Do you find it awkward to talk about who should pay for a date?

[Flower7]

I always hate when this issue comes up. It makes me very uncomfortable to have that conversation and I really dread that part of a date.

Yes

No

I’ve never been on a date.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I come out and tell the girl, I will pay for the date, I even give her money for gas

[Flower7]

That’s very sweet, especially the gas money. 😊

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@Flower7 Thank you, Flower.. Happy Holidays My Friend xD

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for Most Helpful Guy :)

[Jerre]

I always pay for everything

[Flower7]

A gentleman…very nice!

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Not particularly, unless I know that he is struggling financially or doesn’t have a job… Usually I will offer to split it. He or I pay it full, and see the total, and divide it by 2, and we give each other our portion. If he offers to pay it full, I will still offer to pay a tip or split it.

[OlderAndWiser]

I never have that discussion because I always assume that I will pay for everything.

[jaybee281]

Ironically looking back at every time I went out with a girl - She always made it clear that she'd pay for herself - Which I really appreciated - I've also found it weird that those that developed into an actual relationship ended up having me pay for her and her paying for me more than a few times.. But never before we were actually close

[Flower7]

Are you saying most of the ones that turned into a relationship involved both of you paying on the dates?

[TrueConfection]

I voted yes. I have never had that conversation other than my husband and I deciding which of us has cash on hand of it's a breakfast date or coffee.

I would find it awkward to insist on paying for dinner if I were dating. I was taught that would be insulting. I understand why everyone likes to split things now, but I guess I'm still living in the old days.

[Flower7]

Yes and I never know which type of guy I’m out with. They could be either modern or more old-fashioned. And especially if it’s the first date, it can be very hard to figure that out.

[TrueConfection]

Yikes. That would be tough.

[TheBootyChest]

Not really. I feel like who ever asked for the date, should pay. And I am usually the one who asks. But if so, I would still offer to pay if she asked, knowing she would not accept, but that she sees that I am still politely offering.

[Flower7]

So would you be okay with actually paying if she was the one who asked you out? I mean, what would you do if she took you up on that offer? Is it just something you say to be polite or would you actually follow through with it (without feeling bitter)?

[TheBootyChest]

I would do both. I would only feel bitter if she took us out for like fine dining where it's $50 +a plate and she "tricked" me into paying.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

When I used to go out on dates, the guys who asked me out would also say "It's on me" soon after asking me out. I did the same when I asked guys out. It's always better to bring it up early on to eliminate at least one uncertainty out of the way. Most of the time, though, my dates would cover the outing even though I offered to.

[Gagname]

I voted No - I don’t talk about it, I just pay for the date; and if the woman insists on paying, I just tell her that she can pay on the next date.

And then on the next date if she again insists on paying, l, I just tell her that she can pay on the next date..

[slatyb]

If I invite a woman out, I expect to pay for the date. If she's also a professional and insists on splitting it, then I will let her. If the date went well and it's clear there will be another I will suggest that she can get the next one. If I'm earning considerably more than she does, then I am happy to pay almost all the time.

[Fireguy17]

I just man up and pay.
No biggie.
If you aren't prepared to pay the bill when you go out on a date then you shouldn't have gone out in the first place.
If she really want to pay, or go dutch then that is fine.
I'm not going to make a big deal out of it, but I will always offer to pay.

[qwert1234]

My general rule is if we're just starting, if I am the one who asked her out, I pay. If she offers to pay her share, I would accept, otherwise I don't expect her.

If she's the one who asked me out, I would always offer to pay my share.

If we're already together, we discuss this beforehand. I do offer to pay on special occasions like her birthday or anniversary or if there's something to celebrate like her promotion or new job or start of business.

[InYourHead]

No I just assume every date i have I'm gonna pay for myself. If he offers to pay I let him. If he asks me to pay, then I might be a little

[InYourHead]

A little put off... apparently I didn't finish my thought 🙃

[Flower7]

I was wondering what the missing word was! Thanks.

