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+1 yIt doesn't seem like there are many major ones.
One may get tired of being approved and flirted with and asked out.
I'm sure one would get quite used to be noticed and used to getting approached... to the point that it is taken for granted and they may want to be left alone and only approached when they are in the mood for it or only approached by the one or two people they themselves are noticing but if and when they are approached all the time they may grow tired of it.
That would fall under the "perspective" category. It just depends on what perspective you are coming from. Someone who is used to being approached and used to expecting most guys to notice her will take that for granted and get annoyed by it.
A woman who feels somewhat unattractive and is never approached and who feels invisible would probably envy that and wish they had the "problem" of so many guys being drawn to her. I guess it depends on your perspective and what you grew up feeling the norm is and what you are accustomed to.
Other then a lot of attention and having to dress "bum", sweats, no make up, baseball cap to be left alone (knowing if you dress nice, fix your hair makeup... etc. you'll have a lot of attention) I can't think of any real draw backs.00 Reply
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Anonymous(25-29)+1 yThis may come off as a humble brag, but I was quite an ugly kid and then somehow grew up and became attractive
-fake friends. People pretend to be your friend but at the same time like to put you down or humble you. I like to say I have many “friends”, but not as many true friends, I keep my true circle very small and know they’ll always be there for me
-Men use you as a piece of meat without getting to really know you as a person. You are usually passed up for someone they view as “having more substance” simply because conventionally attractive people can’t have much of a personality according to them. All I want is a best friend who I can goof around with, and not many men are interested in that with me
-people think you’re dumb or vapid. I have been a model for 7 years but my favourite thing about me was going to university and getting my degree and my other hobbies such as art. But people still assume I’m dumb because I present myself well.
-people are more likely to nitpick/be overly critical of your looks or point out your flaws. You are subjected to (often unwarranted) “observations” on your appearance because people want to find a fault with it and think you won’t be offended simply because you’re otherwise considered conventionally attractive
-negging from the opposite sex because they want to bring your self esteem down a notch in order to get you into bed
- people literally get offended if you’re confident about your looks or about yourself. They assume you’re arrogant or narcissistic. If I were less “attractive”, people would be encouraging me to “love my body” and would go all body positivity on me. But instead I’m supposed to be insecure and humble to make people feel more comfortable and not come across as arrogant
- getting less (not more) attention from the opposite sex. I don’t actually have people approach me at all when I’m out. I get catcalled, but no people actually wanting to talk to me51 Reply
+1 yAttractive people are usually dumb, shallow and unhappy. They get all the attention, everyone wants to be with them and therefore they don't experience the reality of the world and don't learn about true values. They place looks on a pedestal and usually also seek attractive partners who are the same dumb, shallow and unhappy. They get away with it and receive special treatments, so when dating they also believe they are entitled to anyone. The older they get, beauty becomes meaning of life to them and they in most cases end up being in love with themselves unable to see anyone else's beauty. And, as I said, they are constantly unhappy and they don't understand why. But it's because they haven't gone through hardships and processes of rejections, so they didn't develop that part of character. Beauty alone is not sustainable, it has no other value then to attract potential partners. And once they achieve that, they don't know what to do next and they lose or sabotage it all. So they end up in circles doing the same thing over and over again, the only thing they know how to do - attracting new partners.
Now, bare in mind that there is a big difference between those are beautiful and know it, and those who don't know it. It's all about self-perception.13 Reply- +1 y
Listen to yourself you sound as ridiculous as she does there are plenty of people that are attractive and extremely smart there’s also a lot of people who are gorgeous and very intelligent but act stupid around the opposite sex as a means of manipulation. The main thing is you sound very jealous and jealousy is something that will hold you back in life because I’m sure that you’re beautiful in your own right but jealousy will make you bitter
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@humpbackjack Oh I know a lot of attractive people who are amazing, but the difference is that they don't think of themselves as attractive ;) They don't post selfies of themselves all over their social media to get validation, and they certainly don't themselves happy. They simply don't have any opinion of their looks because they have more important things to think about then physical appearance. At most they are aware they are not "ugly" but they have a lot insecurities about their looks like other normal people do. And THAT is what I find attractive. I'm not jealous, I think I'm okay but what's most important is that I learned true values in life and I'm happy! It takes experience and discipline to see physical looks as nothing but as a set of parts across the body. Beneath the skin we are all just same bones.
