I called my boyfriend and a woman answered his phone?

Question

A woman answered his phone and said “he’s busy right now”

Xitomyth · Accepted Answer

Well, either she is his other girl and he is cheating on you or she is randomly messing with both of you. Could be his sister/cousin/female friend and decided to use his phone for some reason and mess with his life. Could be he lost his phone and she is a random a** hole who gets off on messing with people's lives/relationships. She could have taken him captive because she's obsessed, think yandere, and is trying to cut him off from anyone who can help him. Your best bet is to track him down in person and confront him about it if you can. Usually when a woman picks up and answers that he's busy it means they're having sex. Not all the time though, she could be his manager/handler in some capacity and is trying to keep him form getting distracted form what ever his task is...

Odds are she is either your "competition" for his affections, obsessed with him in some capacity (romantic or horribly protective as a relative) - woman can be territorial, even as just a friend, and they will attack anyone who trespasses, or she is trying to mess with him for some reason and that spilled over to you, it's quite common, she's probably the stereotypical catty woman. Stereotypes exist for a reason...

Again, confront him about it. That's the only way to get the truth unless you know someone else close to him who will dig into it for you. Also, if you, or both of you, never agreed to be exclusive, he could be under the impression that he is free to date others at the same time. She could be his ex or neighbor or something and she is either territorial or pissed with him and just happen to lash out at you...

SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

Well... that obviously sounds suspicious.

So, clearly you need to confront your boyfriend, see what he has to say, and then determine whether or not you believe him.

There could possibly be an innocent explanation of some sort. But whatever that might be... won't be something that people on GAG are likely to think of.

So try not to freak out until you talk to him. But definitely talk to him.

With the information you posted and nothing more... you are likely to get a bunch of responses that confirm your worry that "he is clearly cheating".

Listen, you will literally never find anyone on this planet who is more against cheating than I am. I still think that talking to him is the ONLY way you're going to gain any actual insight into what's going on.

I think that people's answers to this particular post are not going to be helpful. They can't possibly be. Be careful about taking to heart other people's reactions to this post. There is not enough information for anyone reading this to tell you ANYTHING aside from what you already know "hmmm... a woman answering your boyfriend's phone... sounds like he's cheating to me"

That is not helpful to you. All it can do is to solidify your (understandable) prejudice that this is him cheating. Maybe not. Make him look you in the eyes and explain. You'll be able to tell if he's being honest. I really hope there is some other explanation. Good Luck. 🙂

tiffany_g · Accepted Answer

Too few details provided. Was this a cell phone or land line? Does he have any female relatives he's around on a regular basis? Have you heard his mother's voice before, and is it distinctive enough in your head to rule out?

This is something you need to talk to him about. He could have been at work and that could have been his coworker or manager. Just today I forgot to set my phone to silent, my manager was in the office next to the break room where I keep my purse, and I heard it start ringing. Then I heard her (paper thin walls separating the office and break room from the register area) say "she's busy" before coming out to tell me that she set it to silent for me.

He may have been doing something with his mother. Moving furniture or something like that. You know how well boundaries work against mothers. They even crap all over the boundaries of their fully grown children.

Or he could simply be cheating on you. This isn't really a question anyone here can answer. Mother, coworker/boss, sister, aunt, female cousin, the other woman, his cell phone was stolen and the thief answered, there are just far too many possibilities and any answer anyone gives is mere speculation.

crazyish · Accepted Answer

Don't do anything drastic. You need to wait until you talk to him. I've honestly witnessed a close friend of my family answer my brother's phone and say this to the girl he was talking to when she called because she didn't like her personally. Some women are bitches. Straight up. I know it's hard but try not to jump to conclusions until you know for sure. She could be a coworker or friend who wants him. He could've left his phone while in bathroom or anything really. But if you find out he was sitting right there while this girl did it then do yourself a favor and never speak to him again. Same goes for if he knew about it after the fact but didn't call to try and explain anything. That's very disrespectful.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

And you're really on here asking us what you should do?

Girl dump his cheating ass!!! That's not just red flag, that's a blaring siren! Hell I'm shocked you're still referring to him as a boyfriend because the correct term should be "ex."

OlderAndWiser · Answer

She thinks SHE is his girlfriend and she is asking him if he has another woman on the side.

Account · Answer

I dont want to be the one to break the bad news to you but...

Chikky · Answer

Don't conclude, try and get more information before you start judging

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Think it might be time to find a new boyfriend..

Jaumet · Answer

In this day and time... and honestly just watching something on one of the discovery channels... starts to raise more questions that it could ever answer. Hell, how would you feel about having a sister wife? It's like they would rather blame you for not being with him to make sure he is not "If you can't be with the one you love... love the one you are with."

