So the only difference is that one gives you an actual "response", which is negative, and the other gives you "no response", which is also negative. Something screams out to me that the bottom line is the same. "We don't match" is just 3 words beyond no words at all.
@loveslongnails the thing is that getting a negative response doesn't you wondering. It's also not disrespectful. Well, it can be depending on what they say I suppose, but my experience is overwhelmingly that women are kind about rejecting me, and I don't even skip a beat anymore. I usually try to befriend them next.
You might find it comforting if the rejection is put "nicely", but what if it isn't? What if the words are "Us a match... are you kidding? I don't even know why I'm wasting my breath talking to you". Also, what if the woman doesn't "like" rejecting people, even with nice words, and thinks of it as confrontation she wants to avoid? So, she just doesn't respond and figures "he'll get the idea and I won't have to say anything". I can agree it's better to hear "we're really not a match" if there's some mutual respect and it's genuine.
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It's tough. On one hand, no one likes to be rejected, but on the other if you are ignored you may wonder why.
What's the difference?
Hi @MelissaFlori, You're probably a lovely lady, but the way you're writing is offputting. Be more real
Also, where does that link go? Lots of scammers put links like that in messages
Rejected is "We don't match"
Ignored is "You're not worth my time"
@loveslongnails (not sure if you'll be notified if I don't tag you)
Rejected is "We don't match"
Ignored is "You're not worth my time"
So the only difference is that one gives you an actual "response", which is negative, and the other gives you "no response", which is also negative. Something screams out to me that the bottom line is the same. "We don't match" is just 3 words beyond no words at all.
@loveslongnails the thing is that getting a negative response doesn't you wondering. It's also not disrespectful. Well, it can be depending on what they say I suppose, but my experience is overwhelmingly that women are kind about rejecting me, and I don't even skip a beat anymore. I usually try to befriend them next.
You might find it comforting if the rejection is put "nicely", but what if it isn't? What if the words are "Us a match... are you kidding? I don't even know why I'm wasting my breath talking to you". Also, what if the woman doesn't "like" rejecting people, even with nice words, and thinks of it as confrontation she wants to avoid? So, she just doesn't respond and figures "he'll get the idea and I won't have to say anything". I can agree it's better to hear "we're really not a match" if there's some mutual respect and it's genuine.
I rather you be straight up and tell me you’re not interested than leading me astray.
Ignored, which is what has been my case for this life anyway. Mostly never been rejected directly.
Ignored. That way if a woman does want my attention, it is more obvious.
Ignored. I’m always being rejected so by being ignored they don’t have to tell me Not a ducking chance in hell
I would rather be rejected outright because I don't want to hold on to false hope forever. Just crush me and get it over with.
Rejected, you can learn from it at least...
at least then you have clarity and you won't be kept wondering
Being ignored hurts. TRUST ME I SPEAK FROM EXPERIENCE. But it hurts less then rejection.
Rejected. Being ignored leaves too many what ifs.
Rejection in a nice way though
Rejection. Doesn't bother me and then I know.
I'd rather be rejected
I guess both would be about the same so both
Definitely rejected. You move on much quicker.
100% rather just be ghosted. less messy
i have no desire to discuss our feelings. if you dont like me then just fuck on
@ijusthadonequestion "I'm sorry. You seem like a lovely lady. Want to be friends? :)"
You'd rather be ghosted than that?
that would insult me more
@ijusthadonequestion oh.. why?
being asked to be friends would insult me. i dont think any girl would want to be friends if they were romantically interested in you.
Rejection
rejected with an explanation would be best for me
Rejected, at least you have an answer