Imagine youve been dating a girl you really really like. And you make it official that you are in an exclusive relationship. Now you feel like getting more intimate, but you can't go to eachothers houses because there's other people and covid rules don't allow you to have guests at home if you don't live alone... So what if you happen to do it for the first time with her in hers or your car? (obviously none of you have covid symptoms, and you're taking all health precautions). Would you do this with the kind of girl you'd like to marry?
I'm curious about this because even though it's not my situation I wondered if what are new couples doing. And I don't know if I'd want my first time to be in the car but I'm not exactly opposed to it, I don't know. What do you guys think?
Guys, are you ok with having sex in the car if it's the first time with your new partner?
Hehe... um well, to be honest this kind of question was asked to me by my friend when I was in college, he asked me if I would ever have sex in the woods or in a car and I just said no to both, he asked why and I said it just feels a lot less hygienic and a lot less comfortable and a lot less private. ^_^
He continued to make scenarios trying to see if I would sway like if it was a fully cleaned car and also asked if my feelings were like this before Covid, he also included saying what about having sex in a tent in the woods, I just said
Why would I go outdoors into a confined, less comfortable and chillier place, to try and have a romantic scenario? And for the car part mate, nooo, I wouldn't do it regardless of how clean it was, it is still awkward and lacks privacy, once you get to the level of the vehicle being private enough that nobody else can find you in it or find the vehicle, you would have been better off just doing it in the house hahahaha!!
And to answer your question about if I would do it with the one I wanted to marry? Well... No, I would want my first time with someone as special as that to be a lot more... romantic to remember.. I wouldn't want my children asking how they were born and me saying well we were in this car and we uh... welp, we did it in the car.. it just feels like it lacks excitement 0_0
An interesting question though Snowy! You caught my interest at your decision to ask something so different! ^__^ if I had to class car sex into anything, I would class it as recreational as it is something so different and more of a convenience thing if someone is horny while driving then it may be easier to not go home. >_<
Huh, that's interesting to class this as recreational activity hahahaha. I agree, that's an odd story for the future children, ahaha And I think you are right. If it is your special person, then it should be a special set up. So probably get a hotal I imagine? I mean in these covid times, doesn't seem like you can go to other people's houses. I wonder how couples are dealing with this with all the restrictions Also, What about just making out in the car then?
When classing it like that I do mean between the same two people and not multiple people, I mean as in it is a set up for when you are too bored to make make it a comfortable layout :D
Indeed, I would suggest doing it in a more decent location XD
Perhaps a hotel, or if you can both put up with a relationship with no sex till you can enter the others house again, it isn't a rush :)
Just making out in the car? well if it was just kissing then that is fine, I would be comfortable kissing them but the more sexual things I would want to do elsewhere XD
yea that would be nice, there shouldn't be a rush. Personally I kinda wanna be engaged to have "actual sex". Im not sure about all the other things that come before that though. What are the different physical intimacy limits according to the level of commitment? thats a good question
Yes, I would want to be engaged or at least be with someone who was certain with me that they wanted to go down that path in the future, I don't want to have sex with people knowing they will not be my relationship partner in the future. :)
Physical intimacy limits based on commitment levels? That is a good question because I guess writing an answer will be wordy so please forgive me :p
10% if they only recognise me sometimes and they don't want to be seen with me and they try their hardest to make any interactions between us strictly only ever when nobody is ever in sight, I would not allow any kind of intimacy, it would just be conversation.
20% If they are willing to have me around their friends but still feel uncomfortable and it can be seen at times that they find it awkward me being in the group, I would be okay with hand holding.
30% If they were comfortable with me in their friend group and also invited me to go in town sometimes, I would consider hugs.
40% If they were comfortable with me in their friend group, invited me to places and told their family about me but was awkward about it then I would kiss them
50% If they tried to show me off in the friend group and asked which times I was available to go to town and offered to have me come see their parents I would kiss them but in a more sexual way.
60% If we did something that marked our relationship like getting matching items or carving out names in a area, I would make out with them, not have sex, just starting to feel each other in different places.
70% If they did all the above but now made having me visit their parents for meals a regular thing, I would still make out with them.
80% If they did all the above but then brought up the topic of having our own house and marriage, I would make out but much more excited.
