Is it okay to cheat if you're not getting caught?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

No in the act of cheating that is the most destructive part let's pretend for a minute you and I are lovers every night I come home cook dinner make hot passionate love to you every single night and let's pretend that you are the cheater and every night that I do this and you come home from work and you just said that cheating with your lover and you act as if nothing has happened you just the same old you same old beautiful lover and we both get off really really good together but everyday you see your lover and you come home and you act as if nothing has happened because you think you're smarter and you can get away with it and you are getting away with it but with a person could do that and hold on to that lie each and every day that's the part that hurts all cheaters get caught sooner or later it doesn't matter and just the thought of somebody cheating and acting as if they're smarter and they can get away with it when you come home and just got to rub it in the guy's face or the girl's face that's the part that hurts there's no reason to cheat ever if you're not happy you just get out of the relationship

FunkyMonkee · Accepted Answer

No! If you don''t want to be with him anymore, just break up with him and go chase your side dick! Why hide it if it's GONNA end badly, anyway? Wouldn't it better to just walk up to him and tell him that you just don't feel anything for him anymore and you wish him well but you can't stick anymore and have him at least respect you for being honest than to cheat on him for who knows how long and then have him hate your guts for cheating on him and lying to him? Would it be okay for HIM to cheat on you as long as you don't catch him?

GurlMaster40 · Accepted Answer

Why the hell do people think that those things are ok? Sorry I’m a little frustrated about this topic since my dad isn’t a good husband to my mom and they are getting a separation. Still! Just because your spouse doesn’t know about you cheating does not mean they won’t find out eventually!!! In these situations there are a few options:

1. Stop cheating and be a better spouse
2. Tell them and then work on showing your spouse more love and attention
3. keep cheating and then get separated cus your spouse shouldn’t be with someone who is cheating.!

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Are you okay with your boyfriend or husband cheating on you as long as he doesn't get caught?
Yeah, bet not...
If you want to sleep with other people, stay single, don't get into monogamous relationships, be upfront with your sexual partners that there's others. That way you're not a cheater or a liar

OlderAndWiser · Answer

What do you mean by "is it okay?" Do you mean

1. whatever your spouse doesn't know about can't hurt them?
2. you will not have the moral disapproval of family and friends
3. you aren't really hurting your marriage?
4. you aren't "really" hurting your spouse?
5. you aren't "really" hurting yourself?
6. you don't need to feel guilty?
7. or something else?

fcrosby · Answer

Sounds like a question someone that's cheating would ask. It's NEVER ok to cheat. When your partner discovers the infidelity, it shatters their world. The most important person in their world, the person who vowed to love them forever has committed a crime against their trust. This violation will forever alter & potentially break the foundation upon which they have built their marriage and their life. In a moment their entire world has shifted, often leaving them hurt & afraid. Their emotional security has been ripped away from them. The person they trusted most, the person that was there for them when they were down, the person that celebrated life's successes with them is now gone. That life is over. And this loss of intimacy with the knowledge of how it was lost is nothing short of torturous, leaving them feeling more alone than ever. The aftermath robs them of their past as they begin to question every part of the relationship, wondering if it was ever real. Feelings of guilt develop as they take responsibility for the infidelity, wondering what they've done to cause this and what they could have done to prevent it. They are overwhelmed by grief and their self-esteem plummets as they question why they weren't good enough and why the other person was, leaving them feeling as if they are lacking in something or just not good enough. The longer these feelings continue, the more they believe that they aren't worth loving and possibly begin to loathe themselves. I can't think of anything more painful & detrimental to a person's wellbeing than the belief that they are unlovable. They are tortured by their imagination, wondering what happened, when, where, and possibly who, or they dwell on what they know took place. Facing friends, family & coworkers can become tremendously difficult as they are ashamed of how they will be perceived by others, believing everyone will also think they just weren't good enough to keep their partner. The victim of infidelity can feel so many intense negative emotions that it can affect their health. The longer they struggle with the emotional pain, the more their body’s negative reactions to them will be. Infidelity is incredibly painful because it strikes at the base on which they've chosen to build their life. When this base is threatened, it calls all of their perceptions about life in to question, leaving them disoriented & confused. It will leave deep scars, affecting every relationship for the rest of their lives. And it's SO EASY NOT TO CHEAT. NOT TO POTENTIALLY DESTROY THE FUTURE OF SOMEONE THAT YOU CARE OR CARED ABOIUT. It's NEVER worth it. NEVER!

Jessica405 · Answer

The great danger of cheating is that one day you might get found out.

If you cheat for kicks, you will always be a cheater. The more you cheat, the greater the chances of getting caught.

If you are in a bad relationship, just leave. Find a new partner.

