How Do I Choose Between Two Good Guys? (Page 2)

[I_Am_Sazerac]

I saw your question updates. I'll base my answer on this; if ANYONE has severe trust issues, thats a red flag. I get an ex can screw you up, I had a string of bad relationships that threw me off the deep end mentally, but those trust issues have to be manageable. And the fact this new guy didn't really go out of his way to be a better man for you is also the second red flag.

All in all, if you have to question your current relationship and almost fall for someone else, then come to realize you're happy as is, I'd take great care. Think about what it was that you weren't getting and talk to your boyfriend about it. Be blunt and forthcoming and just lay it all out on the table. He may not like it but he will be a lot more respectful with that than beating around the bush.

[zeitgeist057]

Your boyfriend sounds better because you listed some red flags with the friend.

But also, polyamory.

But also, that's a rough path for most.

It sounds like the friend has some bad boy appeal for some reason women get sucked into men who will treat them like garbage.

[DaisyAimi]

It’s about the heart and also about commitment with the one you really love… from my point of view you still indeed love your boyfriend.. so it’s better to stay with him. No need to unnecessarily break things off.

[Blueeyes81]

How is this even up for debate. Guy number 2 must make your lady bits tingle in a way your boyfriend does not. Ask yourself who will be there when shit hits the fan? Who can you always depend upon? Who can you trust with your deepest darkest secrets?

[throwsomecheeseonit]

Why is it even a chose. The second guy sounds like he would hurt you and might cheat on you because he has" trust issues" plus you never said anything bad about your boyfriend so why stray. The grass always looks greener on other side.

[exitseven]

I bet the friend is better looking than the boyfriend and that is the problem.
The boyfriend has your back and is invested in the relationship. The new guy is just checking you out. Stay with what's behind Door #1.

[Rok4bakAR]

You are idiots! Who live in the past.
The guy and you both sound like morons


Strong people don’t live in their past.
Weak people talk about their past and use it as a excuse to explain their fked up personalities.


He’s a moron for trying to friendship his way into pussy.

[TraceNormani]

You and your friend have nothing in common. He also has trust issues that will be carried over into your relationship with him. Just too many red flags. Stick with your boyfriend even if he is a slow texter. You can work with him on that ☺️

[Avicenna]

I wouldn't even think twice here- the obvious choice is to stay with your boyfriend. He's been a good, supportive partner and you're compatible with him. You're lucky to have him.

[BlackBeauty90]

What I don't get is *why* you even considered this other guy. Unless you like being made to do things you don't like to do and lack the common sense to trust your instincts that said you'd be treated like shit.

[Jamie05rhs]

It looks like you figured I out. I was going to tell you the same thing. This other guy "friend" is toxic trash. Your boyfriend is a good man and the one you need to be with. I'm glad you made the right call.

[Floppy2112]

I was about to be snide until I read your update. Good for you for realizing what the right thing to do is and doing it...

[Anon621]

I think you should choose your boyfriend based on the information you provided.

[COMMODOREII]

Your "friend" needs to back off. He has bad problems with his ex and sees you doing good and wants what you have. He has no right to jeopardize your relationship just because he wants to be happy.

[Kaneki05]

Obviously your boyfriend. Don't be one of those girls who picks a dickhead over a good guy.

[reinaisabella]

respectfully, what the hell is wrong with you? keep your boyfriend

[MannMitAntworten]

Stick to the boyfriend. The friend just seems to have you questioning things only but nothing solid.

[Mangospacho]

Go for the person who you want to be with not the person you feel obligated to stay with. Even if the “friend” is not who you end up staying with, the boyfriend is someone you feel you owe staying with because he helped you through hard times.

[anylolone]

Evaluate what you find important, chose that.
I chose women like I chose dogs, who ever looks happier to see me.

[RingOfFire]

Have 'em fight each other. Last man standing wins the prize! 👍🏼