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You can easily check in which group someone "attractive" belongs by simply asking them if they mind that their partner is with them because of their looks. I know a girl who asked her boyfriend why he loves her and he said "90% your beauty and 10% your kindness" and she was happy about it! Wise person would dump his ass.
An inflated ego and thinking the whole world revolves around you. (I can think of one car-named girl on here like that.)
"I don’t feel like asking them out..." Gimme a break. 🙄
As someone on the total and complete opposite scale of looks, I don't really have sympathy for those living life on Super Easy mode. And no, it's not "jealousy" or anything, either. It's like complaining that you're "too rich" or "too tall" or something trivial.
It's not like you can't "make yourself ugly." I have a cousin who looks like an A-list celebrity and 5'9", but she's a computer genius and very anti-social. Kind of like a female version of Sheldon Cooper who looks like Amber Heard (never mind Heard being a literal piece of sh*t). This cousin of mine hates how "naturally beautiful" she is. But I told her not to complain about it, because most human beings are ugly and get treated accordingly for it.
And it's not like people will ignore a great personality in spite of looks. Guys like Dwayne Johnson and Chris Hemsworth do just fine, and so do women like Emma Stone and Anna Kendrick, who all have looks AND personality.
I just don't see a problem with being attractive, or tall, or rich. Trying being ugly, short, and broke, and see how "hard" it is to be beautiful and have everyone adore you.33 Reply- +1 y
This is honestly the best answer👆 the vast majority of "problems" people report resorting from being attractive come entirely from psychological issues.
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I couldn't have said it better myself. And I wonder who that car-named girl is, probably not Subaru wink wink
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I completely get your perspective on this, however there are certain things people can face on being attractive. It sometimes isn't just an inflated ego, trust me I'm generally considered unattractive to people when I don't wear makeup and people's behaviour around me changes when I do dress up to an event with my hair and makeup done. I can definitely say that if people generally consider you to be unattractive, it can resort to bullying, and people putting you down to make themselves feel better. However from the other perspective, when I do wear makeup, I find that people exclude me in photos or sometimes think I am conceited. I haven't experienced anything too drastic, guys only stare for a couple of seconds so it makes me self conscious, but it isn't anything too much.
In the bright side, people are a lot nicer when you seem attractive to them and I would say this outweighs the negatives. I would rather wear makeup and seem attractive to most people than unattractive to most, there are far more negatives I have experienced with the latter.
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+1 yI once had the privilege of meeting my friend Louis Tanny's neices Tanny & Terrin Herlocker in their late teens. The older niece was beautiful, but the younger was 'drop dead STUNNING!'
The younger worked at a SEARS dept store as a clerk and people would approach her from behind and when she'd turn to greet them, even WOMEN'S jaws would drop! To her credit, she'd modestly give them a few seconds to close their mouths and 'get their 'deer in the headlights' shit together'.
I will not bore you as I am male and could wax effusive on platitudes but her most noteworthy attributes were her intellect and her magnificent personality which made her "the WHOLE package" and rightfully her beau looked like a human 'Ken' doll (lucky bastard!) tennis instructor.
On those RARE occasions when I was privileged to be in the company of BOTH sisters, they were obviously behaving like normal teens but intuitively internally as male, it was like being in the company of 'Venus' and 'Aphrodite'! The lyric: "How do you talk to an Angel..." comes to mind. To their credit, in my presence they never leveraged their 'beauty' personas.
On one occasion at my friend's family picnic, I had the opportunity to meet their Mother and to compliment her on the exemplary way she had raised her daughters.
"VERY WELL DONE, Madame!" For... Keeping America beautiful!10 Reply
Anonymous(30-35)+1 yI definitely don't have what people define to be attractive, I'm not skinny, not tall and I'm quite old fashioned. People rarely notice me without makeup and I'd say most of the time, people's behaviour around me is pretty 'normal and ordinary'. So according to most people's perspective, I am 'average' and the thing is I have really experienced bullying due to my tanned skin. Some of my friends think they can sound seemingly superior to others by putting you down, and that is definitely the worst part of it.
However I dress modestly and putting on makeup and doing my hair makes a stark difference to what people do around me. For example, I helped out at a friend's wedding once I went relatively unnoticed, however, later that day when I attended the actual wedding I dressed up for the event and a lot more people approached me. So because I know both sides of the coin, I can definitely say that being attractive has less cons than being unattractive does.