SemiParanoidi · Answer

I personally think it's a very heinous act of betrayal. Why be together with someone you don't see a future with? For a free shoulder to cry onto whenever you feel like it? For a roof to be over your head? For not being alone until you find someone better?

If you're willing to stab the back of the person you're supposed to "love", please let them go and let them find their true happiness and place of belonging. Less drama for you too, unless you strive off on it.

Or you can always ask for an open relationship.

TickleMe4ForFun · Answer

If you are willing to cheat, then it is probably best that you DO get caught... Because it means your partner isn't fulfilling your needs, and that is why you are looking elsewhere. Also, life is boring without variety. It can get boring having the same pussy OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN! This is where people get fucked up on the thought of love and loyalty. It imprison them to a depressing life bc they talk themselves into only having one pussy/one dick for the rest of their life! That is like eating the same food and watching the same movie EVERY DAY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!!! Of course, it is going to become old and stale!!

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Why not just ask permission to do it, in an open relationship... thus it won't be cheating anymore.

Cheating itself isn't the problem, its the fact that your doing it behind their back and being dishonest. You might as well be asking if its okay to be a liar and if honesty really matters.

Loveblackwomen · Answer

I say first of all it depends mostly on who you are as a Human Being. Never do on to others as you wouldn't want them to do to you! I have been in many Relationships. So I will say this. If you have a Mutual Understanding then it's Not cheating. For instance I was in Relationship's with multiple, Women back in the days when I was younger. All the girls said: "I want to see other people." So I said: O. K. "I want to see other people too." So we all had a mutual understanding. We're all mature adults, so we Practiced Safe sex & promised each other we wouldn't never bring anything bad to each other. It was great while it lasted. I moved away. And even though we are not in the same place. We are all still good friends to this day. Always remember: Your actions & words Show others Who you truly are.

Zeus_66 · Answer

That is something only you can answer. We do not know the dynamics of said relationship, actual feelings, etc. I am sure many will disagree with me, and that's fine. But the fact remains we don't have the details that lead to such behavior. I would think that people would give the courtesy rather than resorting to selling themselves out. But again, not for me to decide what someone's values are.

loveslongnails · Answer

It's not rocket science. LOL If you're in an open relationship, or everyone involved agrees to whatever the parameters are, it's not cheating. If one of the partners THINKS you're exclusive, then you are, and it wouldn't be ok with them even if it's ok with you! If it WAS ok with them, you'd both know.

So for your simple code, try and remember "If you both don't say yes, the answer is no!"

MikeInHawaii · Answer

I don’t think anyone ever planned on getting caught. Morality is what you do when no one is looking.

A 30-year-old female friend was going out with a coworker. She wasn’t sure if this was right because he was 47, married and had five kids. Frustrated with years of her relationship issues, I asked he “Are you such a dumb slut you have to ask me if that’s not okay?”

I might ask you the same question.

Blackcosmo · Answer

No. Cheating under any circumstances is never ok. If you don't think you're partners good enough then be a decent person and break up with them.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Does it make robbing someone okay if you don't get caught? NO
Does it make breaking car windows okay if you don't get caught? No
Does it make knocking someone out from behind just because you wanted to okay if you don't get caught? No
Does it make going 40MPH over the speed limit and weaving erratically through traffic okay if you don't get caught? No
Not getting caught doesn't make cheating on someone okay. You may not know who the person you're using to help you cheat might know.

MrJMM · Answer

No! If one of my friends got cheated on you better believe I will try to convince them to go and do something that will relieve the stress and heartbreak like... Destroying the car, vandalizing property, talking to the person they are with that they’re a cheating ass, and if they believe it trying to get revenge together to ruin their lives. Like... Karma bitch!

Gochogirl · Answer

If it's classified as actual cheating, it isn't okay. The part that makes it cheating is that you should not be doing it. If your partner is cool with it, then it isn't cheating. You following here?

peedy · Answer

It depends on your morals do you want to be a good honest trustworthy person or do you want to lies and keep secrets is unfaithful and untrustworthy and looks at yourself in the mirror and says "I just lied to the one person that I love the most in this world and loves me equally in return, what kind of person am I "
In the end you're the one that has to live with yourself and look yourself in the mirror and say im a good person or im a bad person

SaartjieJane · Answer

You’re a shit excuse of a human if you think it’s fine to cheat. Literally disgusting. How could you ever trust a person again that does that?

dynamicyandere · Answer

That’s like asking if it’s wrong to rob a bank if you don’t get caught. Of course it’s wrong, whether or not you get caught.

