Is this an interracial relationship?

[OlderAndWiser]

This is not an actual picture of us, but it bears a close resemblance.

I am a Caucasian male (old white boy) dating a Chinese woman. I don't have yellow fever. I saw her on zoosk, I messaged her, and here we are still dating eight months later. I really don't think about her being from a different race. I just think she eats weird food and sometimes she's difficult to understand.

Is this was you call an interracial relationship?

Yes, it is

No, it isn't

Who gives a flying fuck?

[tatianamay]

both of you are of different races, so yes, you’re in an interracial relationship. Who gives a fuck? It’s YOUR relationship, it’s none of other people’s damn business. If anyone says anything to you, tell them to fuck off. And lol, why are you worried about yellow fever? Nobody is going to think you have it, and honestly, if anyone does, tell them to mind their damn business.

what do you mean by “weird food?” You’re not used to the food she ate while growing up (traditional food) so maybe try learning more about her culture and traditions. It really helps. She’s be pretty happy that you are putting in an effort to get to know her better. I’m Indian and the guy I used to like knew a lot about India and I found it impressive. He loved Indian food and he knew how to cook it as well. lol, people are always difficult to understand. You never know what’s going on in their mind, so get to know her better

[OlderAndWiser]

Weird food is dried tree fungus. Weird food is seaweed in scrambled eggs. And I understand that is perfectly normal to her and that my food seems weird to her.

[Oram52]

Doesn't seem weird to me, be adventurous. I would love to try out dried tree fungus, I do know seaweed is used quite a bit in Asian recipes.

[tatianamay]

@OlderAndWiser well, that’s strange to me as well, because I’ve neither tried nor heard of it lol. But hey, as @Oram52 says, maybe you can try it out for fun. Who knows? Maybe you’ll like it. You can try to be a little more adventurous. After all, life is an adventure, ain’t it?

[OlderAndWiser]

I have already tried many of those things and I continue to get seaweed or amaranth in my scrambled eggs, but I am NOT going to eat chicken's feet! :) :) :)

[tatianamay]

Lmao, haha, well, that’s great! You tried and if you don’t like some stuff, it’s fine, if you like some stuff, then that’s fine too!

[PoliteSpeaker]

No race doesn't exist. Science and historical record proves it. This is why racism won't go away. STOP believing race is real. It's not. Race breads racism. Wake up!!!

[Coulis]

White people take note. When you say about a person who is clearly not quote-unquote Caucasian like you that you don't see color and you don't consider them a different race and blah blah blah that is actually racist. By you saying you don't see colour but ide tifying yourself as white, you are inherently saying you only see whiteness

You are dismissing the other. Please stop this it in an attempt to seem like you love everybody.

Racism will not disappear by ignoring differences. The issue is treating people with injustice based upon those differences. Yes you are in an interracial relationship (who cares). I wish you both much love and happiness and it does not matter that you guys are in one.

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't think it matters, either. I was curious how many people would say it is not interracial since it is not black/white.

[_piotr]

Soon being Caucasian will be considered racist for the sole fact that he/she exists. What a sad times...

"The issue is treating people with injustice based upon those differences."
Then do not treat people with injustice based upon those differences, IGNORE those differences and treat people the same regardless of race and gender.

[Coulis]

Point majorly missed by you.

[OlderAndWiser]

The fact that someone doesn't see things the same way that you see them doesn't mean that they are wrong. If you believe that, you are doomed to live life being a "misunderstood" victim.

[Coulis]

See this is the issue. When a minority says to you when you do this I feel this way why can't you people just listen and take it in and put yourself in our shoes. Then you want to self characterize as nit being a racist.

When you say to me I don't see color but then you call yourself white, which is considered a racialized color, it mean the only color you see is white.

So black brown all the other colors that people have racialized for their ethnicity don't exist. We feel dismissed. Is it so hard for you to just look at the other side of the coin and say oh oh even though for me I think I'm doing a nice thing by not bothering them in fact it what you're doing is making us feel dismissed. Is it just so hard for you to put yourself in somebody else's shoes?

Can you not just not understand that because of the color of our skin we get different treatment in a society?

We have different experiences due to some ignorant people's prejudices and behavior towards minorities.

Why is that so difficult? Why can't you just listen and try to comprehend? Instead of just lashing out and calling me a victim. I am by no means in a victim mentality I'm just trying to explain to you that perhaps you might want to understand better. But of course you don't. And I really don't care.

[OlderAndWiser]

When you say to me I don't see color but then you call yourself black, which is considered a racialized color, it mean the only color you see is black. And that means that white people don't matter to you and only black lives matter and every issue must be addressed in terms of how it affects you.