When I wear makeup, I notice that people often compliment me, most people are relatively nicer to me, I also find that people are generally more willing to help and they go out of their way to ask if I need help. However I have also faced social exclusion as a result of it, people think I'm conceited and some people avoid me in photos, guys often stare at me for a couple of seconds which sometimes makes me self-conscious, but I'm rarely approached by them, making it fairly awkward. However, even with makeup, I haven't experienced anything more drastic than being stared at for a couple of seconds, so it's relatively harmless. People also don't think I'm dumb or stupid just because I wear makeup, and for the most part, it is a lot better than the bullying I face when I don't wear makeup.10 Reply
+1 yKid let me give you some advice. and tell you some things. I was the one who walk up and say hello. Its your beauty that makes you unapproachable most think i don't have a chance in hell, 9r she's gotta have a man or she's too good for someone like me. Your looks are intimidating thats what is isolating you because you feel awkward in thos position in reality yoyr lonely and think there's something wrong with you. The only thing wrong is how your reacting. Thinking your breaking hearts. Obviously thats wrong because there are none to break have any apprached you? No then how can there be heartbreak with no relationship. You go up to one boy you like and start talking to him and most of those friends you have aren't really friends theyre just trying to siphon attention. Beeing seen with someone beautiful makes them beautiful. If you make it through life with 5 people you can count on when you needed someone the most you did great but only count on having 1 or 2. you'll marry 1 of them.
2 things then if you ever have a question ask me im around. Stop caring what other people think of you its not your business to care if i think your a bitch why would you care you dont date me, you dont eat meals at the same table you dont even know who i am so why would you even care what someone else thinks. If someone gets jealous as you meantioned earlier then get that person out of your life fast the person isn't a friend. A true friend would be happy for you. That was the while not caring what people think was building. To. Time goes by faster than you think. Lifes short don't waste time like your doing its to valuable cause when your times up its up.
Nobody will ever xare for you more than you so don't second guess yourself. You already knew but looking for approval. ✌️20 Reply
+1 yYou have to understand the generation you’re living in.
When I was between ages of 15 and 19 I would approach hotter and hotter girls and I will get rejected 90% a time but I would always be seen with hot girls but I’m the last generation for that I’m in my mid-30s now.
Boys in the Tiktok generation have no concept of what being a manly men means they have no confidence and then approach girls they rely on swipe right swipe left and they have no male skills to do anything this is why you’re feeling the withdraws, don’t get discouraged.
I know at this age you do go from who you think that are cute I have a high advice for you and I do this for a living is don’t go for looks only aim for going for a manly man I even probably would suggest going out with someone if you’re 18+ that’s at least four years older than you.
And another thing you’re too young to have a boyfriend as soon as you start getting into relationships the sooner you’ll be disappointed with guys you have to understand guys around your age are absolutely mor0ns!00 ReplyI'm just average looking but I have a girlfriend who is pretty and gets a lot of attention from men. As far as cons, this is what she told me.
1. People automatically think she is a dumb bimbo.
2. People are only interested in her looks.
3. She is automatically in the spotlight. She is introverted and likes to be alone. She hates being in the spotlight.
4. She gets things because of her looks. Since she didn't work for those things she doesn't appreciate them.
5. Some women hate her. They think she is a threat.
6. Many people put her on a pedestal and she hates that.20 Reply500 opinions shared on Dating topic. boys stare at you at school because of their raging hormones. They’d just about do the same to any girl however average looking she may be.
A good way to know if you’re really good looking is if most girls hate you for no reason. Not by boys because young boys well they’ll fuck just about anything that moves with how their hormones are at that age and sometimes it stays that way for a long time past the teens too.
If most girls hate you for no reason then you might be very pretty.21 Reply- +1 y
You'll get a sex drive eventually.
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+1 y- being expected to date douche bags cuz league is a thing
- being called bitch even for slightest hostility
- same gender jealousy
- people think you have it easy just cuz you have the pretty privilege
- being used as an eye candy in videos, photos, events
- having too many options
- being insecure about personality
- being harassed
- being an outcast sometimes
- basically everything from the movie Legally Blonde applies here
- being slut shamed if you're open
- being labelled as attention whore for no strong reason
- friends falling for you leaving you friendless in the end
- some partners might feel insecure and jealous as you get more attention
- perceived as smarter and more mature, than being a disappointment30 Reply - 1.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.