We really do live in a really fucked up and confusing time... I also believe it has caused us to overthink things and assume things... even though I truly believe that you are actually just posing this as a hypothesis and has never actually happened to you... since you probably would be writing this from jail if it actually did. If some girl answered your boyfriends phone and told you that he did not want to have anything to do with you... I would not blame you one bit if you took action.

Just saying, Ya know?

razelove · Answer

Why get so bent about whether you're number 1 or number 2? That's really what this question boils down to. You wouldn't be asking if it was an older woman who answered, rather than younger sounding.

He's seeing someone else, and you're not sure if you're the girl on the side or she is. What difference does it make? All aspects of poly relationships aside, he was boning down with another woman and didn't think it was relevant to tell you about that.

You're willing to accept that there's another woman, but not willing to do so if it means that you aren't number 1. If you aren't in the know, you aren't number 1.

Floppy2112 · Answer

Yeah, you no longer have a boyfriend. I thought y'all were broke up anyway? What's the dill, pickle? He screwed you over. He's the bad guy and a jerk, but it's your job to recognize it and mourn it.
I am sorry this happened to you, but denial isn't going to help you here. Believe it. Cry. Let it out. And get ready for, hopefully, new love which is sure to come. There is nothing I can say that is going to make this part less painful. Getting dumped hurts. And I don't have a pill for heart break. If you need a shoulder to cry on, virtually, you can borrow mine.

Hannah_le · Answer

Well you already know u gotta pull up to his house n do a drive by 😤. Im just kidding but nah I’d go to his house immediately I mean the whole thing is hella sus. He doesn’t seem like he can be trusted.

Elsa143 · Answer

People like him are the reason why I feel an urge to keep testing partner's loyalty and have forever trust issues.
I'm 100% sure that when he feels alone again, he will start licking your feets and use smooth, lovely and convincing words to bring you back.

ohshee · Answer

Has he called you back
Since it's Mother's Day it could be his mother this kind of taking it kind of far my mom would never answer my phone for me not unless I asked her to which I wouldn't do I don't know I think that no matter who answered his phone he was at least called you back and I know if it was my phone and my mom did answer the phone. She would say who's this , this is his mother. And then in the background you hear me say Mom WTF lol

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

I thought you broke up with him? I’m beginning to think you are just making this stuff up! You’ve been telling us ridiculous tales that all end with “why did he say that”, for weeks, and finally you said you guys broke up, now you have a boyfriend again? Lemme guess we’ll begin getting back to the “why did he say that” questions again soon?

NyceGuyFinishingLast · Answer

Not enough details, plus it sounds like fake news. If this was true then there isn't any talking needed. He shouldn't be letting people answer his phone.

If this really happened I think that you would be way too upset to have posted this without talking to him first.

I am no professional but if something tragic happened to m, like a car accident I would not turn to GAG before calling the cops.

I think this whole thing is made up.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

You should just ask him who she was? Why would you want advice if you dont even have enough information to form a rational question. Without giving us context you may drive yourself crazy by investing in outlandish theories. ASK YOUR BOYFRIEND? If this is how you communicate and process situations you may waste a lot of time, unless you seek emotional chaos. Thats what it lools like

DJB72 · Answer

Without more information, such as time of day, what he does for work, does he have a sister/cousin/female relative it could be, etc it's impossible to make an accurate interpretation.

A radical question given the way things are these days: does he know you're exclusive, not just friends with benefits?

Shaggy_KW · Answer

Oof that could be bad, I'm a bit late to the invite so sorry if this went differently than I'm theorizing. Could just be a bitch that didn't think to say "Your boyfriend is doing something." Yknow because he was busy, or it could be he was cheating on you which is most likely, unfortunately.

SomeBlondeChick · Answer

Good god. He lies about who the woman is. She tells you he doesn't want you. What do you need? Them to get naked and start having sex in front of you? Dump him.

Chris_u006 · Answer

Ouch! Confront him and break up! The worst thing you could do at the moment is to continue to see him as your boyfriend, you would literally do less damage by cheating back. He's a fucking ignorant moron for treating you like that, he isn't worthy a fine lady like you, you deserve someone actually nice and caring.

Pyrofox · Answer

Probably his coworker or assistant. Just looking out for him. If he's the lovey dovey one she was just trying to look out for him. I wouldn't read too far into this or ya will drive yourself bonkers for no reason.