This question had ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with what you wrote about. The question was whether a Caucasian man and a Chinese woman are an interracial couple. Did you answer that question? No, because you don't care about that and all you saw was an opportunity to make this be about you.

Every minute of my existence is not consumed with wondering about how this affects black people. I never owned slaves, I never condoned slavery, and I have not inherited the profits of slavery. I'm not black and all of that is not at the center of my universe and if you expect me to worry about that at 7:02 am on Tuesday morning then you have very unreasonable expectations.

[lightbulb27]

Yes, and it's a fun adventure. a good time in life to explore and find many new adventures in food, travel, culture, history. Enjoy the ride.

you don't have to eat raw sushi, dim sum, and seaweed, there is so much more that is good and not too weird. like... korean picles. Bean popsicles... pretty good. Keep trying new things, and enjoy your quality girlfriend!

[legalboxers]

you are a male.. last time you checked...
she's a female.. last time you or her checked..
Who gives a flying fuck what it is. IT IS 2021.. You love her.. She loves you..
FUCK EVERYONE!

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't really care what anyone thinks except that I want to know who to avoid in my life. Yes, I love her and I want to protect her from stupid people who can't accept her as a wonderful woman. My step-father is an example of someone I will avoid when she is with me. Maximize the good times, minimize the bullshit.

[legalboxers]

@OlderAndWiser thats basically what I said... right? Fuck Everyone.. 2 people matter in the whole thing.. you and her. Period.

[OlderAndWiser]

I just wanted to note that on this date, July 24, 2021 - a date that shall live in infamy - @legalboxers and @OlderAndWiser agreed about something.

[legalboxers]

@OlderAndWiser think of it as an early 154 days until Christmas gift

[ifDaddyHadaPrincess]

It is an interracial relationship because you guys are of different races. Why are you worried about people thinking you have yellow fever? Hm… odd. I feel like if you really have no problem with it why are you even asking the question. It’s interracial because you’re two different races and it doesn't FUCKING MATTER.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Every time I tell someone I am dating a Chinese woman, I get comments about yellow fever.

2. I am testing whether people think interracial relationship means black + white.

3. No, I don't GAF what anybody else thinks. I stopped caring about that shortly after the Korean War.

[OlderAndWiser]

Why are you holding a noose in your profile picture?

[ifDaddyHadaPrincess]

@OlderAndWiser I actually have my hand in the back of my afro, but okay lol

[ifDaddyHadaPrincess]

I didn’t know that’s what it looked like 😂😂

[Isawthelight]

It's not

[Bee-Hatch]

While we still use the term "interracial relationship" it means we are still labelling it as something unusual. It's just a reationship.


If you've found a person that appreciates you for who you are and you feel the same about the other person, grab on to it with both hands and look after that person.

[OlderAndWiser]

That is what I have done.

[Daniela1982]

Depends on what the definition of interracial is to you. But just because it means one thing to you does not mean everyone else sees it that way. I'm certain you are not interested in procreation at this late date so this definition may not fit your situation. But for most purposes interracial dating means dating between people of different races.
miscegenation
1. the interbreeding of members of different races.
2. cohabitation or marriage between a man and woman of different races, especially, in the U. S., between a Negro and a white person.
3. the mixing or mixture of races by interbreeding.

[Oram52]

Is this 1970s?
Not sure where you're heading with this, but seems something from 70s.
1 - Sexual relations between different races.
2 - Between *BLACK* and white person, not just black but any combination of races. Race, which is arbitrary by the way.
3 - Relationships between people of different races

You're not Alt-Right are you?

[Daniela1982]

@Oram52 I'm giving you the dictionary definition. If you don't like it your argument is with the publisher, not me. So what is your definition Mr. Oram, or do you just in it for sex and don't care about any other aspects of a relationship? Excuse me while I roll my eyes.

[Oram52]

I literally gave you my explanation above, which included more than sexual relationship. That dictionary is definitely out of date then.

[Daniela1982]

@Oram52 Like I said, take it up with the publisher. Is your definition yours or someone else's? Because you are saying basically the same thing my definition is. You just changed up the words a little.

[Oram52]

I'm definitely not saying the same thing AT ALL. And I am pretty sure if you use modern up to date version of the same dictionary it wouldn't say the same thing. Their is NO excuse for using the word Negro, its highly offensive at least in Anglosphere.

[Daniela1982]

@Oram52 The world is a magical place filled with people waiting to be offended by something. That's the problem with this world. Everyone has had their feeling hurt in one way or another.

[Daniela1982]

By the way, instead of spouting off like a pregnant porpoise copy and paste your definition from a modern dictionary if you don't like the one I supplied.

