Why I am having more issue that I do not find my guys friend's attractive at all?

[Splatzonelover1]

I saw my old friends I met through college and did even get any type of attraction to any friends that are guys. Now I am getting really anouyied and can find guys that I am attracted to again in real. I found one guy on Facebook and I ask some questions about what he is and how respect. I told my mum about it. The only one issue. He live in area of Crewe. Same interest of gaming , leaning disabilities.

[Anon621]

It can be challenging to find people that you find attractive depending on your criteria for what you think is an attractive guy. For example, I am personally attracted to people because of their personality and because they are loyal and honest most of the time. You probably have a different criteria for what you find attractive

[Splatzonelover1]

i like games and i can't find gamer guys or guys that are nerds that i was attracted to before. respectful guy. intelligent guys.

[Anon621]

Yeah it can be difficult to find people specifically like that but they exist. I used to play games but not as much anymore

[ToastyOats]

Who knows, I've never had this problem. Im usually able to feel something gor any woman who will give me a chance. Seems like a lot of women are doomed to a lonely life by their their inability to love.

Do any of them Like You?

[Splatzonelover1]

Not sure about that. one seem weird. the other guys that are more taller then me I got put off of taller guys because of another creepy college guy friend

[OlderAndWiser]

Sometimes, you need to start getting to know a person on a deeper level and then the attraction begins to develop.

[Splatzonelover1]

were friends from college. i do not any attracted to any guys friend i met from college.

[FlutteringFeelings]

I’ve learned to never be too hard myself nor should I settle for a man because he’s nice but I’m not attracted to him. My Dad always tells me that one day when I come across the man for me don’t allow my preferences to replace my standards. However, if you find yourself ‘forcing’ to like someone because they’re ‘nice’ or a ‘good guy’ then it’s best to not test the waters in that situation.


There are men everywhere. You may come across a guy who may not mark off all the boxes on your list physically but you will be attracted to him. If you haven’t met him yet or if he hasn’t approached you then go on with your life and don’t get caught up on it.


One thing that I noticed about men they do not settle for potential. “She’s not really my type but it seems as if she can wash my underwear well in the future so I’ll date her.” The man thinks “She’s not my type so I’m not going to even approach her.” On the other hand, some people expect women to settle for any man as if we are desperate to have a partner. “He treats you right so hurry up and marry him. “Isn’t that what you’ve been asking for for years?”


Never settle. Live life and believe that whatever you want in life will meet you halfway. Remember to be realistic and don’t write a guy off that may be your type but he eats fast or has a kick in his walk so you write him off. What’s for you is out there be patient.

[Splatzonelover1]

I do not understand anything of this. to begin and I always honest and only seem to be getting really taller guys that seem not be looking for a relationship. I am not even interested in sex. I am just looking for long term relationship without marriage. already had more bad relationship and toxic relationship.

[FlutteringFeelings]

A long term relationship without marriages? If a relationship is long term wouldn’t it eventually lead to marriage or something of some sort of commitment? If you don’t have a high expectation then you’ll only run into the guys who want the long term relations without the ‘hip’ with no real end goal.

[Splatzonelover1]

i just said i do not want to get married since nothing more then a of paper. is would be easy to get out of long term relationship then to get married and get a lot work of with getting divorces. I also refuse to get married. only wanted long term since i do not thin married is not working in the gen

[SeanshterMonster]

Maybe your just having a hard time finding the right kind of guy. Sometimes attitude can affect how you see them

[Splatzonelover1]

I do not think I know any attitude I know of.

[SeanshterMonster]

Maybe it's because their friends. Usually women don't find guy friends attractive

[Splatzonelover1]

They all too taller for me. must if my friend that I did has as a men were very taller.

[SeanshterMonster]

All too tall? That's the first I've heard that come from a woman

[Splatzonelover1]

I am shorter then average women

[SeanshterMonster]

Is 5'6" too tall?

[Splatzonelover1]

it all depends how respectful he is. he turn to be creepy and ask about inappropriate question about guys gentile and kept pushing the question. this happen once with one of my friends that were very taller then me but out another creep

[SeanshterMonster]

A guy asked questions about guy genitalia? What?

[Splatzonelover1]

Yep. if I seen them.. I reject and he also told. me he has a crush on me at the time I did has a boyfriend and I blocked him. Nothing in common. Now I am single again since my ex turn out be toxic.

[SeanshterMonster]

Dam. I'm sorry to hear that

[Kaamraj]

Attraction cannot be negotiated, it is based on many factors, most of which are subconcious.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Well that okay but what type of guys are you attracted to

[Splatzonelover1]

nerds, gamer and intelligent guys and other times it depends how respectful they are.

[Bklynbadboy12]

There aren't many guys left that where your from or are you just cautious

[Splatzonelover1]

not in England yet. can't even find them but seem to find them on social and yes i date guys with a learning disability because of my mum put rules and tried avoid creepy men. I get hit on a lot in one of my job. previous ex boyfriend were bad and was toxic