Guys, if you’ve been dating one woman for a couple or more years, do you think she’s the one?

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NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

my relationships have lasted around four years in average...

were they "the ones"? they were the ones that I loved and the only ones I wanted to be yes, at the moment.

for all other things, like marriage and having a family and spending the rest of our lives together, there has to be a LOT more than just being together for a couple of years, to me... they are very different things, four or five years is a long time, it's a cycle... but it does not always mean that it can just go on and on for the next 20 to 40 years. So, no... I did not automatically see every person and relationship as "the one and only and forever" was more like considering it and thinking about it during, the progress of the relationship... and more importantly, those were things I actually talked through with them, I just did not decide it by myself.

ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

I really wanted her to be the one. But you can't reason with the CCP. She was assigned to be someone else's "one." I'm not exactly Zhong Kui. I can't summon powers from the heavens or the underworld, and fight a war for her hand. So she played her part, afraid to cause waves. After the insanity in Hong Kong, I can't even fault her for being demoralized. Her land is overrun with dripping evildoers - who are now out to colonize mine.

Now, I stay out of the way; for her daughter's sake. Should've known falling in love with a Chinese woman was a risky proposition, and probably wouldn't pay off.

But it's not a total loss. I have you to talk to again. And Wilgrace from 2011 is around. And her and I are at least talking again. I doubt that will lead anywhere though.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I wouldn't be dating a woman for more than six months if I did not think that she was The One.

slatyb · Answer

Some men will stay in relationships for years with a women all the while hoping for something else. Don't be the woman waiting for years for the proposal that will never come. It's fine to ask a guy "Why are you dating? How do you feel about marriage? Do you want a family?" when you start dating. Then set a time limit like eighteen months. If you aren't planning a wedding, then end it.

JackSmy · Answer

I have never gotten to the point where I want to ask someone to marry me, for various reasons.
I think, if have been dating a lady for two years, and I haven't asked her to marry me, I would assume she would leave!!
If, after two years, you don't know, then where is it going: NOWHERE!!

Jack_747 · Answer

Be careful to think that right away. Anyone can be together for along time. The real test comes when you start living together.
Because when you are apart, you long for each other and cannot wait to get together.
But when you live together, you will soon come to see if you really do want to see each other and be together almost all the time.

RawIronhide · Answer

Maybe, I give it at least 6 months before moving in perhaps 2 more years before getting engaged. (Don't belive in the ONE) but if you can live together for 2 years or more without biting each other's heads off, that's a very promising sign.

PatrickRigsby811 · Answer

Definitely.
In my history I've moved in with a woman like 2 weeks after we started dating.
I told her I loved her after like a month.
I make up my mind quickly and I stick to it, but not all men are the same.

VanillaSalt · Answer

The one? I’m not out here to find the 1:1 billion. I’ll accept anyone for the job and that means your replaceable. Marriage was for the benefit of women not men. We get what we want off the bat without getting married but you as women want the wedding day. In order to secure your man for the future, without marriage, every day is effort. Now men and women on even ground relationship wise.

Black-a-knese · Answer

Every guy is different, generally his past relationships prior to you might have scared. That or the unhappy married men and so on. Personally, the longest I would date someone is about 3 years. If I can't image sharing a last name, I'll end it. I understand wanting to wait but everyone has to have their limit.

Finchie40 · Answer

More than likely but it also depends on his actions, if he is mentioning future things with you , if he barely has any talk about the future with you then he just likes the convenience of you

imimimimi · Answer

If I don’t think she’s the one after 3 months I’d break it off and stop wasting time for both of us. For some people, they can get stuck in a relationship and never go through the trouble of ending it, so I don’t speak for everyone.

exitseven · Answer

I did for a while and than all of a sudden I didn;t.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Id figure that out in 6 months. I take my time on this earth seriously, why waste it?

BCA6010 · Answer

I don't think time by itself is much of an indicator.

BeMuse · Answer

Nope. Time isn’t really a factor. It’s more so the details you figure out along the way.

na2398 · Answer

According to psychology, people cannot hide their true selves after 3 months or so. So a time frame around 4 months should do good to see if they're chameleons partaking in a masquerade or not.

Dvchill · Answer

If I have been with one woman for 2years or more I have already thought about it a lot and u have passed all the tests… it just becomes a timing thing at that point

msc545 · Answer

Not necessarily. I might just be waiting for a better one to come along.

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

Sure it would seem that way if she is faithful and isn't cheating.

Youdumbeotch · Answer

No, just means they’ve been stuck in one place as time progressed.

MM5578 · Answer

Yes. I wouldn’t stay with someone for years if I didn’t think they were the one.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes I do but all guys don't think the way I do so don't be deceived

jshm2 · Answer

Nope. That's like borrowing a lawnmower. the longer you have it "borrowed" the less likely it's something you're going to keep.

musicalmuse · Answer

Yes I would tell them I've been on a few dates or I am talking to someone if they said or did something that made me upset when I told them the truth

sattii2607 · Answer

Well I have been dating one for nearly 9 years, she is my wife 😊

frienddp · Answer

yes i would few years is a long time to stay committed

marcusjg714 · Answer

depends on what kind of relationship you really have

ushistfu · Answer

lmao i think they are the one, even after a week. thas prolly too soon but i jus can't help it :(

Avicenna · Answer

I would certainly hope so at that point

Tunasub · Answer

That would depend on where i am in my life and if I am even thinking about something like that...

zagor · Answer

Or you're getting sex while waiting for someone better to come along.

Wise4myage · Answer

Yes, I would think so.

anylolone · Answer

No such thing as "the one".

Iron_Man · Answer

It would seem like it

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah if it’s lasting that long

bamesjond0069 · Answer

No. Thats killing time.

888theGreat · Answer

I would marry her less than 2 years

TheRealJokerSA321 · Answer

Yes and sometimes no.

Sami28 · Answer

I would have my answer after 3 months

Slim57 · Answer

Probably I've never been past 6 months

dudeinohio · Answer

I think so

Rob17792 · Answer

yes..

Dave576 · Answer

Possibly

Twalli · Answer

It's more likely

dolemite89 · Answer

no, only neo from the matrix is the one 😋😂

Rawkman · Answer

Yes definitely

joker143 · Answer

Don't think so she is one

Hadyyy · Answer

Hell yes ofcourse

impalabill · Answer

I would.

Diya010 · Answer

Nope

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