Guys, how do you ghost someone you can't avoid?

[Coulis]

How do you conduct yourself with someone you have to see all the time but you want to ghost them.

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+1 y

I am not ghosting anyone nor do I wish to. The question should probably be "How to tell someone you see everyday is ghosting you?"

[Sparki777]

Don’t. Ghosting is an immature way of dealing with the issue. The mature way is to make an honest and accurate statement. Figure out what you want to say, and any time this person attempts to interact with you, repeat the same exact statement. In time, the repetition will convince the other person that you will not change your mind. Examples:

“I know that what is best for me is that you and I remain coworkers and nothing more, so please respect me about this.”

“We’re stuck in all the same classes because we were dating when we signed up, but it’s important for us to go our own way now, so let’s sit on opposite sides of each classroom and try not to be assigned to the same group for projects.”

“Even though we have a past and our homes are right next door to each other, we need to respect each other enough to give each other room to move on.”

[Gwenhwyfar]

Avoid them if at all possible. If you have to deal with them on a day to day basis it’s physically impossible to ghost them.

[Gwenhwyfar]

If they ignore you as much as possible they’re probably ghosting you

Is this that same guy? He sounds like an asshole. You’re well rid of him.

[Coulis]

No, he doesn't ignore me. He doesn't want me to catch him looking.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Then he’s not ghosting you. And he’s still an asshole.

[Coulis]

LOL. Thanks!

[Gwenhwyfar]

Welcome 😊

[bowenw]

I think the approach depends on the circumstances. For example if it's a work colleague you could do things like:
- Not speaking to them unless it's absolutely necessary for something work related and then just the bare minimum on an adult level to accomplish the task.
- Avoiding eye contact and being in close proximity wherever possible.
- Avoid the other person's allies in the same way you avoiding the ghostee.
- Behave as if you are dead to the other person and don't ever revert. Dead is dead.
- If the person is your neighbor in an open office concept put up tactful physical barriers between the two of you like a white board and turn your desk so it faces away form them.
- Ignore everything they do as they will likely be trying to get even with you.
Don't feel bad about ghosting them. Use your network of friends or family for support.

[Pasiton5]

If someone has a fixation on you send to be every where you are then why ditch then or play juvenile games instead be mature about it consider their feelings, ask yourself if you were in their place would you want to be ignored avoided, just because someone isn't to your liking or standards does it mean you get to treat them like a pest, why not try knowing them talk with them would it really kill you to take them out, rejection is painful enough but publicly blatenly, is wrong, you should be thankful someone find you attractive or whatever their desire of you is, be mature enough to not shun them have humility about you, would it be so bad to just make a friend, probably be your only true real friend any way, everyone has feelings and hurt also

[MotorcycleMan]

Like an adult I guess.
Sometimes you have to deal with people you don't want to deal with. You'll need to learn to do that effectively. Just be polite.

[Medlife]

Hehehe i do not ghost in rl on line yes but in rl I am honest and sometimes brutally. If you can not take the truth you should not be projecting bad vibes. Be gone is my go to.

[Jouth]

You don't. You tell them directly how it needs to be.

[Coulis]

This answers whether you should or not. One shouldn't orlf course.

The question is I asked more how one would attempt to do so.

[Jouth]

Well you can't ghost them if you see them all the time. All the involuntary contact makes that impossible.

Still though one should have the integrity to be at least tell the other person what's going on and not leave them clueless.

[Anonymous]

You're probably going to have to suck it up and directly talk to them and end it. Which is just far better than ghosting anyway, but especially if you have to continually run into them.

[exitseven]

I am the worst person to ask about this. I cannot bring myself to ghost anyone no matter how big a pain in the ass they are.

[FilmGuy93]

I just keep my head down and avoid talking to them.

[Anonymous]

Don't talk to them or look at them. They will be to scared to ask you or talk to you 90% of the time. Don't be left alone with them.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Ghosting is immature.

[Juxtapose]

lol ghosting is for pussies.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Just be honest and tell them the truth

[Mike6977]

Tries not to notice you

[_no_one_]

U just become boring

[Robert_]

You don't...

[Coulis]

What?

[Robert_]

You can't ghost that person.

[Coulis]

What would your body language be like around them though since you want to shake them.

[Robert_]

Well I'd first need to know why you'd ghost him in the first place.

[Coulis]

I don't ghost people. That's silly and cowardly. The question is to ask people's opinion of how THEY would go about shaking someone they have to see regularly.

[Robert_]

Well I genuinely think that they wouldn't.

[Coulis]

Ok. That's a rosy view of himan behaviour. Thanks for your input ✌🏾

[Robert_]

It isn't rosy but if you can't avoid someone it is always in your own interest to have a positive relationship with that person.

[Coulis]

Yes; however, the question isn't about what is the wise thing to do it is asking how it would look if someone were doing it.

[Omario2049]

Me? NOPE!