+1 yIm pretty and I understand. Those that aren't won't and will just be jaelous of you not understanding that everything in life comes with cons.
I hate when guys stare at me, and so annoyingly when its obvious im uncomfortable. A lot of men dont approach as they dont think they have a chance. Some hate you just cause you are pretty. Some would never date you as you make them feel you are better than them.
As of your love life, you shouldn't concern with other but ysf. If there is a guy you like, try to get to know him, its your life and you deserve to be happy.10 Reply - 668 opinions shared on Dating topic.
+1 y1) Cat calls (if you don't like them)
2) Attention from aggressive guys (if you don't want them)
3) Some guys think that the prettier you are the stupider you are
4) Stalking and increased potential for rape from stalkers
5) Extreme jealousy from other girls
6) Stereotyping
7) High sexual expectations
8 ) Having a guy like you just for your looks and not for who you really are, like he could care less about that, until he does... lol
9) Sometimes it's hard to find real friends because they are intimidated by you
10) You many times end up the center of attraction
11) Hate comes out when you won't act upon flirtations
12) You develop many trust issues
00 Reply 892 opinions shared on Dating topic. You asked what the cons are. Guys find very attractive gals to be unapprochable and very intimidating. There is an old saying that is true: The prettiest girls don't get asked to the prom. No guys will ask the pretty girls because they are too intimidating. Maybe instead of making yourself up to look pretty, you could tone it down to look more natural. Also, the way you conduct yourself around people has a lot to do with why guys stay away. Have you heard the expression ""She is beautiful on the outside AND just as beautiful on the inside. You gotta be both. I don't know if you know who Dolly Parton is but she is a classic example of beautiful on the inside and on the outside. She is getting pretty old now, but people still love her and love to watch her sing. She owns Dollywood in Tennessee. She has everything, money, fame, etc., but you would never know it just by talking to her. She is sweet, kind, generous, loving, helpful, etc. Hope this helps you.
00 Reply2.4K opinions shared on Dating topic. Well that kind of all sounds good I guess but that's not the part that you really need to work on you you you need to work on that person on the inside that I'm sure like you said you are probably cute but see that's not what guys go after real guys anyway guys who just want to get their dick wet they will go after you they probably going to stick around too long either I mean it's all good right now probably. But there will be coming today this time to switch roads switch pads and something always seems to get lost then you just don't have what used to have. Or that you thought you used to have. So I would have to answer your question by saying there's a lot of attractive girls who con themselves. For just way too long
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+1 yPros always out way the cons of beauty. If you have a situation where there are positives and negatives but people will always choose to put up with the negative just to keep the positive, it isn’t a bad situation.
If you’re attractive there are things you can do to make yourself less attractive or unattractive yet people don’t take those steps. Complaining about being beautiful is like complaining about being rich. You have the upper hand. You have a better quality of life because of your situation.00 Reply
+1 yBeing arrogant about it, like posting it online for everybody to see. "Oh, the world is so tough when you are pretty as I am."
I know you're a kid, but get over yourself right now. Do you know how you make other young ladies feel when you talk about how attractive your are? It makes them feel self conscious and makes you look like an ass.
Never in public discuss how attractive your are or how intelligent you are. There is always somebody more attractive and more intelligent than you. And it makes you look very arrogant and stuck up.
I would never date a women who brags about how attractive and\ or smart they are. That is a huge red flag, it means they are entitled and attention seeking. And attention seeking is the worst kind of behavior, entitlement is a close second.26 Reply- +1 y
Oh shut up, she didn't include a photo and posted anonymously. You really gonna give a girl half your age a hard time because she isn't insecure about how she looks and want's a boyfriend.
As a woman, I am thrilled when another woman is confident and feels good about the way she looks. It doesn't make me self conscious at all, and I don't think it would really make anyone feel that way unless she was trying to tear them down. - +1 y
@Subarugirl I agree with you. There was a troll who insulted the way I look but I think I'm attractive and other people think I am too. There's a difference between bragging about how you look and feeling confident in how you look. The OP wasn't bragging about how she looks. Some people missed the point of this post. I don't see why it's bad to feel nice about how you look just because some people are salty
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@floppy2112 Very well said, sir!
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@Subarugirl Shut up? I don't think so. You have no power over me.
