I have boyfriend but like another guy, please help me?

[Anonymous]

I have boyfriend but I have a big crush on another guy. I love my boyfriend and since we have been together for 2 years we developed a big connection. There is this other guy I have a crush but I am not sure if he likes me back because his vibe with me is similar to the vibe he gives other girls. It's killing me to know if he likes me or not. One day he is super flirty with me and makes me feel good and another day he is aloof and I dont know what to think.
I don't know if he likes me and maybe is scared to make a move because i have a boyfriend or doesn't like me.
How can i get him to make a move or how do i find out if he likes me?

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

I'm gonna be straight with you, and you're not gonna like it, but I mean this sincerely:

Grow the fuck up.

If you love your boyfriend, then all this schoolgirl shit of "oh does this random guy like me?" shouldn't even be on your radar.

IF you love your boyfriend, then you should remove this other guy from your radar entirely.

And no, I don't mean "half heartedly try to forget about him but then give in to temptation and drunkenly fuck his brains out one night and then rationalise that 'it just happened' and then grow distant from your boyfriend".

I mean, ACTUALLY take the guy off your radar. As in, remove all forms of contact or proximity. If you choose not to do this, then we can only deduce that you don't truly love or respect your boyfriend (or by extension, the sanctity of your relationship). In which case you should break up right this very moment and not look back, coz otherwise you're toying with his life like its some idle plaything to be thrown around with reckless abandon. You have two paths ahead of you. Choose wisely.

[DWornock]

He is not interested in a relationship but he would love to fuck and unless he and your boyfriend are very good friends, he doesn't care about your boyfriend and it won't matter much even if they are good friends because when he fucks you he will not tell your boyfriend. As far as he is concerned, it will be good for and even better for him and what your boyfriend doesn't know won't hurt him.

However, I could be wrong and maybe he does want a relationship. Therefore, no harm in fucking him. Just don't let your boyfriend suspect. Then if it works out, fine; if not, no harm done and you still have your boyfriend.

[tatianamay]

Seriously? You have a boyfriend. If you like this other guy, then break up with your boyfriend immediately. It's not fair to the poor guy. I'm appalled that you're even debating over this. I'm not judging you, but the fact that you're even considering this seems like you don't like your boyfriend anymore.

[EternallyCorrect]

"I'm not judging you"

Yeah you are, and you're right.

[MrCommodore]

Most respectable guys will not make a move on a girl who is in a relationship, so even if he likes or loves you, that just won't happen.

The most you can hope for is that you have a private conversation and get talking about relationships and you maybe try to find our how he feels about you. You can tell him your unhappy etc, to try n encourage him.

[Asker]

we flirt with him a lot but i am not sure if he likes me

[MrCommodore]

How often do you see him? Would you currently be friends with him or have his phone number?
You should be able to quickly discover whether or not he likes you by chatting to him privately.

[GlitchyDisc2590]

Either way you need to break up with your boyfriend. If you're looking at other guys it's disingenuous to him, and if he finds out could really destroy him.
As for how to find out if this guys likes you? Guys are oblivious to this stuff, so I recommend touching him (on the arm, shoulder, thigh anything really) and if he does the same then he is probably interested in you.

[Interstate]

Ok... Anonymous, if you are very happy with your boyfriend, WHY WOULD YOU EVEN WANT TO KNOW IF THIS OTHER GUY LIKES YOU? You need to put this mystery Man out of your mind and move on with life (and your b. f). This is how a lot of Women lose a good thing with their Guy. Some things are meant to remain a mystery, so don't get yourself caught up in a triangle! They always end up resembling Bermuda's!

[Clarke498]

Why do you even care if he likes you? Stuff like this infuriates me. You're acting like the stereotype guys shit on women for being. The girl that has a boyfriend, but scouting for the next best thing.
Not strange people these days have trust issues...

[Anonymous]

You’re essentially doing the 80/20 which means you’re liking your boyfriend for 80% and then you’re liking this new guy for the 20% your boyfriend doesn’t have and if you leave your boyfriend in the search of that 20% you’re going to end up with that 20% and be missing the 80% that your boyfriend had so you’re better off just staying with what you got and stop being greedy and selfish.

[Anonymous]

Send your boyfriend the following image in an email titled 'What you need to learn'

[VikingWarLord]

You aren't a Monogamous creature, you are polyamorous by DEFAULT.

Sit them both down and read the book "SEX AT DAWN" by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha, with both of them

[noohair]

Finding someone that can endure the give and take of a relationship is a rare gift. If you want to put that on the line to find out what this other guy is really like, remember the saying, "be carful what you wish for".

[Wise4myage]

Stop acting like a snake and show some respect for your boyfriend or just break up.

[Asker]

i am not here for u to judge me. how can i find out if he likes me?

[Wise4myage]

Figure it out yourself.

[Anonymous]

Fuck the other guy for awhile to get it out of your system and you'll either want to stay with him or go back to you boyfriend. Either way you'll know and you won't be curious anymore.

[Grubhub]

It happens. I was a victim of this. Columbian woman was married to a Dominican man and we met at the gym planet fitness 😂

[Grubhub]

Women try to act like women don’t check other guys out. It’s common as fuck. Women always want better

[Luckycharms12]

Don't love boyfriend clearly taking and flirting with other guys care if he likes you

[In_Trance]

looks like you need to make a decision

[Asker]

i dont really want to break up. Especially since i have no idea if the other guy likes me?

[In_Trance]

something to consider, for sure

[Yaharro]

What is your problem girl☹️

[Yourfriend2021]

Would you dump your boyfriend for him?

[anylolone]

Make a move on him in front of your boyfriend.

[TrgZila]

leave your boyfriend telling the truth.

[Jfranco12]

You’re disgusting

[Anonymous]

Does he know you have a boyfriend

[Asker]

yes he does

[Opinion Owner]

Well that's probably why he hasn't hit on you or me to move then

[Asker]

i think so. what should i do at this point. how can i find out if he likes me

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know ask him I guess

[Anonymous]

you piece of shit go fuck yourself