If the person you are dating said they slept with over a hundred people would that be a deal breaker?

[coachTanthony]

YES

NO

see poll ( Just pick Yes or NO )

[Cynicaldreamer]

I would definitely want more details... and him to go get tested for STDs before making too harsh of judgment.

It would definitely raise some flags, but I'd ask him: how long did he date each person. Were they flings/one night stands, or committed relationships? And how far apart was all this.. fun?
As someone not as experienced sexually, I'd be intimidated to say the least... plus I wouldn't want to be another statistic for his count.

However I'm rational enough not to judge until I account for EVERYTHING: his age, past relationships, experience, etc. He could have had a wild side in his teens, early 20s, and calmed down once he matured. Or he could be lucky with dating and actually had several girlfriends-

Or he might be a manwhore... who knows. Again, I'd ask before making any assumptions.

[cookiecrusher]

100+ is pretty sure territory for a manwhore😅

[Cynicaldreamer]

@cookiecrusher Oh obviously, we ALL know that! 🤣
But I swear there will be that ONE rare guy out there with some circumstance that says otherwise. So as I said, I'd at least hear him out first

[coachTanthony]

I can't imagine what that unicorn would say LOL

[Cynicaldreamer]

@coachTanthony If my unicorn is a manwhore, he must be out spreading rainbows and sunshine to sleep with that many women! 🤣
I'm gonna go sit in a corner now

[zeitgeist057]

Thank you for not being so quick to judge and having an open mind about it. As for your hypothetical unicorn-whore:

1. Racking up larger numbers could happen easily if someone just happens to sleep with a new person every so often, or if they are part of a culture where multiple partners and swapping happens (like hippy culture or swingers, or even just college dorm days).

2. Who you were 5 years ago isn't necessarily who you are today, or even 5 years before that. We are always learning and growing from our experiences.

3. Not to say having sex is a bad thing to do, even though our dominant culture is very hypocritical about sexuality, condemning and shaming while simultaneously glorifying and selling it.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Not a deal breaker, but I'd want to know details as I'd share mine as well, we might be a perfect match.

I'd definitely want to know why, as we never know the causes and the full picture of why people do the things they do, or what kind of battles they are fighting.

I imagine there is some point when numbers no longer matter, not sure what it is... a hundred, five hundred, a thousand, might even be twenty or so.

By not matter, I mean that as two different ways. One being not a chance you have too many and the other being, after that number it really doesn't matter, I still love you.

All of this is of course based on the fact they don't have a bunch of kids from all over the place and/or STDs.

[ChiTown33]

I never like to put a solid NO on something without hearing someone out first. But as I've said before. Most women sleep with guys they love or at least think they love (yes I am excluding those that enjoy casual sex and one night stands. But I wouldn't count those women as my match anyways). So if a woman has slept with 100 guys what she's actually saying is she's either loved or been in love with 100 guys.
Now I ask you if a woman has told 100 guys she loved them. Why would I believe I'd be the LAST and FOREVER guy she loved? Why would I believe I'd be anything to her other than just #101? Sorry but I deserve more than that. Because when I say "I love you" it isn't just 3 words. It really means something to me.

[TruthBringer]

The results of this poll prove that body-count matters to people, no matter how many times poltically correct people (and social justice warriors) try to claim it isn't.

I wouldn't even look at a woman with a body-count over 5 (unless it's purely sexual), let alone over a hundred.

Studies have shown that when it comes to long term commitment, body-count matters.
Why The Number of Sexual Partners Matters

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I try to be open-minded... But yeah that's a lot! And, I mean how old are they/over what time span we talking? And how many were happening at the same time? And how many resulted in pregnancies? Or STD'S? But my answer would probably be a no to that.. Shows a lack of commitment/ uninterest in monogonous relationships

[OlderAndWiser]

Depends on how many of those were in the past 5 years. Has she been a slut her entire life, a huge slut when she was younger but then went to rehab, or what?

[snowboardbroad]

In my opinion if you're in my age range (early 20s) and you have over 100 bodies, you have a real issue. Can't tell me this is empowering or normal for any gender. If you're really that horny just get a sex toy or something and protect yourself. From what I know of people with extremely high body counts is that they are either super insecure, terrified of commitment from past trauma or have a personality/anxiety disorder. I've seen the ugly side of sex addiction so I have kind of a strong opinion on it.
Obviously the older the person is, the more acceptable it is to have more bodies because of how many years you actually lived. And to answer the question if it would be a deal breaker; depends. If that person admitted that they had an issue and was in control of it, I would be able to move past.