90% If they did all the above but said they definitely wanted to move into a house of just the two of us and consider having our own family, I would have sex with them
100% If they would do all the above and say we should enjoy ourselves before raising children, I would have sex with them but it would be kinky XD
Well... that is the level chart I have for that! I wonder how you designed your desired outcome? :)
OMG I LOVE this scale. Its awsome man! Although according to this, I've been getting ahead of myself ahaha. Cuz I made out with this guy, and he's met my mom, and he's told his parents about me, but we still haven't met each other's friends. I guess we make do with covid rules, hahah but like I said, this percentage scale is really great :D
Im giving you honorary MHO to the question i didn't actually post!! Always love brainstorming about life with you ^_^ thanks
I wouldn't be comfortable with that. Neither would I be comfortable going back to mine as I'm still living with parents. If she lived with parents I wouldn't be comfortable going there either for that time. together as there is a chance of being caught and it would be embarrassing.
Especially as my parents decide to knock and walk into my room with barley enough time to say no if I'm changing, also if I say "No" as it's quick enough then not decent they still walk in.
I'd rather book a nice hotel and bring some food, drinks and things like bath stuff, some candles. I find candles to be relaxing and I enjoy making them. Could have a bath before with bubbles and to help relax as well as that for me it would ensure that I'm clean and that.
By doing that it would give us a nice private setting to enjoy our time together. That is important to me as I've never done anything like that. I'm a virgin and never even been on a date at this point. And so a private setting where we can't get caught or anything like that is very important.
I would. What I'm curious about is similar to this. For exp, couples living in different houses. They meet at noon and wander around the city. Then they eat dinner in the evening. And then which house do they go to for sex? Which house is preferred? Why? And after sex does the other go back home?
I don't think it really matters what house you go to. You can say 'your house or mine? I'm comfortable with both'.. If you actually mean that of course. :) but not in my city, can't do that cuz covid rules... So you don't think the experience would be lesser in the car, considering it would be the 1st time for you guys?
Yeaaaaa, I have the feeling it should be a nicer setting the first time... But I guess just making out in the car is fine, right? Also would you rent a hotel room for your 1st time?
Making out, because you just can't keep your hands (or mouths) off of each other... yes. Hotel? Yeah, I guess so. It's not ideal, it doesn't have the emotional weight or personalization of one of your homes does. But privacy is really paramount, so if a hotel is the only way to achieve that, then yes. Just think carefully about all the things you might want/need to bring with you. Set the scene. Some clothes that make you feel really good about yourself, candles, music/portable speaker, something to snack on when you get famished or want something sweet or sexy, lube... think about all that. Guys appreciate when you take the time to think about this too. Girls are a bit better at creating these environments. Even guys like candles and mood lighting. (If no candles, bring some very low wattage bulbs you can swap out. Or string or fairy lights. Trust me on that one.)
Cars always sound much sexier than the experience turns out to be. It;s cramped, unless it has bench seats and hopefully you wouldn't fuck anyone who had the bad taste to have bench seats in their car. But the only car I ever had great sex in was a mid 70s Cadillac Sedan de Ville. It git 11 miles to the gallon but I had to get the muffler replaced in rural NY once when I was traveling with a girl. The car was outside 1/2 way up a hydraulic lift when a huge electrical storm hot, All power in the area went out and the car was stuck on the lift. We could still get in it since it was 4' off the ground by using a step ladder. The seats (bench) were big enough for me 6'1" to stretch out on comfortably. We wound up fucking like mountain lions claws out. In the front and back seats then had a pleeasant nights sleep with an incredble lightning & thunder show taking place. The guy who had the shop was like 75 years old and I'm sure he heard us over the storm.
I'm 6'3. Are you trying to give me all kinds of cramps? also: "Would you do this with the kind of girl you'd like to marry?" No, I dont do casual sex like that and I wouldn't wife up a girl who did. closest thing to that I would do is if we were out camping as a couple and we were in our tent. That's a different story.
eh I don't know. it feels like such a setting cheapens it. Maybe its just me, I don't know. I like to have a candle lit setting for my woman. Something very romantic. And I like to give her roses or massage her first before any foreplay.
Yes, having sex in my car for the first time with my new girlfriend was actually where it took place... actually after midnight behind a (un-be-knows to me) day childcare business. Which was duly pointed out to me by her after the fact... Yikes! lol You're on birth control right? What do you mean too late now?
I am usually one to say wait until the time is right but I have done it in the car many times and it is always really hot. If you both want to do it, I say go for it, just make sure you engage the emergency brake.
That's the best answer tbh. You're right! Like, what are people afraid of? If they're just not ready, then do t get inti the relationship in the first place
I have actually almost done that with my boyfriend but I'm not a virgin and he is. We didn't have sex but we did pleasure each other. We also saw each other naked in person for the first time in my suv.
İd do it even if it is our first time. My first sexual action with some girls in public and it was fun. But if I'm going to consider marrying someone, this wouldn't be something i would put into consideration. İt is not my marriage criteria.
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