I recently started dating this much younger guy (he is 24 and I am 33). At first it wasn't an issue because I was so into him and everything was magical, but then bunch of small things started to affect my feelings for him that I believe are because of the age gap. Mainly the fact that he is currently kind of unstable financially, doesn't have a stable home (he rents different room every month), doesn't have a car, doesn't even have a bank account or health insurance in this country (we both moved recently, me a year ago and him 6 months ago), still didn't learn the language, etc. etc. Which all shouldn't be such a big problem because that's how young people live. I mean for his age he's done more then enough, and more is yet to come, he has big dreams and all that. But I can't help but feel kind of "superior" to him because I have a good income, stable career, my own flat, my own car, savings, I speak language, I'm pretty much settled. And I want my man to be on the same page, it makes me feel more safe if you know what I mean. I tried to subtly "push him" to start thinking about all those things but all he says is "yeah maybe, I just don't want to go through all that stress". I mean it's true bureaucracy is stressful, but it's what adult people do. Right now he is just getting by. And that is fine for a 24 year old, I guess. But if he was over 30 I think I wouldn't date him.
Besides all the above, he has been the best boyfriend I ever had. Loyal, respectful, trustworthy, treats me amazingly, great sex and intimacy, wants to marry me and all that... He is really deeply in love with me.
I wish I could say the same. I like him, but all these negatives are stopping me from fully enjoying this relationship. I never dated anyone that younger and I'm not sure if this is my usual overthinking shit or there's really a reason for concern?
Besides all the above, he has been the best boyfriend I ever had. Loyal, respectful, trustworthy, treats me amazingly, great sex and intimacy, wants to marry me and all that... He is really deeply in love with me.
I wish I could say the same. I like him, but all these negatives are stopping me from fully enjoying this relationship. I never dated anyone that younger and I'm not sure if this is my usual overthinking shit or there's really a reason for concern?
