The boyfriend has double standards?

[Anonymous]

He will not talk about other girls and does not want to talk about his past girls, but I still talk about my past and who I was with and sometimes point out a “cute” guy etc. He doesn’t say too much about it but listens. Why such a double standard?

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+1 y

Well I didn’t say it, but have subtly hinted that it’s not okay when he does it

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+1 y

People are not understanding the question. He DOES talk about his dating past AND he pretty much discoloured it, BUT the question is about him not bringing it up in conversation or whatever. I do.

[btbc92]

That is not a double standard. He has morals and convictions that he does not share with you. You simply do it because you more than likely feel you have to prove something to somebody. Now if you are naturally an honest person that that is a different story. But if he doesn't want to talk about it then that's his business. Now if your relationship requirements is that you don't be with a person that you don't personally know, then I will say that yes, talkin about his past is definitely a must. But as far as him talking about other women sexually, that is highly inappropriate. And if you're doing that to him then you're doing wrong in and out of that relationship and he deserves better. I would not be with somebody who talks about other people. But either way, respect his boundaries and he is free to not say anything he didn't want. Plus, I think it's smart that he does remain silent around you. Because of you talking like that no offense but you sound like a gossiper. Or somebody that won't know how to keep their lip tight and what expose that to other people.

[Asker]

Don’t make statements like you know me hun lol

[btbc92]

If that is how you talk, then yeah that's why he doesn't want to say anything he's being a smart man. None of what I had to say was trying to make you out to be a bad person. I was simply stating a fact, and the fact is that he is not that type of person. Please respect it.

[Asker]

You’re making character judgements “You simply do it because”. You’re welcome to give your opinion, but you don’t need to attack someone’s character.

[Asker]

You’re wrong anyway.

[btbc92]

I'm not attacking your character. I'm only showing you and telling you exactly what you're revealing. Because at the end of the day who's the one that's dating you? He is the one that's eating you. Because I'm not just giving you my opinion, I'm only telling you exactly what he's more likely thinking. You can say I'm wrong, but you're the one that's living through that with this person. And if he doesn't like it, then hey you can't force them to like it.

[Asker]

He loves me

[Asker]

So much!!

[MsTaniaUncensored]

It would only be a double standard if he asked you about your dating past. If he didn't ask then you volunteered your past info he is not obligated to talk about it. That being said he should be open to it unless there is something traumatic about it he wishes to not discuss.

[Asker]

Update. You misunderstood the question hun.

[Despite]

Then find a different guy. This is your problem/fault. Kinda seems like a jerk if he won’t even tell you that. And or his taste might be all over the place. Or maybe there weren’t that many girls before you. It really depends on the guy.

[Asker]

No, he talks about it when I ask, but he knows not to mention other girls etc.

[Despite]

Yeah, I don't know. Things seem tough right now in terms of gender relations. I would like to know about a girl’s past but wouldn’t like her mentioning cute guys. That wouldn’t fly with me. Basically, he lets you do it and is like “eh, I guess”.

[Asker]

He’s scared to lose me because he knows I do not tolerate much

[Despite]

Lol that’d be funny. Jk jk. No, I don't know. But don’t blame him

[Asker]

I don’t blame him. I’m the best.

[Despite]

Maybe that’s why he doesn’t talk about other girls?

[Despite]

Yeah, I’m not bringing up my dating past in conversation. If that’s a double standard then I just don’t care haha. Maybe he’s the same way

[Asker]

It’s a good thing!!

[Anonymous]

That's not what double standard means. A double standard is when someone says something isn't ok for one person, but it is ok for another. There is no one in this situation saying something isn't acceptable for anyone.

[Ripper_E]

How is it a double standard. Does he ask you to talk about it?