[Oram52]

Here's from Cambride Dictionary:
"involving different human races:"
dictionary.cambridge.org/.../interracial

That you would use poor excuse, "oh people get offended so easily". There is very good reason to be offended, because it is offensive. The problem is that you don't see it! No feelings hurt here but basic decency. That we thought we the civilized society have moved passed such language.

You CLEARLY know the language is problematic, you could've chosen any definitions, you could still use appropriate language. Yet still insistent on using such language why?

[Daniela1982]

@Oram52 WTF? Your definition is the same, just worded differently. "an interracial marriage/relationship" What the hell are you on? I said nothing offensive. If the definition is offensive then do what I've told you twice to do. Complain to the publisher. Your problem is you are looking to be offended and don't read or listen. Now go troll someone else. Your trolling is getting offensive.

[midnightmoon05]

No race in my eyes... but all human.
my partner knows less about my culture, more fun to learn, explore together.
we had Korean food yesterday and he enjoyed.
food bring joy to us... enjoy exploring with her. Make it fun.

[Bluemax]

Are you or your partner Korean?

When you said, "enjoy exploring with her," I immediately thought of the B-52s Roam around the world, in part because I omitted the word "with" in that phrase.

[midnightmoon05]

@Bluemax no.. Chinese American

That comments is for older and wiser... to enjoy being with her and explore the world of love, food, life...

[I-C3_ME]

For me it's, yes and who gives a fuck? Cuz truelly, if she's of legal age and happy... why bother getting upset about something like this? Waste of personal energy and time (cuz why would people breakup cuz some random person doesn't like it?)

[OlderAndWiser]

I'm not upset about it and I have no intentions of breaking up with her. We are making plans for living together.

[I-C3_ME]

Nor should you be upset, if hope you gets have some good years :)

[Oram52]

If we're going by technicality then yes be definition its interracial relationship. Though its definitely a positive you don't see it that way. I don't see why food would be weird, Asian food is quite popular.

[OlderAndWiser]

Eating dried tree fungus is a bit weird to me. Having seaweed or amaranth in scrambled eggs is weird to me. But I have tried all of those things and more. I am not an old dog; I am learning new tricks. (Eating with chopsticks, sometimes, too!)

[Oram52]

I guess it could be for us as it is clear vast majority of us have never tried it. I'd honestly wouldn't find it weird though even if unusual, I do like trying new things so probably just different personalities. Amaranth is also new to me, I'd definitely give a shot and see what it tastes like.

[DaveToo]

I said, "who gives a flying fuck" because it's nobody else's business but yours. If you are happy with this arrangement then enjoy the hell out of it. Those that would be bothered by it don't mean shit in your lives.

[OlderAndWiser]

Amen, brother!

[Iron_Man]

Good. You seem to enjoy her time and her Chinese cooking which I wish I could try some kung pao chicken myself and honey garlic chicken and orange chicken. Keep pushing forward with the girl and don't forget to give her a dozen red roses🌹 everytime you see her

[TessCasie]

Which woman disliked this? Definitely a jealous monger smh 🤦‍♀️

[Iron_Man]

@TessCasie t’s a girl named Kayla she’s a professional troll she’s been after me for five weeks making questions on me and coming to my private message area private messaging me and trying to follow me left and right coming back with her 100 accounts left and right. And twice now she’s wished that I had cancer and died from it. She gets angry when I don’t talk to her and flips out hey bro how are

[Iron_Man]

Sorry for the hey bro how are somebody was talking in the background when I was using voice command

[TessCasie]

Someone’s crushing on you lol 😝

[Iron_Man]

@TessCasie Yes big-time. But she’s really mean and nasty

[TessCasie]

lmaoooo smh @Iron_Man is she the one 😂

[Iron_Man]

@TessCasie Maybe so
Who know she’s got 100 accounts

[rcljr]

C, take it where it leads you, to hell with others opinions. Dude, opinions are like assholes, everybody has one and they all stink. Do what makes her and you happy.

[OlderAndWiser]

That is how I am rolling with it.

[Likes2drive]

It is interracial but no big deal, I’ve been in one before that was even more opposite, my brother has been married to a Chinese woman for over 5 years now and has a stepson and 6 year old son he had with her

[OlderAndWiser]

For an old white boy like me, what would be more different than dating a Chinese woman?

[Likes2drive]

A black woman or Indian woman I guess

[Aquariusmystery]

Interracial relationship just means you’re from different races lol

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for clearing up all the confusion.

[douride2]

Who cares. As for eating weird food & hard to understand. She probably thinks the same about you at times.

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, and I have told her that many times. To her, fried chicken seems like a strange thing to have for a meal.

[douride2]

Really?

