What do you think?
What do men think of self dependent women?
What do you think?
I do agree with you that before marriage the couple are still strangers to each other and they don't have to do anything for each other as long as they aren't married...
In case the couple are in a relationship which will lead to marriage than personally i think that it's fine if the man pays for the date if he's capable and he can buy some nice stuff for his girl occasionally...
After marriage if the girl becomes a housewife than it's totally normal that she depends on her man and he depends on her because they both become one!
The man have his role and the woman have her's...
I do not agree with him, his answer is bizzare...
I don't care about a woman's financial status or what she does in life as long as i'm not related to her...
A woman should be depending on herself if she ain't married cause who will raise her or pays her taxes and bring the food on the table... etc
Every woman should be depending on herself as long as she ain't married and these days a lot of women keeps depending on themselves even when they are married because of the financial crisis these days and because in this age many feels that one income ain't enough and for many other reasons...
A lot of women adores becoming housewives but their men ain't capable financially to give them this choice...
Personally i'd always want a woman who adores becoming a housewife after marriage and will pray to god that i'll always be able to at least provide the basics in our lives and will always work hard to offer more...
Agreed miss kc and i hope that you find someone who deserves you...
Thanks for the mho
I admire your thoughts, you are great with self-sufficient, an independent and self reliance. Weldone, keep it up
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Ok so I have very complex and conflicting feelings about this. I used to agree 100% with you, and mostly still do but qualified.
I used to avoid entering a long term/ committed relationship with anyone because I felt I needed to have everything together before bring someone else into my life in a significant way. However I realise there are some problems with this.
My last partner was very independent and self sufficient, which although very admirable, and obviously a good thing when it comes to anything fanatical, that mentality also effected the softer more emotional parts of the relationship.
I think we both felt that when we were sad/ upset or just delicate, it was something that we couldn’t share and needed to deal with are-selves. Which although meant there wasn’t really any conflict in the relationship, also meant there wasn’t any point.
There is obviously a big space between a 1950’s atomic family and basically single while in a relationship, but its difficult to draw that distinction when you’ve set self-dependence as a personal goal.
I don't give a damn what other men think but this man admire you fully, I love an independent woman who want nothing from me but me, and I'm not trying to be funny but these young ladies today is lazy as f, say hi to them and it's what you do for a living you live in your own home or rent, if she's black it's or you live with your mama, can't you take care of me, I'm like shit you ain't said shit about what your bringing to the table, take care of you who is going to take care of me, me damn add well stay by my damn self then you get the rolling eyes and you can't care for me, and I say not that I can't I wouldn't want to lazy ass ok you get it, so a woman out there doing her own Grove and want nada from me but my ass with her is Platinum to me cause she's real she's open no bull shit and I better not lose my income or I lost her ass too so yeah
Healthy / quality men will appreciate and find it attractive if a woman has her own career, hobbies, money, and life.
If a man needs a woman to be his dependent, he’s likely looking for a pet, not a partner.
Closely examine a man’s attitude when he knows that her life isn’t going to revolve around him and his schedule. This will tell you a lot.
Honestly, I couldn't care less. You have money? That's great; I'm happy that you've been able to make a life for yourself. Your money isn't going to intimidate any man you'd actually want to date, and it certainly isn't going to make them respect you any more or less. But perhaps most critically for you (because of your comment about giving men back what they invest into you), and this really is genuine friendly advice; if you go around telling men about how you have your own money, most men are going to assume that means you don't want us to spend money on you. A LOT of women (career women especially) make it difficult or generally unpleasant to do things for them.
So it's possible that the reason men seem intimidated by you has nothing to do with being intimidated. It might just be because you don't seem like you want them to do "man stuff."
I’m not talking about money ; m talking about women who have to depend on themselves until they meet the right man and for marriage. A lot of men seemingly don’t understand that they aren’t obligated to do anything for a woman that’s not their wife. I wouldn’t expect a man to go far out.
This is one of those things about being a man that there's literally no reason you would understand as a woman, unless someone explained it to you. It's not intuitive at all. Men don't feel obligated to dote on women. Obligation is the wrong word. Men WANT to dote on women, we don't feel like we have to. Doting on women is part of how we express our intention and affection for the woman.
So when you ladies go around talking about how you don't need us to do those things, what you are saying is that you don't want us to express our love and affection for you. But that's not the way y'all think about things from your perspective. That's what I'm trying to tell you.
