Girls, do you find it easy to reject guys, or hard? Guys, are you conditioned to being rejected by girls or does it still effect (hurt) you? (Page 2)
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It's never easy!!
I always try to explain as much as possible and make my statement clear and hope he isn't that much hurt and moves on
In the end it's better to reject someone, instead of leading them on and playing with feelings
I think there's another choice, a middle area. It still hurts to get rejected, but it's not an extreme thing. You get conditioned to it after a while. Because men get tirned down a ton more than women. Mainly because we are considered the one with the burden to approach. And thay still has not changed very much to this day.
I definitely feel bad about it but I think it’s worse to waste someone’s time when they deserve to be with someone who is 100% into them. I do it in the kindest and most gentle way I can, though.
I definitely don't find it easy. It infact makes me feel uneasy because of experiences I have had in the past. I tend to take a soft approach rather than a flat no to play it safe.
Rejection is a woman's default response.
Women reject us for breakfast.
Sometimes sad but true
"Do guys get rejected more then the girls?"
Of course they do, how is that even a question?
Girls (and boys who might as well be girls) don't ask anyone out so they never face rejection.
Conditioned? 😂😂. Women are the ones conditioned into believing men are entitled to us.
Pretty sure the latter is far worse
My mother raised me to be servile and submissive to women. I'd never had a father figure to provide any input on what it means to be a man. Living by my mother's standards was a lesson in what not to do, because she was turning me into a husband, not a son. I was tasked with the labors in maintaining her home, uplifting her image. "Do what I say when I say it," but doing exactly that was never enough. There was always more she'd wanted, always a fault in my work. I'd not heard a word of praise form my mother until I was in my 20's, silent, alone, addled by depression and suicidal tendencies, and even then, she was celebrating my successes as her own.
Women never respected this form of me. I'd been cheated on, I'd been outright refused, lied to, and no one would tell me exactly why. It was always the vague "I'm just not feeling it" response. Learning to stop being submissive, servile, mousey and quiet, this is what helped me. Being respectful of everything she wants with no regards for myself; what I was conditioned to be, what they'd said they wanted, a falsehood. Few women can respect someone like that, and fewer still can love someone they don't respect. Today, being the man my mother feared I would become, she certainly respects me more, despite hating men as much as she says so.
TLDR: Women vie to condition men into repulsive partners who're serviceable to their wants.
And the same thing happens to little girls. Except their conditioning isn’t just about servitude: getting strong by hard labor, etc. Instead it’s also about being ladylike (agreeable and submissive), weak (dependable), sexualized (brainwashing), insecurity, etc.
Not saying what happened to you isn’t wrong but at least as a man, you can defend yourself now, as an adult. Women are conditioned in the most oppressive ways and even after fighting those, we still can’t defend ourselves against any man or sexist government
It's part of the game.. it use to bother me at the beginning but not any more.. if I approach 10 girls I will get rejected 9 times. I know this before hand.. I have rejected girls also.. I try to be kind about it and not a jerk.
Of course that's gonna hurt, being rejected. Who would enjoy being judged by someone else as not desirable? When I was single I would only ask someone out if I had a very strong inclination they would accept.
Yes I find it easy most of the time because most people I reject are people I don’t have feelings for. But I had to reject someone I had feelings for one time and it wasn’t good.
Its hard because i dont like hurting people and i feel everyone has someone out there for them.
I used to joke about how I was good with rejection because I had a lot of practice but it really was not true.
It usually doesn't bother me unless I've had lot's of my time wasted. Sometimes I get fed up and just take a break from the dating scene though.
It definitely hurts. But I’m confident in myself that it doesn’t affect my self worth, I know who I am and what I bring to the table in any relationship so it’s usually there loss
I'm totally used to the rejection thing. I learned how to handle that by age 15.
I still feel uncomfortable whenever I have to reject other people, though.
I have learned to expect rejection.
I have also learned to enjoy the schadenfreude of seeing them later with an abusive psycho/loser.
For me, a bullet dodged.
For them, they picked him. Enjoy. 🤣
None, as a girl i find it hard to not reject because i grew up with strict parents and around people where to go out/ have people on your phone (who isn't family or friands) is being looked at as ”bad” or being a ”hoe” so thats why i feel bad NOT to reject someone even if i really want them and i know that the way i grew up with it wrong but i still feel bad if i accsept. I don't know it may be just me lol
It still hurts, but like anything in life you learn to deal with it. Realize its not the end of the world and sometimes your better off being rejected. Theirfore it effects you less and less.
I'm 30, never had a girlfriend, and i have been rejected near constantly for years... I'm numb to rejection at this point -_-
Aw that is really sad 😔
Rejection never bothered me. Some wonderful people have nothing in common and don’t belong together. The tough part was seeing the drugged out, brain dead losers and chest thumping, strutting ass holes women go out with after turning me down.