[Dontaaaa]

Agreed

[Medicalbug]

Depends if it’s casual or not. If it’s just a hookup I’d guard against STDs and certainly worry about herpes etc. but I suppose? Maybe? To my knowledge this has never happened so dunno.
As a relationship prospect I’d be a too worried that he was a recovering sex addict (who constantly relapses) or wasn’t able to really commit to anyone. I mean with luck I would have gained some insight as to how he acted before things got romantic. If he is in his 30s and the bulk of the 100 count happened during college and a wild phase and by all reports he’d recently had longer relationships, I would be less concerned than if I met him because he’d banged all of my friends.

[Ninani]

I couldn't care less. A guy could be careless with even a small number of partners or be careful with a large number. What matters is that he treats me with respect and consideration.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

I don't care.
No really I couldn't care less. You are asking me to break up with the one that can possibly be the woman of my dreams because she had others before me? That is just stupid. Whatever it was 10 or 100 that is still stupid.

[coachTanthony]

LOL sounds like others thought the same thing about her then.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Probably she is awsome! Never asked for her body count. Only think I asked her was if she was a virgin. She said no and I was so happy! Having sex with a virgin is so boring.

[mobiusforniner]

I believe at this number, it calls into question an individual's integrity more than anything else. 100+ implies no serious relationships and otherwise points to impulsive decision making which likely includes a plethora of other negative habits or influences, like substance abuse, lacking self respect, poor self control; etc. So in short, yes, it's a deal breaker.

[MCheetah]

I am honestly unsure. For all I know, they're lying or trolling me. I have bigger dealbreakers than that, so I would say "No, it's not a dealbreaker." But I certainly would be unsure just how far the relationship could go or how faithful the person was.

[NathanDavis]

I would not call it a deal breaker...

but most likely, she won't be the type of person that feel comfortable with, in a relationship... and that's usually what I am after, a relationship...

and not just being the guy #181 and if those were her intentions I would rather not be just one more

[Starla1234]

Well if they had a disease then yes, definitely a dealbreaker. And I would also want to know why his body count is so high, its most likely a stupid reason like they just wanted to ‘have fun’ and girls and disposable and stuff, so yeah that’s also a dealbreaker.

[Cathy7734]

Risk factors
Risk factors for cervical cancer include:

Many sexual partners. The greater your number of sexual partners — and the greater your partner's number of sexual partners — the greater your chance of acquiring HPV.
Early sexual activity. Having sex at an early age increases your risk of HPV.
Other sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Having other STIs — such as chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis and HIV/AIDS — increases your risk of HPV.

[t-8900]

We can be friends if you don't push the Bs with me, try to get into my pants, or act like a pig around me. No way in hell would I date you though. It's no different from dating a prostitute. No way, no how. 4-6 is really the absolute most I'd tolerate. If you had lots more then you don't have my level of discipline, nor my sane moral values. So even if I could get over the grossness factor we'd be completely incompatible fundamentally speaking.

[Anonymous]

That would definitely be a tough one to get over. One, I'd be worried about diseases (men can be carriers for HPV and not know it - there is no male test for HPV). Two, I'd wonder if I was just another notch on his belt. Three, I would think that in general, he and I probably have different views on sex.

[Avicenna]

Yeah, that's a complete dealbreaker. It's an indication of severe psychological issues and/or a severe lack of impulse control. Not someone who is stable.

[Wester1967]

Yep. Maybe 3-4 but 100. Forget it. My ex wife told me after we were married that she'd slept with 45 dudes by age 25. I tried to make it work, but her pair bond mechanism was totally obliterated. I can't imagine how cynical and jaded anyone who's had sex with 100 people would be. All those dudes. and Me being #101, I'm Mr. Right? Don't make me laugh.

[Anonymous]

For me yes. Usually these people tend to not be faithful. It's not a guarantee of course but they have to really prove themselves that I'm not just gonna be 101 in the ever-growing body count. Prove to me that I'm the 1 special person you'll commit to out of those 100. But I'm usually reserved in these situations. I'm more likely to just not risk it and move on.

[Anonymous]

My fiancé told me she's ben with around 30 guys before she met me.
She use to get around,

but didn’t tell me until after we were dating for a while.
Because she thought i would leave.
to her surprise I didn’t,

I really dont care how many guys a girl has slept with. It’s irrelevant. Even if its 100

[melanieeeB]

No, but he better get tested and let me see the results lol

[Ginchygoo]

So I'm an old guy as you think you can tell but I would have to consider the guy's age. If he's my age and has spent a lot of years single not a big number. If he's in his 20s or 30s with several years of marriage then manwhore.

[DizzyDesii]

More than a handful is a dealbreaker so absolutely. When people are “that easy” i question their level of self respect and morality