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Yeah that was rhetorical, a figure of speech if you will.
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@Subarugirl If you say so.
+1 yThe problem with attractive women is some of them never learn how to be a person, just an object in every room they enter. It creates narcissistic sociopathy.
Men don't experience this because women are either too passive or cowardly to be forward about their attractions or we are just oblivious to it.
We do however love getting big and strong and working out and complimenting other men with really gay suggestions about fucking each other in the ass because "damn Eddie your ass looks great" even though we're straight. Though that's more about men enjoying acting like fucking retards. I certainly do. I also assert that every man I know must be at least 200 lbs with abs. BIG MAN BIG. lol00 Reply999 opinions shared on Dating topic. People assume you are smarter than you are. They assume you have lots of friends and people who want you. They assume you're happy. What they don't realize is that you might be struggling just as much as them. You might be just as smart as they are, but people don't help you because they think you are smarter. You might be just as lonely for a boyfriend but the only people who approach you are the players. And you struggle to tell if someone is interested in you for your character and heart or if they are interested in you for what's skin deep. It can be very lonely
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Anonymous(25-29)+1 yI thought of becoming a male model because then I could travel the world. But I heard you have to work so much, and you’re always by yourself. So it wasn’t for me, but at the same time, I rather just work a regular job. Anyways, what I noticed is that some girls will try to make you jealous, so that you can like them (but at the same time it f’ing hurts when you see a girl you like flirt with other guys). Not only that, but most women assume you’re a player. So if you’re talking to a girl, other women who see that automatically get discourage to flirt with you. And I’ve also had quite a few women (like 4 in the past) stalk me before. I literally had a girl come every night to my house to possibly see me. Even though I don’t get why they just don’t ask me out or approach me? Instead of being creepy? And I feel like just as women, they only want you for your looks. So I care more about personality more than anything. Otherwise, that’s it for me.
10 ReplyGuys who like you think you "must" have a boyfriend or that you are too hot for them. Carefully evaluate the confident ones who hit on you, they could just be confident, or could be gaming you for a lay. If you like a guy and think he likes you, make that first move. Manage expectations early "I'm not sure if I like you, but I would like to get to know you better"
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+1 yThe cons are that we have to be privy to questions like these.
Seriously. You’re probably pretty. That’s great. That’s easy. You were born that way. Now see what else you can contribute to society. How can you make a difference in the lives of others, aside from being momentary eye candy?
"You have more to do than be weighed down by 'pretty' or 'beautiful.' You are a fiery heart and a wicked brain. Do not let your soul be defined by its shell."20 Reply2.3K opinions shared on Dating topic. People get very upset when you explain why they will never meet your standards. They build up some fantasy relationship with you/infatuation then when they can't have you to live out their made up fantasy they get angry and may try to hurt you (like sabotage you at your job for example)
10 Reply453 opinions shared on Dating topic. Being a man, no woman has ever told me that I am beautiful (handsome) so it has never factored into my life. I work out and am in shape so I can assume that I'm not terribly unappealing. So I can say that I am unaffected by the way I look. But I'd assume that for women it's a minor detriment, that's why there is a multibillion dollar make up and cosmetic surgery industry.
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+1 yOther people find your beauty to be intimidating, so they tear you down for your good looks.. & we interpret that for not being good enough.. so we focus on our flaws and what we lack, rather than embrace and work with what we have… high school for a majority of the people I know was very stressful.
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+1 yToo much attention from people, both strange and familiar, who perhaps should be avoided. Creepy stares, and others who want to be your followers or pets. Sycophantic behaviour and others who gossip. Envy and bitchiness from other females who are ugly and/or fat.
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+1 yMore cat calling, more abuse, more nasty men trying to approach you, men trying to hand you drinks (just no I don't trust you), men thinking they are entitled to a smile/ nice response (just fuck right off)
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Hahahahah so poor.