[InYourHead]

Lol no problem 😊 I'm a space cadet sometimes

[GreenLanternI0I]

15 years ago, that wouldn't be an issue at all. But today, with all the B. S. ""how dare you to pay for me, I can pay for my own meal"" and ""I'm a strong woman who can take care of myself"" garbage, I definitely do.

[ArrowheadSW]

I just assume that I'll pay for it, so I really don't think that much about it. Funny that a lot of the time when the time comes to pay, the woman will pick up the tab. In that case I tell her I'll leave the tip.

[Sadgirl1994]

I have never been on a date but if I were to go on a date I will offer to split the bill. If the guy wants to pay then I will let him. Otherwise I am ok with paying my own share

[Kaneki05]

Nope not exactly hard. Just ask right away before the date even happens, then there answer it's self could give away yep this date ain't for me. So I've never had any issue with this.

[dustybiker]

I always made it clear up front I was paying for myself. It made me feel awkward when someone wanted to pay. Just the way I was raised.

[WowwGirl]

I don't go on dates unless they pay. I've never had to have that conversation

[Flower7]

But that’s not something you would find out until the end of the date, right?

[EaterPeter]

Use to of paying. So far only one date wanted to pay and it was awkward.

[Flower7]

Lol.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[275153]

I always pay unless if it’s my birthday or something where my date has told me she wants to treat.

[Iron_Man]

Let the guy take care of it at least for the first three dates. Then you can have it I’ll pay for you next time you pay for me

[AkshiJanjua]

Yeah... but what else can we do, expect guys to pay everytime? it's awkward because it's dumb for only guys to pay and talking money on the first date is gonna be awkward

[convo_king89]

I’ve heard about girls just going on dates just for the free food, then oh I don’t think this will work bye.

[Flower7]

I’m not one of those.

[GreenLanternI0I]

And you heard it Right! this is a trend that is gaining a lot of traction.

[shortster]

I figure if you do the inviting you should do the paying.

[magsberry98]

Would always pay for myself, or at least offer first

[Guardian45]

Simple rule is the One who asks; pays! It should be decided beforehand to avoid embarrassments.

[NathanDavis]

a question that comes to mind, is do you hate to talk about it... or do you hate to spend money on yourself and pay your part of the meal?

[Flower7]

I wouldn’t mind paying for my own stuff.

[NathanDavis]

what makes it so awkward and dreadful then?

[Flower7]

Because usually, guys pay for dates. But it’s also rude to just assume that. And I don’t know the right words to explain to them that I’d be okay paying for my own. Or at what part of the date that conversation should occur. Or how to bring it up.

Long story short, I have a lot of social anxiety in general. Confusion in any social situation or not knowing the best thing to do is distressing for me.

[NathanDavis]

if someone asks you to go out with them on a date, then that someone should be not only ready but also willing to pay for all of it, because they're extending that invitation to you...

so no, is not rude to assume this, it's quite common to expect this is going to be the case

any guy that asks you out, and also "demands" you pay for your part... in my opinion is not worth your time, but that's just my personal opinion, now... if he brings up the topic, or asks you, or jokes about it... then yes, he's probably considering that you might want to share the bill, and I think this is fine

so I think the best part is that you just don't bring it up yourself... assume they will pay it all, but also be ready to share the bill, if they bring it up, then don't discuss it, just say it's alright and you two share the bill and that's it... go on with a nice time, hopefully

[exitseven]

I used to always pay. It was never a discussion.

[Wiredone]

Since I always pay it was never a discussion

[RebeccaBI2000]

I always pay for my meal, until it is serious

[Ms_Vanderquack]

No, it's pretty straight forward.

[Wowboi]

No. Whoever suggests it pays

[eagle1951]

not really. and the guy should pay.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Awkward AF yes

[jerdanro]

No. I always pay.