or no children. Your best bet is a someone that had kids already , probably aren’t with him anyway because the mother usually gets them and he might want one with you still
Why would i want someone with baggage when i can get someone without baggage? Sorry not sorry. I did consider a single mom once, she was 12 years younger than me, the hottest girl i ever met in my life and was completely obedient and sweet and respectful... i still turned her down because i want my own kids and not some other dude who fucked hers kid and i dont want him around either.
They're cowards who are afraid of the responsibility... don't worry tho your kids are better off with a man who is actually a man
Not necessarily cowards. they may see thing's in a different light that is disfavored for desperate single parents.
Why is the man who is NOT the father a coward? He didn’t make the child. Why the hell do women get mad at the man who prefers not to get into that relationship rather than the man who helped make the woman a single mother in the first place? It’s no man’s responsibility to raise your child except the biological father. A woman makes a decision not to be a mother and we call that women’s right to choose. But a man says hey you know I don’t want to be responsible for a child that isn’t biologically mine and he’s not a “real man” and a cowards. Total BS.
@suncookie Try that again, but not drunk...
@suncookie You are pathetic if you truly believe that.
they simply dont want to raise kids who aren't their own. you'll find the right man one day and he will be worth the wait.
Pfooosh, I am so sorry for you, sister. You're the diamond in the rough, the rough being all the other single moms.
You have no idea just how radical it is for a single mom to acknowledge the fact that it's bad for their kids.
I wish you success. I think the best thing to do is to try to appear as put together and preoccupied in the eyes of the man you're trying to get with and try to find a man who'll be inspired to step up and lead the family.
Any guy that runs away just because you have a child isn't worth your time don't get discouraged there are good men out there in due time don't ever put a man before your child don't listen to idiots calling you a come dumpster or anything like that There fucking retarded & I bet there come dumpsters themself
First of all you’re thirty seven years old. Get real lady. No smart man your age wants to be with a woman your age, and you gave your best years up being the father’s cumdumpster. I want my own kids, not some other man’s. That’s why.
No guy wants to raise another mans children, they want their own. The relationship itself is a process and when you couple in someones children it just makes things even more difficult.
Your dating pool is very very small I suggest looking for weak desperate men who dont know any better and can be used to help raise your kids
Well, it's going to sound harsh but I would rather be honest : it would personally bother me to have to deal with the consequences of a failed relationship, to take care of a child that is not mine. I am young so my views could change but that's how I see it. Besides, I heard some single mothers in the USA can become really bitter against men and many men just don't want to dal with that.
1st off nokia needs a mother or a father there are keys they grow up in Foster homes that are better than kids they grow up in a house with a mom and dad
Anyway to answer your question most men even women who dated a single dad don't want to deal with someone else's kids
Being a father is a daunting task.
Little guys are ready to be a good boyfriend.
Lesser guys are ready to be a good husband.
Even lesser guys are ready to be a good father.
Do you mean 'fewer' guys? Because I'd agree with that.
They don't want to spend their lives raising another man's child. Nothing mysterious about that. Why would't they prefer to carry on their own genes? No big mystery there. Maybe try single fathers.
Kids need their father, not some generic plug in. A guy is never going to care for your kid like it’s his own. Most guys are honest enough about that to not get involved in the first place.
No man, according to this one, the males of the world OWE her children a father. It's a fact, her kids need one, so she will just get him and plug him in - he does the caring, she can be a whore all over again. Her excuse/justification - well, the children need it. The worst type of woman.
Because we do not want kids... maybe ever or if we do we want to be single and carefree with a girl until we decide to marry and THEN have kids... way down the road. We do not want kids from day one... we do not want to raise some other guys kids.
Im single and I've considered being in a relationship with a single mom only because its easier to find a single mom that's interested in me than a single woman with no kids because she has higher standards. I'm also relying on dating sites because i find it unprofessional to hit on customers at work. So far i haven't had much luck attracting female coworkers. Its hard to be confident and charismatic when uve walked in my shoes.
They don't want to deal with your children and probably are not ready to be a father or even a father figure where they are in life.
I also wouldn't be interested in dating a single mother at the moment. Maybe 10 years from now I might.
I personally wouldn't be interested in dating a mother since I don't want kids myself, so dating someone who already has them is out of the question.
While I respect your choices, why don't you want children? I'm curious.
I highly value my own time, and the freedom to do what I want, when I want. When I'm off work, I want to be able to spend that time with my partner, doing things I enjoy, not worrying about children.
Beyond that, the high amount of financial savings from not having to support children, not having to constantly stress about their wellbeing, and just less headache overall. I've never met a child that I'd enjoy being around for more than a couple hours haha.
It helps that I have no real dream or motivation to have kids like some other people seem to have. I've never felt that pull or need
I could also get into the whole idea of not bringing more kids into an already fucked up system, where their future is inevitably going to be filled with hardship and disappointment due to humanity's impact on the planet.
*nods* Yep, truth. I don't have a lot of free time. But I don't kids cost as much as people think. (Shrug) You do you.
I believe if you take the time to raise them right, you create a brighter future.
Fair, I don't know the exact cost, I just know it'd be more than were it just my partner and I.
That's the other reason there won't be kids in my future, as my partner has absolutely 0 interest in having children either.
And yeah, I'll admit I have a fairly pessimistic perspective on the future of our planet, lol
I would almost rather date a single mother.
Due to me being a single father.
Would just hope everyone got along well.
If I'm being honest, I've avoided fathers because I don't want more kids. I might need to reevaluate that thinking. But how to transport/house so many? I have three of my own. Any more and I'd have to get a minivan. And I can't afford a bigger place. Integrating a step parent can be a messy transition, but then adding step sibling (s)? True chaos. But like I said, maybe I should rethink that...
Depends on the person and the situation really. Sometimes it can be a nightmare to have a blended family. But other times it can be the best option.
I myself have 2 young boys (twins). But if it came down to getting a 5+ bedroom home and a minivan. I would consider it for the right person/situation.
I like your positive outlook...
And my son sure wouldn't mind some brothers. Lol
The single Mom that asked me out. One day I heard her saying she wouldn't date single fathers. I wonder how common that is.
While it is more common to see or hear about a single parent being a mother rather then a father.
I would wager that roughly about a 1/3 are single fathers. Who have custody of there kids. And are doing their best to raise their children. While have similar struggles when it comes to dating or meeting someone new.
Since a lot of people have misconceptions about single parent families.
If women had adequate logic and science, devoid of emotion, they could answer this one on their own: we live in a system of evolution, same as all the other animals on this planet have been doing for millions of years; so why would I raise another male's offspring? You like the cuckoo bird tryin to drop some eggs off in my nest for me to raise for you? Come on, snap out of Disney fairytale "logic", AKA female "logic", and start using actual logic based in science, AKA man's logic