+1 yThere's no cons if your a girl.,. Girls are like flowers... You sit there looking pretty to attract bees to pollinate you, and the more pretty you look... The more bees you're going to find flying towards you
But if you a guy and good looking.. it's the opposite... Girls will be too shy to go to a hot man so they avoid him... Also attactive men develope some kind of complex.. where they think girls should jus come to him if he's attractive... They think they don't have to try so they never bothered to talk to girls.. and yet no girls come to him.. then he starts to wonder why no girls come to him if he's handsome.. then he starts to think he's ugly and unwanted and it goes down in to a negative spiral of pitty and depression until eventually we get the next incel killer Elliot rodgers03 Reply- +1 y
Like. Handsome guys jus expect girls to take him
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By the way I can't believe you're complaining about getting too much attention, I would love to be you.. some of us get no attention at all and trust me you don't wanna be me.. imagine feeling ugly and unlovable and everyone always friendzoning you... If you want less attention jus make yourself look Less hot
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Your taking being hot for granted. I'd actually kill to be like you
+1 yHey, well… on the flip. My good friends were all male at high school age. When the guy I liked would walk by, at the last min, my friends would quickly ruffle my hair and tweak my clothes. Then act as if nothing happened. Total asses. 😁 I love those guys.
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@collie22 Yes. Good guys. They always had my back. 😎
468 opinions shared on Dating topic. Sometimes being attractive can be a con. You can get unwanted attention or you could get catcalled. Some random stranger hit me up when I was walking on the sidewalk one time but I wasn't interested in talking to him. I understand how it can be annoying
01 ReplyEnjoy it really.. god blessed you with your beauty so why not get advantage of it in a good way !
A con aide of being attractive is that people don’t tell you how attractive you are it’s like they think they know you are and you don’t need to tell you. Talking form experience lol00 Reply- 388 opinions shared on Dating topic.
+1 yPick a guy and just ask him. If he turns you down, go to the next. If you are that attractive that nobody will approach you, then just accept it, graciously if that helps, and you approach them.
It's better if you pick anyways, because when they pick you, then it's always a random outcome. Always better to know someone before dating them if you are looking for long-term. Good luck00 Reply 2.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. You're confused and not "attractive" in the least - else you would not be asking what you are.
What you're probably not understanding is "the game" and how it's being played. You're probably giving all sort of bipolar signals and have the girls and the boys confused as to what you're playing at.00 Reply
+1 yFirst thing I understand the whole guys won’t approach hot chicks thing but that’s easily fixed you approach them forget the you’re worried about breaking hearts because that just makes you sound conceited and that kind of ugly will erase a lot of being beautiful cause true lasting beauty comes from what’s inside real talk
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+1 yThere is no con to being attractive. I think in your case, you're pretty full of yourself and it's okay to have some arrogance about yourself, but you're not being approached for a reason. It may be your looks or you may be someone's type yet. Attractive people are approached A lot every day, so don't assume that people aren't approaching you is a sign that you're very attractive. You might not be as good looking as you think.
00 Reply 529 opinions shared on Dating topic. For girls (I don't know if they are any cons of being a attractive man):
1. Some people think you're stupid just because you're attractive (as they think a human can't be both attractive and smart)
2. Other girls are envious of you
3. Men give you unwanted attention (sexualised comments about your body).10 Reply
Anonymous(30-35)+1 ySometimes I don’t go on camera with one of my female friends who is prone to envy because I fear she will get sad and her whole facial expression change lol
i go on camera when I’m looking frumpy
fuck that I’m not doing it anymore step up your own value or get the fuck out my way00 Reply475 opinions shared on Dating topic. Maybe you should look for boyfriend from other schools. If things go south, there is still more air to breathe if the relationship doesn't work out.
by the way, Trust me, being atractive may seem tuff from too much unwanted attention, but its better than the life of those who alwsys get rejected and never aprouched. There are downsides to popularity, but there is no upside in being always rejected.00 Reply
+1 yWell you just have to be how you want to be. If people receive the false perception of you then that is on them. If you are not flirting and intentionally trying to deceive and play with emotions then you will never be in the wrong no matter what others say. The right one always comes eventually sometimes right when your not trying or looking or you can be alone and still find peace with yourself.
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+1 yI'm a good looking guy.
Biggest con I get is girls don't trust that I'm single when we meet or they lack self confidence that I will stay with them.
I've lost a lot of relationships and time over insecurity10 Reply
heavy breathing intensifies 10 Reply1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic. Sounds like you got issues, get overselve and talk to guy. If your so awesome your make someone's day by saying hi. Not fixing on yourself.
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+1 yI'm too sexy for my shirt. So sexy it hurts!