The reason men are complaining is because women don't seem to recognize when to drop the independent thing, and it often makes things unpleasant and abrasive. If a man is looking at a woman as potential wife/girlfriend material, he's going to want to see that she has the ability to make the switch around men she respects.
I admire that. Such a woman wants a man she can admire. She's not going to take shit from some guy in exchange for him paying her bills. She's not going to be subservient. That doesn't mean that she can't be feminine, enjoy being treated like a lady, and love sex.
I don't think there's such a thing as anyone being independent. Everyone claims to be but their lives are actually only possible because they have plenty of people below them on the financial ladder that makes their life possible. Who here built their own house? Can fix their car? Grow their own food?
Women are on the rise because we live in a modern society wich values education over hard work. That fact alone makes people seem independent but in reality both what they've got is kept functioning by workers and payed for by the work of workers.
Although I am an independent person by nature, I also recognise that men love differently and project their affection differently. You should allow a man to 'be there for you' or 'take care of you' (both totally subjectively defined). Otherwise he will feel unfulfilled.
I know but being in a relationship or dating is the preamble to marriage. It sets out your separate patterns and expectations. Things don’t magically change overnight just because you’ve signed a contract to be married. Marriage is just there to solidify what’s already there. It also won’t be fair to the man to expect something completely different after you’re married... how is he going to know?
Men aren’t crazy or completely different. They’re humans just like us. When you find someone you naturally connect with and trust it will be easy x
There’s nothing wrong with being independent. I would hope you can take care of yourself financially lol. However, independent women like to give themselves a gold medal for doing everyday normal adult stuff. You speak about seeking a traditional man, both traditional men and women are a minority now because economics and society have changed. in my opinion, no sane person would carry the financial load of another for a lifetime.
I don't want a woman who is 'needy'. An independent woman scares the shit out of many men, because she doesn't rely on the guy for anything. He should, (if he has any balls) that, because she is with him, because she wants to be, not because she relies on him for something.
i like a girl thats independent , low maintenance and does not persistently ask me for money all the time and I think its good for guys to take care of there girl but it depends on what the need is. I dont think we should assume that the need is always financial it can be many other things we just gotta be present with her and please dont be manipulated some woman will rob you blind.
Play with me! I took a micro nap!
Yo daddy so strong he can run a marathon on his hands and build a long range spacecraft without with no plans! He's a nascar driver... a jet a fighter! He's a human lighter and a freeform diver!
I like a woman that is her own women and can be or is self sufficient and can be happy being that way.
I’m with a woman who had some bad relationships and became self dependent. I never felt intimidated or put off by it. I feel fortunate, really.
it is good thing , everyone who call themselves adult should not be dependent to other people , doesn't matter what gender they are
I think self dependent women are great! I always felt there should be a certain dependency on each other for a good relationship, but each one should always be their own person first.
Well I want such women in my life I can do anything for her no joke
That doesn't make any sense. If you don't rely on a man when you're not married, why would you rely on a man when you're married?
I like women who depend on me whether I am married or not. This meaning is not material. in a spiritual sense.
We prefer women to be independent. It's just "independent" women never stfu about being independent and it gets super annoying really fast
Nah, they just think it's an amazing feat to be a properly functioning human being for some reason. Like congratulations, you took a shit today all by yourself. Want a cookie?
Well yeah it's 2021, why do women want to be modern but expect a traditional man? Hypocrites much?
Literally no one cares. I swear you females make shit up and then oppress yourselves. No one gives a shit if you have a job. This isn't the 1950s
Modern dating, must be the women you men keep meeting. At this w, I don’t know if dating men is an option for me and it’s not because of my sexuality it’s the majority of you now.. I’m probably better off going back to women because I’ll always get the short stick because of other women’s doing
I'm pretty sure you're skimming my comments instead of actually reading them because that made no sense in regards to what I just wrote
I remember now, you're the girl who started acting insanely hyperbolic on her "why do men ignore good women" question. Let me just put this out for you, you're not a good woman. You're childish from what I've seen, a little bit of introspect and maybe you'll find a man that treats you right
The only one bitching is you, you literally have a meltdown any time someone says something you disagree with. You're 32 act like an adult for Christ sake
No dude, you're just delusional. Doing the same playing victim, calling misogyny crap as the last time we spoke. I'm done with this, you're 32, hope you know that you're running out of time and it won't get better from here, maybe buy some cats and start your crazy cat lady life early. I'm out
Thats better than woman who rely on you
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