What do you think of the act of 'ghosting' when it comes to dating? (Page 2)
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It's cowardly. But perhaps more importantly, it doesn't tell the person being ghosted what they did wrong. It flat out denies the person any opportunity to learn from the situation. Even if you don't owe the person that explanation or you think what they did wrong should be obvious, why wouldn't you take steps to clear up any potential miscommunication?
If we're dating and she suddenly decides to stop replying. Then it's pretty obvious she doesn't care.
If she wanted to break things off I think it would make more sense to do it properly instead of just suddenly disappearing. At least then you can salvage what little you guys have.
Ghosting while dating someone is stupid, if you no long want to continue a relationship with someone you should have the balls to tell them.
But Ghosting someone after you find out they've been cheating on you is some thing else again, then a cutting off of all communication is justified.
It's really overblown in my opinion, like yes itd be nice if they gave an explanation but you should also just take it at face value of not wanting to talk anymore
True, given how a lot of us have heard of the term and more than likely know what it means, but we've got it a bit easier nowadays with technology, like how hard can it be for a person to say 'no' over the phone?
A friend of mine once had a Tinder Date where the girl picked him up at the train station. As the train entered the station and slowed down he saw the girl through the glass windows of the train. Since he thought that the girl was much less attractive than in her Tinder pictures, he decided not to get off the train but to continue to the next station and then to ghost her. 🤦♂️
i feel like you should at least explain yourself, i guess different if you were never really together but you know
So do I, it seems like a pussy way out, especially considering you don't even have to say it in person.
I've had it happen once. I didn't even consider it until recently but in a very toxic friendship. While I didn't do it anyway, she'd more than deserved it just by being a ***** more than once and tried to blame everyone else (and me) but herself for doing it. And believe me, she'd been more than worth it.
If someone treat you like crap, then I don't think ghosting them is bad then, but I'm referring to dating, like after a first date.
I get ya. I wouldn't ghost if it went well. Hell, I still don't think I'd ghost. Just say, 'Thanks, but no thanks' and move on. That's it.
Exactly and yet, I do hear about ghosting being a thing, it seems so stupid, especially given how you don't even have to say no to a person's face, given how much technology we have and I'm sure most of us have phones.
It's the easy way out and they do it because they 'don't want to hurt the other persons feelings.' Yeah, right. It's a cruel rejection and leaves ya wondering WTF? BUT, in hindsight peeps are better off. Would you really want to be with someone like that? Nah.
It’s been done to me. Once after dating a girl for 9 months.
What did you think of it?
Selfish, conceited and fucking horrible tbh. Not something I would ever do anyone else.
I really didn’t want to see my last ex (not the one who ghosted me) when I broke up with her. But I met up with her face to face. She went ballistic but I went away knowing I did the right thing. No regrets about how I handled it.
These girls who ghost guys usually having some deep down guilt about it. But instead of owning up to it they look for affirmation they did the right thing which they sure as hell didn’t.
Sorry about your experience and I'm glad you did the right thing, so thanks for sharing. The good thing is nowadays, you don't even have to say it in person. Personally, I'd rather someone tell me, than leave me hanging.
Always lower your expectations.
It was in the back of my mind that my ex was capable of that bs. So I was semi prepared for that outcome.
Always trust your gut with women. 9 out of 10 times that funny feeling is the ugly truth. They don’t understand male ego and the issue of respect.
depends so people are crazy, some people cross the line, you find out that there family, they tell you an obvious lie, they do an action endangering your life and show no remorse...
or you bust in them and ghost them knowing that once they find out they'll try to kill you
It's not about cowardice but something much much lower...
Iv been on both ends of ghosting. here's some reasons why I did it..
1) she got insulting.
2) she ignored me
3) she said having a cat is a deal breaker, so I walked out metaphorically lol
4) i didn't like the things she does to lead to arguments.
Before ghosting i did mention why I'm never gonna talk to them and put them straight with a diplomatic telling off.
Letting them know beforehand that you don't want to talk to them beforehand, is totally fine. The ghosting I'm referring to is not replying to them at all, without explaining.
5) she was extremely racist..
6) she only asks for money from me.
7) only remembers me when I'm a shoulder to lean on
Cool, thanks buddy
If she's obviously a crazy person or idiotically stupid, then it's fine.
It's clearly a big deal if a guy ghosts a girl, are they willing to talk about and accept how many guys get ghosted by girls is the real question
NP. I didn't want to make the question sound like I'm having a go at women, because I wasn't, but since guys are the ones that generally approach, I do feel like a girl is more likely to be in a situation where she could just ghost, so I see what you mean, but at the same time, a guy could use a girl for sex, leading her on and then ghost her. I think people need to grow a pair and step up, instead of being pussies.
I agree, maturity and communication can solve this
Seriously it's one of the worst things you could do to the person if not very the worst. Someone ghosted me, which shattered my entire being.
That guy deserves to be kicked in the balls then for ghosting you.
Really depends. If we just started talking then its not big deal. If its been a while and romance has started to bloom then its a cowardly act in my eyes. Ghosting is nothing more than a selfish act that is an easy way out.
A bit rude after contact is established. But there’s no obligation to respond to the first message from someone. Attractive women get so many messages that they can’t possibly answer them all.
It would be after a first date, not just a first message, I totally get and agree with your point about that.
Well It’s just rude when all that is necessary is a simple I’m not interested.
Yeah, I got tired of it myself. I am being ghosted a lot because I do not have social media. I move on like it's nothing.
Very weak and immature! Be a man and face the person and be honest that it will not work. Don't just dissappear.
Never do it. It hurts much more than just ending things. I've been through that and it's really horrible.
Depends on the girl I never started out doing it but when girls did and if she's boring af like talking to a dry wall "Hey what's your favourite food?" "Oh nothing" like really I'm leaving that convo everyone has a favourite food.
A total lack of respect. Don't bother investing attention in someone that ghost you.
Its horrible except like you said if they are a creep, nice people deserve closure