27F, I just don’t get why I’ve never had luck with dating. I’ve only used dating apps and while they have a bad rep I know they work for a lot of people too. I’ve been told im cute but when I say I never get approached by guys in person im not kidding. Everyone I knew back in HS and college talked about getting approached by guys. I’ve never had a LTR only dated someone for a few months back in my early twenties. Dating apps I use very casually and have kind of lost interest. The same way all the other women I know had dating happen so naturally for them I feel it should be the same for me which is why I refuse to approach guys moving fwd (with apps that’d be me messaging first). I used to message first here and there but stopped. I get matches on the apps and getting dates aren’t the issue, it’s more along the lines of not attracting the guy I’d like or there’s lack of connection/things fizzle out/guys only want a hook up.
Well, what I don't see you mention is what exactly you want in a guy. If you don't have any idea other than just wanting an LTR, you're likely to keep meeting guys that aren't suitable. Now, just because you do have some idea what you want in a guy doesn't mean it won't change after you have had some more relationship experience and it definitely does not mean that you won't meet guys who turn out to be incompatible, but it does help narrow your search.
Try to find ways to meet guys in person. And you can always start a convo with a guy or ask one out.
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What sort of man do you want to meet? What does your profile say?
So your issue is not you having trouble getting guys but it’s just a problem of getting one that sticks right? I mean you can’t really force a connection, it’s definitely easier to build a connection in person (or from the moment you first met). How does your bio look like on your profile tho? It might help you in narrowing down to only attracting the type of guys you’re looking for
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Maybe you should pick the guy and make sure he's not a douche bag, and not just let whatever guy pick you
You want guys to approach you but you don’t want to approach them. Why is this? Just know that closed mouths don’t get fed.
And there it was right at the end of your description to your question. You can't expect filet mignon if you're rump roast. 🤣
I feel like most likely ur standards are too high
A few months is your longest relationship?
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