This guy at work who I’m friends with recently told me he really likes me, but is cautious to ask me out as we work together. He’s hinted at dates but not followed through, although I’ve said I’m interested. We’ve only been out as a group with work and in recent nights out we’ve had a great time.
Yesterday I get a random message from him asking me to go round his to have sex. I responded that I’d like to go out a few times and see how things go and let them progress naturally. He replied saying that he likes natural progression and anything that happens with him starts with sex early on and he gets some people aren’t into that. He then said he hopes he hadn’t ruined our friendship and then was really patronising talking to me as if I was a child. So basically as I didn’t sleep with him and see how things go with that, dating is also off the cards?
I was very cool about it all but inside I was a bit crushed. Today he messaged me apologising and saying he wishes he hadn’t done that yesterday morning. I don’t know if he said that out of maybe embarrassment as I said no or if he actually likes me and regrets trying to escalate it?
All I know now is I have to see him tomorrow and I’m so confused. I’m hurt as I thought he liked me and I feel awkward now knowing he doesn’t. Even more awkward that he wants to leave it now I didn't sleep with him. Please help! I feel like an idiot.
Yesterday I get a random message from him asking me to go round his to have sex. I responded that I’d like to go out a few times and see how things go and let them progress naturally. He replied saying that he likes natural progression and anything that happens with him starts with sex early on and he gets some people aren’t into that. He then said he hopes he hadn’t ruined our friendship and then was really patronising talking to me as if I was a child. So basically as I didn’t sleep with him and see how things go with that, dating is also off the cards?
I was very cool about it all but inside I was a bit crushed. Today he messaged me apologising and saying he wishes he hadn’t done that yesterday morning. I don’t know if he said that out of maybe embarrassment as I said no or if he actually likes me and regrets trying to escalate it?
All I know now is I have to see him tomorrow and I’m so confused. I’m hurt as I thought he liked me and I feel awkward now knowing he doesn’t. Even more awkward that he wants to leave it now I didn't sleep with him. Please help! I feel like an idiot.
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