Would you date a next door neighbor?

[SamirahD22]

So my neighbor expressed interest in me. He seems cool as hell and is very handsome.
But him being my neighbor is just too awkward. I feel bad cause he probably assumes I'm uninterested. Yikes

No! Too close to home

Yes , we can see each other everyday

Only if I moved then I'll reach out to him.

Updates

+1 y

So for those saying they would what are you going to do once you two break up and you see their new bf/gf coming over and Visa versa?

[SjE78]

my first serious relationship and the mother to my oledest two kids used to live next door to me, for many years mine and her families had a huge hatred of each other...
then we started getting along, they tried to find as much dirt on each other in order to come between us both but we got together when we were both 14-15 and was together oddly enough for 14, almost 15 years until our childhood friend came along and her family decided that they were gonna do what they could to push them pair together..

almost damned near destroyed me physically and mentally... but despite this, and while i would never forgive her for doing what she did, we get along now... as she experienced teh same pain i was subjected to when the guy she cheated on me with and left me for cheated on her.

so i would say yes i would and have done... and it's no different to dating anyone else, apart from convenience and no cost to travel too and from seeing them

[Dongtai]

1. Never assume you’re the only girl he notices in his life. Some guys are man enough to move on after taking their shot. Assume he is until he proves otherwise and if he’s not, just don’t speak to him again. Never feel bad for a man who’s brave enough to put their ego aside and show interest in “you”. It takes balls. The least any woman can do is respect us enough to give us a genuine yes or no. Don’t feel sorry for us if it’s not mutual. You aren’t the last woman on earth. We will be fine.

2. If they take their shot, say yes or no. Don’t make it weird. If you’re feeling us, say so. If you’re not, say so. Don’t project your guilt into us thinking feigning interest will make us feel good. It won’t. Just be honest.

[SamirahD22]

he's attractive yes but he's my neighbor so that's an automatic no for me. Too close to home. now if he wasn't my neighbor it would be different

[Dongtai]

Then tell him that so he knows where you’re at. If he’s respectable he’ll respect your answer and move on to someone who will say yes.

[bella4eva]

I personally wouldn't date a neighbour or a work colleague (unless he worked on another floor & division - I work for a very large Co). Too close to home. If it turns sour, it makes for a very awkward situation, which could also lead to you not feeling comfortable at home/work. But hey, I don't know your full situation (ie you could just be renting) so as long as you've considered all pros and cons, all the best to you! 😀

[CherryRoseChampange]

Nah, in my opinion it's too close to home. He could be a stalker. He's your neighbor it's just eh. If one of you move then maybe.

Plus, if things went bad he could see when other people come to your house and so on. It's just a little awkward.

[SamirahD22]

Exactly!! I'm surprised at the men who responded they would

[SamirahD22]

He is fine but damn too close

[OlderAndWiser]

It's great as long as you are both infatuated with the other, but the problems become overwhelming when things start turning to shit.

[lightbulb27]

What could possibly go wrong in a relationship? I don't understand. He is a him and she is a her, I mean they are made for each other? Im baffled? You mean those soap operas I watched as a kid were true? No way? (my 20 year old self...)

[lightbulb27]

I think it be thrilling and fun unless goes bad and he's a psycho. Need me to share a video to prove that scenario? If you are both good decent adult people, then it's fine.

so this really depends upon who you people are and possibly your friends.

My advice to all women... be an expert in judo, knife and gun defense. Be a bad ass with a soft and sweet side. Then, there are no problems... Somehow I don't think you are a push over and will stand your ground, so probably ok.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

From a Man's point of view definetly I am not gonna stop fro expressing myself, so from woman's point of view only if you are confident enough handle things if it goes south then go ahead be clear in the beginning about your concerns communicate that if the shit hits rough that you both are going to decline respectfully most men are guy of there word and they would respect it if you are totally honest and judging a relationship beforehand without even trying that it won't survive that means subconsciously you have already know you don't want to do it anways

[wekikz1990]

Love is always love, but I suggest you to know him better before being in a relationship with him, because if you 2 break up, it would be SUPER weird and uncomfortable, and over time you 2 will hate each other to the point where no one goes outside at the same time lol..