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes. She is from the Fujian Province in southern China. She tells me that most people in southern China prefer their foods steamed (like most dim sum) and northern Chinese have more fried foods. She will eat fried oysters but doesn't like fried shrimp, fried clams, etc.

She only owns one frying pan and I own eleven.

[Arabella_Rose]

@OlderAndWiser I'm chinese American. And I can say that many chinese immigrants do not speak English. Its mighty hard to find one that speaks English, especially fluently.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Arabella_Rose Yes, I understand why so many of them are in the restaurant business. They can function without English in that community. My girlfriend was a professor of economics at a university in China so, of course, she is well educated and her English vocabulary is very good. But she came to this country at age 29, so her accent is still quite pronounced. We have no problem communicating.

[Arabella_Rose]

@OlderAndWiser. If she came to the us 30 years ago, then she is not fresh off the boat. Mind you I am only 25. So she has been here for a very very long time

[Anonymous]

Yes. Its an interracial relationship but what with the yellow fever? Is that sarcasm or what. Also, regardless of race. Dealing with opposite gender are difficult. Thats why some success in their relationship and some not.

[OlderAndWiser]

I have heard several comments on this site about yellow fever after I mentioned dating a Chinese woman. And I don't want to hear it.

[MCheetah]

Options A and C.

Who TF uses Zoosk though, LMAO!

[OlderAndWiser]

Dude, there are some really nice women on zoosk. That's where I met my girlfriend. It may not be a good site for someone your age but it worked for me.

[Bluemax]

Who cares?

My wife and I encountered this to some extent. I didn't have to endure many yellow fever comments, but my wife had to endure some yellow cab comments.

I hope for your happiness, OlderandWiser

[midnightmoon05]

Yellow fever, yellow cab... some might need some explaining here...

Sorry that was not nice...

I joke about eggs and banana club with my Chinese-white couple friends.

[Bluemax]

@midnightmoon05
Eggs and bananas? Are these metaphors because it's something white or yellow surrounding something also white or yellow? I've not heard those before.

I would just as soon like to see an end to food metaphors for interracial couples. In fact, I would like to see an end to the term "interracial couples. "

[midnightmoon05]

Silly terms I came up with when I used to hang out with my coupe friends who are coupled up as Jews with Haitian, African American with British Chinese, Jews with Chinese, Korean with Mexican, Ethiopian with Romanian, Russian with Kenyan, German with Dominican Republic, Korean with Vietnamese... etc..
Just one big melting pot.
we all love the diversity of who we are not judged by political correctness.

[DWornock]

Obviously, since Asians and Caucasians are different races, that is an interracial relationship. However, whether by customs or science, that is not as interracial as Caucasian/Black.

[OlderAndWiser]

There are degrees of being different races?

[DWornock]

Obviously. At least Asians and Caucasians have similar IQs. Imagine having a relationship with an African bushman. The average IQ of bushmen is estimated at 55. An IQ of 55 corresponds to the mental age of a European of about 8 years.
See: www.human-intelligence.org/bushmen-and-pygmies/

[Jaximus-Lion]

For me! It is. I am from Iraq and the Mrs is swedish. Different cultures, different languages, traditions, foods, celebrations, mind and so on. Sure! We are both caucasians but yet we are so different

[FinalFantasyBro]

Honestly I am black but who actually care you should be with people who you feel compatible with and if you and your girlfriend both happy being together I honestly don't see why y'all races has to do with anything.

[snackthatsmilesback]

Well she's from a different race so yeah. At this point I don't think it's that big a deal tho

[OlderAndWiser]

It's not a big deal to me but I'm sure it's a big deal to people like my step-father.

[snackthatsmilesback]

Well fuck your step father man he sounds like a bitch. But yeah it's still interracial.

[OlderAndWiser]

His grandson married a Filipino girl. At the wedding, my step-father goes to his grandson and asks "What's wrong? Couldn't you get an American girl to marry you?" And he actually thought that was funny. My step-father is 91 years old now, but he has been this way for the entire 30 years that I have known him.

[snackthatsmilesback]

Ig at least he seems ignorant instead of intentionally rude. But at this point you should be able to read the room and know that's not funny.

[OlderAndWiser]

He will say that it was just a joke but he doesn't really GAF if anybody laughs. He is just a mean-spirited person.

[snackthatsmilesback]

Ah that's a piece of shit. Sorry you gotta have him in ur family.

[OlderAndWiser]

He's 91 years old and not long for this world.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for me I see it as a relationship & when it comes to dating or falling in love race shouldn’t matter because love is love & that is all that counts.

[Isawthelight]

Asian is not a race

[Static_In_The_Attic]

@Isawthelight Asian is a race, human race.