Was I wrong for going off?

[Anonymous]

Me and this guy were talking for a couple months. We finally did the deed at the beginning of the week. I didn’t hear from him the next day so I texted him and we were having a conversation but I saw him come to my job with a girl. I assumed it was his girlfriend. He didn’t come over and speak but I guess I kind of hesitated too because of my assumptions. I immediately blocked him and cursed him out. Then I instead tried to be rational and ask about it last night. He got really up set and told me that was his sister. He also told me that he is grown and to stop questioning him. And said if it was th e what. So I went of again. I sent three small paragraphs telling him he was being extra and that he wasn’t going to talk about me like that and I called him out his name because of the disrespect. Then this morning I told him I hate him. I got it all off my chest. Maybe I didn’t need to react that way initially but he didn’t have to talk to me like that. It’s rude and he is the person who took my vCard so don’t start acting weird. I never asked for a relation ship he did. I didn’t even want one first. Now he didn’t respond but did I do too much

[Nawlins34]

Okay, I read this a few times just to make sure, by my count, you went "off" three times.

You were wrong for the 1st one.
I'll clarify.

"I assumed it was his girlfriend. He didn’t come over and speak but I guess I kind of hesitated too because of my assumptions. I immediately blocked him and cursed him out. Then I instead tried to be rational and ask about it last night." - When you use two different approaches this soon together, you come off looking crazy. If you wanted rational, you could've started off with rational.

I completely understand the 2nd one, that's justified.
My only issue with the 3rd one is you should've merged it with the 2nd one. Don't go to sleep with stress still on your heart like that.

" I never asked for a relationship he did" - Guys will ask you to waste your time, you have to be careful.

[Asker]

Thank you I regretted going off on the first one but when he started to try and hurt me by saying I hadn’t o right to ask etc I felt like he was trying come for me and I hated it but it’s all off my chest now I can move on peacefully knowing I have things to work on

[Nawlins34]

It's all good, we learn as we go. Be safe!

[boggboss]

Yes its your fault you started this situation by popping off without the facts you started the argument not him

[boggboss]

How could u expect him to be respectful after u cussed him

[Asker]

Not like that, he made me feel like I was just some bop or something. All he had to do was say it was his sister. Instead he made it seem like I had audacity to even ask him the question

[boggboss]

U was not together yes he could have said but u was the one that was overthinking u didn't ask a question u just blew up if that's how u think communication works u ain't gonna find anyone that will stay with you u are the one responsible for your actions

[Anonymous]

It's your fault for not having an established committed relationship before giving away your virginity over CONSENSUAL SEX

[Asker]

I mean sex is sex and it was consensual I wanted to do it just would’ve wanted someone more caring with it