Just too sexy for my shirt 20 Reply People flirting with you even when you don't want to flirt back or you aren't a flirty person so you feel bad
20 ReplyBecomes sensitive to how those looks make you feel. Some will leave you unaffected, but others may stir strong feelings. Does that ever happen to you? Write to me to discuss if it interests you.
00 Reply1.7K opinions shared on Dating topic. You can attract people who doesn't take no as an answer. Ie bad people. That about it but since most people aren't like that it's a net positive.
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+1 yI'm not attractive but I can tell you what I've observed. Hot girls complaining about anything and everything I assume because they're used to men running around trying to solve their problems for them all day play on their phone and smoke blunts.
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+1 yWomen are rude to me. Men don’t approach me. It is assumed that I am dumb.
20 ReplyPeople are always hitting on you talking sexually even when you are in a committed relationship. Let's face it the more people tempting you the harder it is to resist cause we are human.
12 ReplyI’m sure it’s completely different for attractive girls but a big thing for me is I’ve never had to approach a girl first they always came to me
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+1 yPeople think you're smart, even if you aren't and you never know if someone likes you for who you are or for what you look like.
20 Reply There are no cons to being attractive, heck I wish I was.
10 Reply2.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. If anyone dates you people will assume they are only dating you for your looks.
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+1 yUh, no, you're not that attractive. Just an image in your own mind. This is narcissism and solipsism on full unabashed display. And that is NEVER attractive. EVER.
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+1 yNo cons. Receiving attention is a good thing, not a negative to me. I wouldn't care if a woman kept staring at me. If I had a girlfriend then I wouldn't like that.
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+1 yCat calling. But that happens to most women anyways. I dont see any real cons tbh... I feel like I'll sound condescending whatever I say.
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+1 yYou get treated like a shiny Toy, once the sparkle dulls you're discarded...
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+1 yPeople don’t ever say you are beautiful or liste. To you
00 ReplyOther than guys being weird and bothering you absolutely nothing
00 ReplyPeople feel the need to get up in your shit constantly.
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yYeah, pretty privilege must really suck for you. Let's see how you feel about it when you're 35.
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Asker+1 yI’ll still be a sexy mf even if i turn 60
Opinion Owner+1 yYeah, that's what they all think... until they don't.
Asker+1 yits actually pretty easy to stay well attractive, especially when you don’t just let yourself go, but besides hopefully i won’t need to rely on my attractiveness anymore when i’m 60
Opinion Owner+1 ySuch naivete. Lol
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Because 35 year old men all look like absolute models and not like they diet on cheetos alone. As long as she keeps taking care of herself she will be fine.
Opinion Owner+1 y@This_Is_My_Opinion8 What exactly do fat old men have to do with female pretty privilege? Lmao
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Means that even at 35 she will have the same attention as long as she doesn't let herself go.
Opinion Owner+1 y@This_Is_My_Opinion8 Um, not exactly, no. The facts show otherwise. I'm not saying many 35 year old women aren't still desirable, but they are not nearly as desirable as they were earlier in life, and they have lost much of the power (and pretty privilege) they had in the dating game during their 20s.
bigthink.com/.../
www.smh.com.au/.../...ing-game-20120421-1xdn0.html- +1 y
Of course everyone gets less attractive as they age. Even men. I was talking specifically about people their own age.
Opinion Owner+1 y@This_Is_My_Opinion8 Physical attractiveness and desirability are two very different things, which is why female desirability declines steadily from age 18 onward, whereas male desirability increases steadily even beyond age 40. All very relevant to my original statement here.
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Attractiveness is not the only thing that makes you desirable. I agree. But to say male desirability increases aven after 40 is just delusional.
Opinion Owner+1 y@This_Is_My_Opinion8 Believe what you want, but the data show you are 100% wrong about that. The biggest study of it's kind, which included massive amounts of data, showed women are at the8i8ir peak desirability at age 18, and men are at their peak desirability at age 50.
Opinion Owner+1 yat *their peak desirability
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At 50? I would love to see that study.
Opinion Owner+1 y@This_Is_My_Opinion8 Just scroll up. I linked it a few posts up. Here it is again...
bigthink.com/.../- +1 y
That study used online date from apps only. 50 year old men will have a easy time percentage wise compared to younger since they will attract women more their age. At the time men don't simp so hard as guys when they are young. So of course they will have higher rates of success as far as online goes.
Opinion Owner+1 y@This_Is_My_Opinion8 It would seem you didn't read the study. It's not about success are failure. It's about who people of the opposite sex are attracted and drawn to.