[DorkVader]

I'd date them. The worst case is after you break up, you have to see their new mate? You see that on Facebook. Just learn to mind your business if it happens. What if it works out? One of you saves on moving costs.

[broken_heart_at_48]

Yeah it would suck to have a falling out and have to live next to them. If you both could date and if it doesn't work out part ways with no hard feelings then why not but there's very few that are capable of this. I only had one bad break up and even with her we stayed friends

[DamnSam]

No, its like dating a coworker... if it ends bad, you got no chance not to see them again almost every day...

[SamirahD22]

Exactly

[loveslongnails]

What difference does it make if he's your neighbor? If you like him, date him and see what happens. You can worry about setting privacy boundaries later IF you even continue to see him !!! I don't know how to make an eye roll emoji, but insert that here !

[Lman3000]

Hmm be hella easier to see one another but let's be honest the percentage of you meeting your dream woman or super model neighbor let alone dating him/her is about as low as people actually using advice from this site which ha again is very low to none

[foxrider77]

Just be friends with benefits. He makes dinner you give him some fun. You rotate shifts. Then get to the really fun part.

[Hans222]

I would say B, because if the feelings are there it's gonna be impossible to stop them <3
Make a deal among you that if any of you feels like stopping it you revert to just being neighbors.

[SamirahD22]

there's no feelings yet lol. he's lived here for some time but I've barely got acquainted to him.

[bklynbadboy1]

Nah I wouldn't never shit where you eat that's way to close and if it doesn't work out you have to see him. That means if it a nasty breakup you have to see he and whatever new chic he's dating. Nah that shit ain't worth it

[bklynbadboy1]

You know you have to follow me cause you have to keep me posted I'm dying to know what your gonna do

[normalice]

As long as there was mutual physical attraction, sexual compatibility, and no glaring personality conflicts, sure..

[blutwolfe]

Well if shit ever hit the fan, it would be bad since he's a neighbor

[SamirahD22]

Exactly, I'm surprised so many people are saying they would. Imagine not getting time to yourself. Them knowing when you get home then if you dont respond to a text they can knock on your door.. maybe I'm overthing it but yeah

[blutwolfe]

Oh ya you find out they're the type that can't take no for an answer, breaking up would be a nightmare, friends with neighbors sure, dating no

[888theGreat]

Ok , you do and get married , what do you do with homes? Keep one and sell the other or rent it out? What happens if you have a bad breakup? Does he flatten your tires everyday? Now if you were in a n apartment complex , it might be ok.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

If i had a next door neighbor and we took interest in each other
i would give it a try but all depends on how we get along and stuff etc.

[SirRexington]

I have dated a neighbor. It didn't end well but we eventually came to forgive one another.

[ivbnlknfru]

Love has no boundaries, you will never know if you dont try...

[SamirahD22]

Were not in love we barely know each other

[Dchrls78104]

No. Not one of my neighbours is suitable---or even available---for me.

[msc545]

I have done that. Nice part is you don't need to drive in traffic to get home in the morning...

[nailu]

Absolutely b. I’m not a what if kinda guy. Presumably we’re both adults

[Dolemite510]

Unless you’re just living there temporarily that sounds like a bad idea tbh

[Anas_95]

Yes it's an amazing things I think too close many things are easy

[Anonymous]

Yeah. Sometimes my next door neighbor flashes me. I've jerked off to her while she watched from her bedroom window.

[FictionalCharacter]

No. They’re all women here in my area.

[Agape93]

Not my current ones lmao

[LuluDaisy]

Well it depends on age, kindness, and hotness

[zagor]

I wish I had a couple times. Never did.

[Kelly6]

Yes yes
much close much better

[Surely]

Your update says it all!

[codyccc]

Sure but my closest neighbor is 7km away

[Gedaria]

No, at the moment it's 2 guys...

[Twalli]

Yes, but their location would be a minor issue.

[LazyMan]

Yep I would. I we broke up tough titty.

[andy530]

Yeah I would I dint think it has to be awkward

[Max1109]

Of course but there is no one interested.

[Avicenna]

Sure

[Koalamate]

You only live once.

[Iron_Man]

Sure why not

[alance99]

Nope

[Aarush21]

It her choice