Guys, if you’ve been dating one woman for a couple or more years, do you think she’s the one?

[Pinay_ako]

[NathanDavis]

my relationships have lasted around four years in average...

were they "the ones"? they were the ones that I loved and the only ones I wanted to be yes, at the moment.

for all other things, like marriage and having a family and spending the rest of our lives together, there has to be a LOT more than just being together for a couple of years, to me... they are very different things, four or five years is a long time, it's a cycle... but it does not always mean that it can just go on and on for the next 20 to 40 years. So, no... I did not automatically see every person and relationship as "the one and only and forever" was more like considering it and thinking about it during, the progress of the relationship... and more importantly, those were things I actually talked through with them, I just did not decide it by myself.

[ObscuredBeyond]

I really wanted her to be the one. But you can't reason with the CCP. She was assigned to be someone else's "one." I'm not exactly Zhong Kui. I can't summon powers from the heavens or the underworld, and fight a war for her hand. So she played her part, afraid to cause waves. After the insanity in Hong Kong, I can't even fault her for being demoralized. Her land is overrun with dripping evildoers - who are now out to colonize mine.

Now, I stay out of the way; for her daughter's sake. Should've known falling in love with a Chinese woman was a risky proposition, and probably wouldn't pay off.

But it's not a total loss. I have you to talk to again. And Wilgrace from 2011 is around. And her and I are at least talking again. I doubt that will lead anywhere though.

[OlderAndWiser]

I wouldn't be dating a woman for more than six months if I did not think that she was The One.

[slatyb]

Some men will stay in relationships for years with a women all the while hoping for something else. Don't be the woman waiting for years for the proposal that will never come. It's fine to ask a guy "Why are you dating? How do you feel about marriage? Do you want a family?" when you start dating. Then set a time limit like eighteen months. If you aren't planning a wedding, then end it.

[JackSmy]

I have never gotten to the point where I want to ask someone to marry me, for various reasons.
I think, if have been dating a lady for two years, and I haven't asked her to marry me, I would assume she would leave!!
If, after two years, you don't know, then where is it going: NOWHERE!!

[Jack_747]

Be careful to think that right away. Anyone can be together for along time. The real test comes when you start living together.
Because when you are apart, you long for each other and cannot wait to get together.
But when you live together, you will soon come to see if you really do want to see each other and be together almost all the time.

[Sugar100]

But don’t couples meet daily? I don’t hear anyone saying they meet boyfriend only one time a week? I see all girls see boyfriend daily?

[uhdreek]

Living together is different from meeting up daily

[Sugar100]

@uhdreek but he said u long to see each other but that’s not true as all girls I talked say they meet boyfriend daily or many many times a wk

[uhdreek]

He said that yes but even seeing them every day you miss them your not with them 24/7 living with them is the real challenge it's different from seeing them everyday not sure how to put it in better words 😅

[uhdreek]

@Sugar100

[Sugar100]

@uhdreek y people don’t wait til they marry to live with guy? I don’t live with boyfriend I’m alone 2 years

[uhdreek]

Depends on situation, age, maturity. A lot of factors some friends with benefits, others college, etc I can't say why they would but it happens yk? It's not necessarily a bad thing it can be a really good thing

[uhdreek]

@Sugar100 I'm only 19 😅 I think an older person could tell you more yk?

[Sugar100]

@uhdreek I think I’ll live alone forever boyfriend lives with mom helps pay her rent

[Jack_747]

@uhdreek That was exactly what meant.

[uhdreek]

Aye I figured so bro, maybe help her understand cause I said what you meant and said what needed to be days but she still didn't really get it

[RawIronhide]

Maybe, I give it at least 6 months before moving in perhaps 2 more years before getting engaged. (Don't belive in the ONE) but if you can live together for 2 years or more without biting each other's heads off, that's a very promising sign.

[Sugar100]

I thought u have to live togeher only wen u marry a guy? I live alone no guy has moved in with me 😔

[RawIronhide]

Umm nope. I mean people have different rules but I'd like to live together before getting married ideally.

[RawIronhide]

I'm sorry... try... working out 🤷 learn to cook I don't know.

[PatrickRigsby811]

Definitely.
In my history I've moved in with a woman like 2 weeks after we started dating.
I told her I loved her after like a month.
I make up my mind quickly and I stick to it, but not all men are the same.

[Sugar100]

How do u live with. Girl so fast? I live alone I wish a guy moved in with me 😔

[PatrickRigsby811]

@Sugar100
I had just started dating her when her roommate moved out. She needed someone to split the rent or she couldn't stay.
At the time I was 21 and still living in my parents house, so I just offered to move in with her.
It was awesome, we started having sex and living like we were married.

[Sugar100]

But y she don’t split rent with mom? I told boyfriend I might move or go back to live with mom he didn’t offer live with me he said I shud live with mom to save money split the rent 😔

[Sugar100]

Y u guys have sex if only married people can have sex? Not bfs or gfs?

[PatrickRigsby811]

@Sugar100
Her mom already had a full house.
She wanted independence from her mom and I wanted her.

[PatrickRigsby811]

We were living in Canada, unmarried people have sex here.
We were both 21 and in love, we had sex like 4 times a day sometimes. We had no tv and no internet.
We just had each other and we were always together.

[VanillaSalt]

The one? I’m not out here to find the 1:1 billion. I’ll accept anyone for the job and that means your replaceable. Marriage was for the benefit of women not men. We get what we want off the bat without getting married but you as women want the wedding day. In order to secure your man for the future, without marriage, every day is effort. Now men and women on even ground relationship wise.

[Black-a-knese]

Every guy is different, generally his past relationships prior to you might have scared. That or the unhappy married men and so on. Personally, the longest I would date someone is about 3 years. If I can't image sharing a last name, I'll end it. I understand wanting to wait but everyone has to have their limit.

[Finchie40]

More than likely but it also depends on his actions, if he is mentioning future things with you , if he barely has any talk about the future with you then he just likes the convenience of you

[imimimimi]

If I don’t think she’s the one after 3 months I’d break it off and stop wasting time for both of us. For some people, they can get stuck in a relationship and never go through the trouble of ending it, so I don’t speak for everyone.

[exitseven]

I did for a while and than all of a sudden I didn;t.

[Mofunfour20]

Id figure that out in 6 months. I take my time on this earth seriously, why waste it?

[BCA6010]

I don't think time by itself is much of an indicator.

[BeMuse]

Nope. Time isn’t really a factor. It’s more so the details you figure out along the way.

[na2398]

According to psychology, people cannot hide their true selves after 3 months or so. So a time frame around 4 months should do good to see if they're chameleons partaking in a masquerade or not.

[Dvchill]

If I have been with one woman for 2years or more I have already thought about it a lot and u have passed all the tests… it just becomes a timing thing at that point

[msc545]

Not necessarily. I might just be waiting for a better one to come along.

[nickaboy]

Are you a woman😲

[msc545]

No but men do this too just not often.

[Yourfriend2021]

Sure it would seem that way if she is faithful and isn't cheating.

[Youdumbeotch]

No, just means they’ve been stuck in one place as time progressed.

[MM5578]

Yes. I wouldn’t stay with someone for years if I didn’t think they were the one.