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I did a lot of online dating. I quickly learned that if there is mutual interest, go meet the person. Don't waste time texting back and forth. You may meet them and realize there is no chemistry.10
I think it depends on the user experience. As a moderately attractive female, it's very easy to get a 'match' 9/10 swipes.
3 are probably not even using the app anymore. 4 won't message you because they are 1) otherwise following other situationship, or 2) situationally depressed or living life. Maybe 3 suitors will DM you. Of those three, maybe only 1 is able to reliably hold a text conversation for any length of 5 consecutive minutes for you to feel a sense of 'human interaction.'
Now with the swipey Swipe attitude, it's easy to 'not set up a meet' to like 27 people in a day, assuming 30 swipes and success in general.
It's a numbers game, checking where their heads at, if they're cute enough, and then if their friends and people who you could also get on with.30
I have had good experiences with online dating. I met my ex online and I am currently on Badoo (thanks to COVID). I have talked to really nice guys, but I think that online dating is very different for men and women. Women get a lot of attention online and it is up to the woman to fish out the truly nice guys. Believe me, it is very overwhelming for young women to be on a dating site. I think that women tend to be more picky than guys in general when it comes to online dating.
I also think that my generation is much more accepting of online dating. The older generations tend to have a much more negative stance regarding online dating.11
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Cuz they're clueless. And their entire world revolves around the internet. They think it's the answer to everything. In fact, one know-it-all bimbo I'm aware of will quick google something if you disagree with her. She's just sure the right answer is on the internet. Dear lord.
Dating apps and sites are for losers. These are the people that cannot forge meaningful relationships with the people they come into contact with in real life. Part of it is social ineptness, and some is due to this fixation on the internet - especially their stupid smart-phone. LOL
The truth is, the vast majority of women on these sites are there for attention and validation, with zero intention of ever actually meeting up with anyone, let alone dating.
And the vast majority of guys are looking for a quick hook-up.
It's a dynamic combination of needs and wants that results in absolutely NOTHING. ZERO. ZILCH. NADA. A big NOTHINGBURGER.
I have dated online once, with a Pakistani girl.
Originally I gave it a chance because she was going to be close to me due to a familyvisit that summer. Her mother and the family she was supposed got into an argument however, and this was canceled. But by that time I was already too far gone. She was going to study further in england after her study in Pakistan was finished (2 years after we started dating) and I was planning to just come visit in whatever holidays I could. Sadly, the relationship ended a year and a half in. Actually took me a very very long time to get over her, and even now I'm not sure if I am. I've learned a lot from that relationship, and I'm trying to better myself from what I've learned. In general, I don't think people are sure that they will meet, or sure that they won't. They just simply put their hopes on that they will be able to.30
I’ve done online dating in the past either the person lied about their age and status or their played mind games in regards to wanting a relationship. I don’t take online dating serious anymore because it’s hook up culture now. You don’t know who you are talking too behind pictures and if they don’t video chat you’ll never know. I don’t oppose online dating it’s not for me , but some people have success it’s not me. I can’t stand it. Oh yes! I online dating is for desperate people this is why I’m all about meeting people the old fashioned way!20
I tried online dating with two people in different years. Sure, I appreciated the compliments and flirtation I was receiving. Then when they ask they want to start a relationship with me, I get excited and give it my all. I always want to move away from the apps we met. So we could have one-on-one conversation. I even want to face time with them to build a stronger communication/relationship. But, over time the excitement and attraction fades and I saw a different person then when I first met them.
It’s goes from: “I can’t wait for you to be here in my arms! ❤️“ To: “let’s be honest, I don’t see us being together. I have work and don’t have enough money to see you.”
So now, I don’t take online dating seriously.20
I think that if you have good photos online dating can work for you. If you don't you are shit out of luck.
It takes most people under a second to decide if they will swipe left or right, that's it. If you fall into the 'no' category you don't even get a shot to meet with someone.
Online dating is cancerous to our society and is one of the reasons why marriage rates have dropped. On both sides of the equation, men don't have to risk it for the biscuit and approach a girl they find attractive they can aimlessly swipe and **if** they get a match the chances that the girl will meet them is significantly low as two swipes later the women found a more attractive photo. Women can easily get unlimited dates that there is no reason for them to try to commit or stay in a relationship to work things out when times get tough - something 80% of divorces are initiated by women.50
Meet about half, not entirely a waste of time
It's more irritating when you find out they lied about something on their profile, i. e. using photos from five years ago, different age, picture filters, etc.
I was supposed to go cycling with a gal, and she ended up being twice as wide as me and didn't have a bike. So we talked for a while and then never spoke again... not sure what she was expecting...