Anon621 · Answer

I think you should ask him who the woman was instead of jumping to conclusions or even better you could have asked the woman herself when she answered the phone unexpectedly and then saw what she said.

devilish-cutie · Answer

I would ask her who are you? And you will see him eventuwlly so ask

PaynefulPleasures · Answer

It's Mothers Day so could this be his Mama, sister Ok if not then kick his ass to the curb simple problem solved 👍✌️

kkirk4442 · Answer

It would have been a good idea to ask her, who she was, and his connection to your boyfriend. Call back.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Well, this should show you that he can't be trusted, sorry but this is red flags unless the woman answering his phone was a cousin , sister , mother

exitseven · Answer

Dump him not for cheating but for stupidity. In Cheating 101 the first thing they teach you is that you never let your side piece answer your phone.

REALSTEEL · Answer

well yes it's suspicious but you don't know of there just friends more then friends till you quick clone jis cell phone while he is in the shower oops did i say that

Newhead · Answer

If it's not a prank, you getting cheated on girls. kidding, I don't want to ruin your life, why don't you ask him?

MCheetah · Answer

More like "he's GETTING busy!" OH! ... Yeah, he's probably cheating on you. Or he has a sister.

pinkster · Answer

Wow that's dodgy that sound snake what did he say to you make sure he's not cheating on you be careful what did he say to you

K-I-S-S · Answer

He should be your ex, unless she is her sister or a friendzoned bitter woman. I guess you need to find out who is this woman. But still, very strange indeed.

Grond21 · Answer

One of two things is going on. Either he's cheating and you need to dump him, or this is one of those stupid tick-tock pranks where they put a recording in the phone and see how the girlfriend reacts.

Waldoe · Answer

yes, I bet he was.
So who answered the Phone? his Mom? Sister? co-worker? was he busy changing a tire for an old woman stranded on the side of the road? if you have real questions, you won't get any here

Dragonpurple · Answer

and did you find out who this woman is? mother, sister, ex... cause that matters. Need to dig in.

MindYourEyes · Answer

Why would someone else have his phone? 🧐. Fuck That xD

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

I know women will play childish games like that, but that's not a game. Unnecessary drama from someone you don't even know. So it doesn't sound like he's your boyfriend anymore.

AdithyaR · Answer

It could literally be anything from mom or sis who picked up to he's sleeping with another woman. You'll need to ask him and verify it.

JenniCollins97 · Answer

I answered my brother's phone once and said he was still in the shower, omg, that was bad!

Sevenpointfive · Answer

that's 100% go ahead to keep riding your side boy because he's cheating

Yanifah · Answer

He lives with his parents. That's his mother. There's good and bad in it.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

secretary, co-worker, family member, friend, boss, girlfriend, fuck buddy, one night stand, could be any of those.

Leavesbound · Answer

If that's his maid, mother or sister then I'd say no big deal.

rodeschaap · Answer

He's cheating. Nobody else would have the decency to pick up someone else's phone

The_Maphio · Answer

Here's hoping she was somebody involved in his job. Otherwise, something's most definitely off.

jshm2 · Answer

Could be his secretary, sister or friend. Hence why names of people are important to know.

Anonymous · Answer

She was probably giving him a blowjob while talking to you. Some women like doing mean stuff like that.

DaveToo · Answer

Unless he's got a personal trainer or masseuse, you might want to ask him about that. Wait for the bullshit.

Wiredone · Answer

There might be a good reason why a woman answered his phone. Before you accuse him of cheating you should hear his side of the story.

DWornock · Answer

So what? His mother or sister answered. You should have spoken to her.

LivingExample · Answer

People cannot just answer someone else’s phone. For her to answer his phone means she knows his Code or he let her answer it. Walk Away because he is no longer your boyfriend!

Shy_Steve · Answer

Depends if he's working or not and if he works with her but if you know he wouldn't be working then you have a right to find why this Woman answered and who she is.

potatosaladthe3rd · Answer

Well have you talked to him about it?

How did she sound and what was her tone?

Could of been his mom or another family member maybe they were just in a bad mood when they saw the phone was ringing or maybe he was in trouble.

Anonymous · Answer

i'm laughing lmao but what is your question?

Marioz86 · Answer

Lol and you need help to understand what's going on? He was drilling another girl. You clearly have terrible judgement for boyfriends.

Anonymous · Answer

The hell U say!

CasaNorba · Answer

major red flag alright. I think your relationship if doomed

ToastyOats · Answer

Busy giving him the business! Hope! That's what she said.

Wise4myage · Answer

Doh! You should straight to his house right now. Just don't bring a gun with you, lol.

krin_m · Answer

That is interesting. Depending upon the circumstance it could be nothing.

Anonymous · Answer

Don’t worry it’s just his bitch on the side. She’s mad at you cus she’s not his main chick.

kellytheman · Answer

I sure it was not his mom. If it was not his mom or his sister he is cheating on you.

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