“The average woman’s desirability drops from the time she is 18 until she is 60,” the researchers wrote. “For men, desirability peaks around 50 and then declines.”- +1 y
And did they test with subjects of the same age or all ages? On an online dating app mind you. Because I don't believe they just include all ages since let's be real at 50 years old men at not at their peak. Specially since statistically after 49, even women the same age start preferring the looks of younger men.
Opinion Owner+1 y@This_Is_My_Opinion8 Dude, as I already said, it's not just about physical attractiveness; it's about desirability.
Rather than continuing to make arguments and ask questions and that are all explained in the study, why not just read it yourself. It's a short read.
www.science.org/doi/pdf/10.1126/sciadv.aap9815- +1 y
Both are related. There is no way around it. Both men are women are more desirable if they are attractive or not.
Again, they at no point say more desirable to who. Makes total sense that as men age they men give less attention to women their age and more attention to younger girls. So women of their age don't get as much attention.
On the other hand as women age they give more attention to older men. So older men get more attention.
Notice something... The desirability of men at 18 is not very different than what it is on their 50. From almost 5 to 5. What this shows? Young boys have some desirability. But women as they age they began to like more men their age. So men disability raises a bit. All they have now are a few more messages from women who don't have so much attention anymore.
Like I was saying they get more attention from people their age.
Opinion Owner+1 y@This_Is_My_Opinion8 “Both are related. There is no way around it. Both men are women are more desirable if they are attractive or not.” Well of course they are related, but they are not the same, and they are different for men than women. It all goes back to what men and women need from each other. Men need a woman to be young and healthy enough to bear children and care for them. Youth and health are critical in that. Women, on the other hand, need a man who can provide for and protect her and her children, and young men are not nearly as good at that as older men. A man’s maturity and career develop much more slowly than a woman’s physical attractiveness. Put simply, the value a woman provides a man peaks when she is young and diminishes from that point forward, whereas the value a man provides a woman does not peak until he is older. The things that factor into women’s desirability are tied much more closely to physical attractiveness than are the things that factor into a man’s desirability.
"Again, they at no point say more desirable to who.” No, and they don’t need to if you use a little reason. The numbers speak for themselves. The vast majority of women, regardless of age, prefer older men to younger ones, whereas the vast majority of men, regardless of age, prefer younger women. That is why women rule the dating game during their 20s, whereas men rule the dating game from age 30 onward. The article I posted earlier explains it very well. Here it is again. You should read it.
www.smh.com.au/.../...ing-game-20120421-1xdn0.html
Opinion Owner+1 y@This_Is_My_Opinion8 “The desirability of men at 18 is not very different than what it is on their 50.” This statement is clearly false, as evidenced by the study in question here and many others of its kind. Boys at age 18 are not nearly as sought after as are older men. Younger women complain constantly about the immaturity and lack of value boys that age offer. This should not even be a point of debate here.
The bottom line here is that we are talking about desirability, not physical attractiveness. We are talking about value to the opposite sex, and physical attractiveness is only one component of that, but it is a much larger component of the value women offer men than it is to the value men offer women. The value men offer women continues to increase with age for many years whereas the value women offer to men begins to decline from early adulthood onward. That’s why the age of 30 for women is such a turning point in their desirability to men.- +1 y
The average age that women today have children is 31. Average. Women can and do have babies more late than they did.
That and women today don't need a provider. In 1/3 of today's relationships the woman makes more money.
We live in a time where physical attraction in men and education in women matters. Times are changing whatever you see it or not.
Yes they do need to specify to who they are more desirable. Because yes women like older men up to 4 years older on average. Not 10 or 20. Believe whatever you want, but a very fir guy with 23 will always get more success with 18 year old guys than a rich fat guy with 33.
“The desirability of men at 18 is not very different than what it is on their 50.”
It's literally on the graph of the study you are quoting. The variance for men throughout their lives is not even a full point.
Like I am trying ti say, 18 year old boys and not as desired by 18 year old girls, as 50 year old men are desired by 50 year old women. That is it. Try to see how many 50 year old men have relationships with below 30 year old girls and have your answer.
8.4K opinions shared on Dating topic. You always wonder if somebody just wants you for your body, if you can call that a con.
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+1 yThis I gotta see. Probably a bunch of first world problems.
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