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I was reading an article that said almost 50% of eligible adult singles are simply not interested in having a relationship.
I don't drive and my permit is expired. I still have a girlfriend. At the present time with COVID-19 dating may nor be feasible, but not driving should not be a deciding factor for you to date.
Everyone has such high standards/preferences now days and it's hard to meet the standards some girls/guys falls for the good looking jerks and others for the good looking (everyone is beautiful in their own way) sweet guys/girls
You asked a question to get a general opinion - to me it sounds like you’re the problem in your situation. Why exactly are you turning down women for such a simple fact that you don’t drive?
It is not hard, you just keep turning them down apparently.
I'm not turning them down. they're turning me down. My common rejections are not driving others reason are stupid like My looks which I have no control over, not strong enough chemistries connections and blah blah blah. So I stopped dating a few months ago.
“I been rejecting both attractive and unattractive woman with kindness. I told them that I'm flattered but I don't drive...”
I’m sorry, I’m having a difficult time understanding you - might have been a misunderstanding. Anyway have a nice day
Yup..
Hey scott04, trust me, it's not you. Women reject you when they dont know if you have choosen/selected them. Sometimes they reject on their own insecurity but make it out like you are not good enough for them. They date guys who are in a better position to make a choice. So naturally, they will date all the guys popular with other women because they are in a position to choose. You dont actually have to be a great guy to get a girl, it's just that women have a lame way of determining if you have chosen them or not. They are too picky in deciding if your interest in them is genuine. They tend to pick the guys that dont need them because if the guys that dont need them start showing interest, it means they really like them. Have a look for James Marshall - what women want. It changed me that youtube video.
There is 3 stages I'm aware of guys may experience while on the journey of discovering how to connect with the opposite sex. Sadly females only understand stage one when you talk to them about your problems.
Stage 1: You dont feel valuable and so you never feel you are good enough to have a girlfriend. Low confidence etc.
Stage 2: You have something that you know in your heart that is cool. Maybe you are financially successful, maybe it's as simple as that cool dance move you have on the stage, but you know that it is cool but the world doesn't seem to acknowledge it or notice it and girls ignore you when you go up to them and talk to them and then when you talk to someone, especially a female about your problems, you get the same annoying words "oh, you just need more confidence" and you feel anger and frustration inside because nobody seems to understand you.
Stage 3: You realise that all this time being financially successful or being really great didn't actually matter so much and that women actually care more about how you perceive them. They reject you because they didn't feel like you were in a position to be able to choose them over let's say another girl. Girls can actually reject because they are insecure of how good you are but they dont tell you that because they dont want to boost your ego. Understand when a women rejects you, it's not about your personal worth, it's about how they have judge the likeliness of you staying with them.
Yeah... When they come to me then soon after they'll go chase someone else then very shortly after she gets engaged then gets married shortly after.
Its a lot of things. When they talk with you, they are looking at lots of things like neo in the matrix. Like at your posture - are you leaning too forward (that shows your too interested and also that you dont have much experience). Learning back too much means your shy. Is your voice trembling. Can you look a women in her eyes and smile? It's unfair, I know that they judge your likelyhood of being able to choose/select them by your past experience. But you have to hide your lack of experience when you're around them. They are not judging your lack of experience as someone who has nothing to offer, they are using it to see how much control you have in selecting them.
It's hard for men because of the existence of feminism.
And it's hard for women because majority of men are cunning and think with their dicks and not their brain.
Honestly just learn to love bieng alone. Frankly the risks of relationships are just to great. And the rewards are nonexistent.
You're confused.
YOUR anxieties and insecurities keep you from making relationships. It's nothing to do with others, or them with you.
Somewhere between the COVID-19 virus and the general shift in people's values we seem to have lost the ability to bond well that way with our fellow humans.
Because people take relationships less seriously.
Pretty much everybody wants friends with benefits, hookups and one night stands. There's so many horny thirsty guys out there.
What are you trying to say here?
I'm trying to say why is it so hard to get girlfriends nowadays. I give everybody my explanation on why I can't date.
You need to accept that you don't have the looks, I'm not being mean but you just don't.
To make up for that shortcoming, you need to get fit or make a lot of money or be a powerful person or have lots of confidence at least
In short, you need to evolve into a valuable version of yourself, then it wouldn't be much difficult
My financial and weight is fine But you are right about having lots of confidence thought but Like I mentioned I don't drive and I won't be able to.
Yeah that's upto you
I think it’s unrealistic expectations
I just stopped trying...
Why did you stop trying? Is it because of fears of rejection? Or you been hurt to me times. Trust me I know what you're going through. I did stop trying off and on from the past 20 years. The last girl who I saw hurt me pretty bad so I stopped trying again.
Why did you stop trying? Is it because of fears of rejection? Or you been hurt too many times. Trust me I know what you're going through. I did stop trying off and on from the past 20 years. The last girl who I saw hurt me pretty bad so I stopped trying again.
Covid's had a lot to do with this.
Cuz bitches be trippin
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