On the flipside I had a very nice date with a gal where we went cycling for about two and a half miles and held a conversation throughout the entire trip (and I got us slightly lost, which was even more fun).10
I never met guys online before unless they lived in my city and I would see them. However now we’ve been in a pandemic, which on and off lockdowns, and I want to date an Arab guy when I live in the UK. It’s a tough call and I’m open to meeting guys online now... please let me know if it works or if I’m wasting my time?14
I think this mostly applies to girls... girls get much more attention online than guys and many use it as a source of validation. It makes them feel good that they can get guys whenever they want.
Men on the other hand are more than willing to meet up the majority of the time and don't want to waste time on girls they know aren't willing to eventually meet up. Of course, you can never know. A person that seeks validation would almost never tell you they're not willing to meet and only want to keep it online.20
Most of my online dating weren't serious at all, by mutual agreement. The only one that was serious... You know the story.
I decided to date her online because I truly believed I had the possibility to meet her in person. After her? I never tried online dating again.
Personally, I think is a huge risk. As I said in other ocasions, you only use 2 senses max, to interact with another person, online; that leaves out important informations that can be given by the other senses, and that would help have a better judgement, in relation to who we are dating.20
I was in online dating with two people who lives very far away from me. States far. I live in the states as well.
One if them, we had a fall out. The other one, we are friends. I'm planning to meet him when I'm done with college in the future. Then I'll travel to where he lives to meet him.
I do believe people who meet online can work out meeting up in person and make it happen.31
i never understand/understood the whole online dating thing, my friends do it. if i meet someone by chance in person thats the first impression you can get a decent read on them, online you have no real idea who this person is. no voice no actions to watch when chatting
and if you listen to my friends complain its normally guys lying about their ages, their height , photos etc. yet they continue to do it, SMH i had one friend literally go on a date, the guy tried to more or less force sex on her and then said well i tried to be nice to get sex, you owe me, like WTF is that? goodluck with that online crap20
Keep your enemies as close as possible and people you love on another continent. lol42
Online dating is supposed to eventual turn into being together in person. If that doesn't occur, it's merely a really difficult to maintain long or short distance relationship with no actual pay off and you can't possibly form the same connection emotionally or physically as you would be able to do in person.20
I met my current boyfriend and the last guy I dated on Tinder so for me it hasn't been a waste of time. I might talk to a few different guys but only meet up with ones that I really take a liking too. Actually my current boyfriend is the only guy I met up with the last time I was on Tinder and we just instantly clicked. 😂 It works for some people, you just have to get to know people.18
I met my boyfriend online and we've been together for almost 2 years. I do think online dating is generally unpleasant, but I think it can be a positive experience for some.50
I've even heard women coworkers in their earlier 20s once (years ago for me) laughing at all the guys they didn't respond to. Laughing to each other 'i had all these messages from saying like 'why aren't you answering me' and " followed by laughs to each other. That's just a few women's honest views right in front of me as i was eavesdropping and working. They knew i was there. They talked openly staff customers they were honest and not even trashy women just average normal women.20
I'd be willing to bet most never meet in person, even once.26
I would hope that people would meet those whom they want to meet , or the whole process would seem rather counter-intuitive and fruitless.12
i have done online dating, it was very serious, we wanted to meet but i misinterpreted whay he actually wanted and ended up hurting myself , I'm over him now it's been three months and proud of myself42
Some people who have never done online dating believe that online dating means you never meet in person."
Wait- what? People actually believe that?24
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Companionship and company. It's better than nothing at all, and sometimes, it's all you can get. I've done online dating on every major site.
I was doing it for like 12, years, in fact (2006-2018). Statistically, I was VERY unlikely to find my ideal partner in such a sh*thole place like Philadelphia, and online dating gives you more options. The problem is, like 95% of people on dating sites/apps aren't at all serious; about a relationship or using the site/app. Many people use it as a game while taking a sh*t. And the few women who are serious on there have ridiculous AF standards and expect to meet literal perfection as a way to make up for "inconveniencing" them for having to spend 10 minutes making a profile and putting in about 5% as much effort in meeting someone as men do in real life, on a daily basis.
None of these poll options meet my criteria, so here's my own:
"With online dating, you have far more options than you'd ever have in real life, but whether they're nearby or far, you still stand no shot in hell as a single unless you're super attractive or female, so you have the hope of finding someone who is just right for you, no matter where they live in the world, but still have the poor odds of actually having them like you, thus making distance irrelevant."
If someone's right for you, you'll MAKE it work. Good luck finding "someone right for you" though, whether they live in the same podunk Texas town as you, or 3,000 miles away.