How are nice guys manipulative?

[Anonymous]

[Oigit]

The same answer can be applied to manipulative people across the board. They have used manipulation to get something out of people, it worked, so they continue to do it. Also people tend to target people during emotionally charged situations. So things like dating a relationship can be the ideal situations for manipulation.

While the saying "Fallow your heart, but don't leave your mind behind" is mostly applied to dating a relationships it can be applied to emotional manipulation in general. Because the quickest way to open yourself up to emotional manipulation is to allow your emotions to completely over take your thought processes. It's the main people don't see all the red flags or hear the blaring sirens going of before the manipulation starts. Aspects of our thought processes such as critical thinking, logical thought and reanalyzing past events get over taken by pure emotion.

[Liam_Hayden]

Nice guys aren't "Nice Guys" aka guys who fake niceness in order to get sex, are. They think each "nice" thing they do adds a mark to their ticket, and when it's filled they can trade it in for a BJ.

[Asker]

What if a guy is doing this because he wants a relationship?

[itsuptoyougurl96]

Nice guys are generally trustworthy. Generally. Some use that trust you’ve given them to be passive aggressive in an attempt to appear confident. A confident guy is just a guy that’s good at hiding his feelings and emotions. Find a way in, perhaps say you want to meet his mother. Watch his body language for clues. You’ll get there because not all guys are dicks.

[Whatever2929292]

Someone who is actually a nice guy ins't being nice in order to get something (i. e sex, money, etc.) He is just nice.

What you mean are "nice guys" the kind that come in and act all nice and do nice things for either sex or they get abusive later down the road

[allenwants2]

It's to bad he coughed up those favors cause now there not favors they were loans he just didn't explain the terms of repayment

[Asker]

Exactly. He was a fake nice guy

[peedy]

I've aways been a nice guy and let me tell you the way it is first off you got that all wrong its manipulated

[Asker]

Self proclaimed nice guys are manipulative

[Asker]

I want your opinion on something. This guy who is shy and insecure we started as friends. I guess he developed feelings for me. We never hanged out at all. He was there for me always. In an argument he threw it in my face that he was there for me. He said I played games and just used him when I was bored. In a sense he acts entitled. Is that manipulative?

[peedy]

Kinda in way its manipulative but its more like passive aggressive behavior he's to shy to come out a say it or do it so he's trying a back door approach throw in some frustration and inexperience and there it is
Question do you like him and or willing to go out with him? Do you want him?
If the answer is yes than I suggest you take the lead if the answer is no than you'll have to walk away and never talk to him again because that's going to hurt him and when someone hurt like that anything could happen and its just that's going to take time to get over

[Anonymous]

I don't know. That seems awfully contradictory. Maybe he isn't really a nice guy.

[Asker]

I think so as well. I think he just appeared that way because he is very quiet and shy. This guy was my friend but really he wanted a relationship with me. It was toxic because although I initiated contact I didn’t hang out with him

[xZoeyx]

it’s part of the manipulation

[JosyJosy]

By not being nice.

[Asker]

I’m friends with this guy and he is shy and insecure. I think he exposed himself because although he may be these things I think he is manipulative

[JosyJosy]

Someone who is manipulative most of the time, is usually not a nice person

[Asker]

I want your opinion on something. This guy we started as friends. I guess he developed feelings for me. We never hanged out at all. He was there for me always. In an argument he threw it in my face that he was there for me. In a sense he acts entitled. Is that manipulative?

[JosyJosy]

What's the argument about?

[Asker]

Basically how I just used him for attention and boredom. I wasn’t interested in anything but I would text him

[JosyJosy]

Ah then you're the manipulator not him. Him saying what he said is because he felt betrayed.

[Asker]

I’m speaking from his perspective. He feels I wasn’t interested in anything because I didn’t want to hang out. I wanted friendship only and I told him that

[JosyJosy]

Then I suppose he is ya, or he just wants this friendship to improve and if you don't want to then he picked the wrong person, he can't force you :)