Is it normal to find a guy more attractive if he is taken and to be more interested after you find out?

[HeartBreaker007]

Yes

No

[OddBeMe]

Yes that common. (Flashes wedding band) Sorry ladies.

[Anonymous]

Yep. All the good men are taken ☺

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the most helpful opinion

[Cynicaldreamer]

I immediately lose interest if I find out a guy is taken! Even moreso if he has kids: that's like a blaring red flag that he's not only taken, but happily so and to keep my hands off!

I never understood how and why some people are attracted to married or taken people. I guess logically I realize they're off the table, so why bother lusting or wanting something you can't have?

[Still-alive]

the typical incel logic i often hearis that taken guys have been 'preselected' by a woman and are seen as having higher value over guys who are single and maybe seen as unable to get a girl.

[Cynicaldreamer]

@Still-alive "and are seen as having higher value over guys who are single and maybe seen as unable to get a girl." No, that's nonsense. It just tells me someone else got to said person first and they're no longer available to me. Can he be attractive? Sure. Would I be interested in him though? NO.

[enousonca]

yes absolutely normal!
men are naturally polygamous. deny it as much as you want but it is true. sexual dimorphic animals are polygamous and humans are not an exception even in monogamous societies where men married only one woman, rich men had mistresses (before "cheating" became socially wrong as it is today).
this is called pre-selection. when a man is taken that means he is a high value man and suitable to women thus women want him. women want what other women have simply as that. a part of a good man is better than none to them. why women of the past choose to be mistresses? why rich men are seen with many women in yachts?
ignore it as much as you want but those are facts with proofs.

[HazyDaze63]

I'm going to toss out a different theory here. I think it could be more of a safety net for someone that has a fear of commitment. If you date a married guy, you can use the fact that he is married as a way out of you need to. It keeps you from getting too close.

[DaveJord]

Some women are more attracted to a house broken man, that knows from experience how to engage in a productive relationship. And every one I think has a desire to taste the forbidden fruit at some point.

Honestly though sometimes we all do not see a person as dateable until you see then dating someone that you did not anticipate and it makes you recess them as a person.

[Raphaëlle]

It is a common thing to find 'taken' men attractive in a 'oh he's taken. He must be a really nice man' way. Personally I would back off immediately when I know he's taken already. I don't want any drama and I don't get those who like to 'steal' someone's partner.

[Anonymous]

Maybe if you do not think very far and/or actually is not that into a real commitment. Try thinking of the woman he is with and how much it will hurt her if he ends up cheating with you, or even just feel tempted to do so. I don't want a man who is letting himself be tempted when he is in a relationship. Therefore I am immediately put off when I get to know a man is taken, especially if I even felt like he was flirting 🤮, and I do not think of him as having any potential.

[VikingWarLord]

Women want what other women have (and/or want).

That's why I always have a few sideline biitches as BDSM Submissives because they are like SOCIAL CURRENCY that will attract even more women to my harem!

[AncientWisdom]

Yes it’s a weird thing women do. They want what another one has almost every time. I think females are more competitive then fellas

[Anonymous]

As much as I do see the appeal sexually, since I’ve sexted with some married men here and there, I am not more interested in guys if they are taken. I actually want a stable, loving relationship. Not one filled with lies and deceit on anyone’s end.

[DarkLordNoodlez]

I think it's more likely that married men are more likely to be attractive.

[sheikalana]

I've observed that a lot of women love stealing other women's men. For them it seems like that's more attractive than if the guy was single.

[DarkWinterNights]

Maybe I’m unusual. I tend to almost completely lose interest when I find out someone is taken.

[Citizenkirk]

Forbidden fruit syndrome. You like it? I just made it up 😁

[dragoblack]

Is it messed up to coerce a guy into cheating... yes. is it normal to unknowingly find those in relationships more attractive? also yes, because they are happier, romantic vibes, & more expressive.

[UdontNeedtoknow]

i don't know why, but i got hit on more when i was married and showing my ring then when i was single. Its like women can smell that your taken and want to steal you sometimes.

[EaterPeter]

Yes it can be coz you get to see how he is treating someone else.

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[Realworldanalysis]

that's not why.

[Alyssa_11]

It is 100% not normal. I get put off completely when I find out a man is taken.

[Uptowngirl88]

No, I'm not into dysfunctional. Those who enjoy dysfunctional have mental health issues

[cookiecrusher]

You want what other women want and also something you can't have.

[Kiran_Yagami]

That's how most women operate. Then they wonder why men have such a hard time being faithful.