Miche84 · Answer

Would you think it’s ok if you were cheated on by your significant other as long as they didn’t get caught? Flip that question. But No, I don’t think it’s ok. It just makes the Cheater look like a fool and the one cheated on hurt & look like an even bigger fool (even though they don’t know) and it’s the cheaters fault for making them look that way. I’d feel like a fool for being with a cheater Is what I’m saying.

Sour-rose · Answer

Suuuure... if you can have a clear conscience and not look over your shoulder thinking the one you're cheating on won't just appear like a gotdamn ghost. :)

Katiehes961 · Answer

Haha. I am fascinated daily by the questions some of you ask and you know the answers to them. Firstly, if you dont like that person, just leave him, for the gods sake. I mean, I am sorry, but u probably have to be a hoe for asking such questions. life is not just sex.

cute_short_nerd · Answer

No. It's not ok in any circumstances.  Doing things with someone against your will isn't cheating it's assault and or rape.  Cheating voluntarily is wrong under any circumstances.

IJhonnyI · Answer

It's like asking is it okay to murder people as long as you don't get caught, answer is no by the way😂

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

That’s like is it okay to murder if you don’t get caught. of course it’s not okay to cheat. one of keystones to a relationship is trust.

Lliam · Answer

Is it okay to steal if you don't get caught? Of course not.

laurieluvsit · Answer

... no, unless there is abuse involved and it is a way of escape

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Depends. How do you feel about your boyfriend being balls deep inside your best friend?

exitseven · Answer

No, it is still cheating. The only time it is okay is cheating on your taxes.

Literalbillionaire17 · Answer

It’s about ur moral compass. Personally I don’t think cheating is ok but if someone feels like it’s fine as long as it’s “not hurting anyone” then 🤷🏽‍♀️

Sonorous · Answer

No Emily. It's not okay to cheat on your fucking spouse Emily.

Bailey0506 · Answer

I think I'm going to have to lean into the majority and say...  No. Never.

Friendzoned1970 · Answer

It will only bite you in the ass in the long run even if you don't get caught. I don't suggest cheating.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Nope, and if you believed it WAS ok would you of asked it anonymously?

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

Yeah no. Just break up with them so they can do better.

Finchie40 · Answer

If you are cheating then you don’t love your partner so you should end the relationship

BCRanger10 · Answer

No, cheating is  never  okay.

Someone80004 · Answer

Of course not.. It's unethical and hurtful Cheating is never ok, period

Tiffany_VG · Answer

it's not good but most people will cheat when given the opportunity, let's not fool ourselves.

BrickBiggems · Answer

Is it ok to shoot someone in the face of your not getting caught? No it's not ok

Bob92220 · Answer

According to Homer Simpson, it's all right to cheat if you don't get caught.

iamnash · Answer

If you’re cheating , you know that karma is right around the corner. If you don’t want to be with the person just let them know upfront

Fireguy17 · Answer

No, you still know it's wrong as well as the other person.

Xrynx · Answer

Morally that makes no sense but if you have no thought or care for your partner go ahead hurt them.

Jamesshinobi · Answer

yes. Consequences dictate Our course of action and it Doesn't matter what's right It's only wrong if you get caught

Quidthonian · Answer

No. It is a 'moral' thing. You think no one is watching, but God will know. You will loose your sensitivity and you will be caught eventually.

Anonymous · Answer

Yea just like its ok to murder someone as long as you don't get caught.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

What part of "cheat" you don't understand? No it's not okay. What's wrong with these people?

Iron_Man · Answer

Hell no people that think that way should get double the penalty

Swordnen · Answer

Is it okay to steal/kill/rape or sell women/children or smuggle drugs, wood, money, if you are not getting caught?

OddBeMe · Answer

Does it make it morally justified? No. But like ted bundy always said, “If you can live with yourself afterward, go for it!”

In_Trance · Answer

Would it be ok if that's what was happening to you?

Twalli · Answer

No, because it means that you don't respect your partner.

Anonymous · Answer

Is it okay to piss off the side off a balcony if everyone thinks it's rain?

Anonymous · Answer

It's never OK to cheat. Only worthless pieces of shit, who are not human and only capable of loving them selves and no one else cheat.

bootieclapper9000 · Answer

noooooo death follows those who continue down that path

007kingifrit · Answer

if you enjoy cheating that much just find a cuckold boyfriend who likes it

lawhawk · Answer

Is it ok to do anything as long as you don't get caught?

888theGreat · Answer

Would it be good to kill someone if you didn't get caught?

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

That’s like saying, “it didn’t happen if nobody cares”

driven159 · Answer

cheating is cheating if it's okay then you have no guilty feelings and should remain alone

Guardian45 · Answer

Sure, go ahead and murder someone, then report back to us how that turned out.

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