I hate when people that are married tell me forget about dating and finding the right person?

[Anonymous]

I hate when people that are married tell me forget about dating and finding the right person, just work hard and enjoy your life. Is it something wrong with me cause I don’t understand them?

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I mean, they're right, though. Focusing on what you don't have isn't going to help you find it.

And focusing on making your own life good is what will help you attract someone who will actually fit in your life.

It's like the expression of how a pot of water takes longer to boil if you watch it.

The less attention you pay to "finding your person", the less you'll notice it. As you build the life you want to live, you'll be around people (e. g. for me I like to climb, so I'll meet climbers) who share interests and you'll more easily find people to date. It's not your focus, your focus is on making yourself happy, but you're increasing your chances all the same.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Some people are so desperate to fit anyone into their somebody.

Now this may not be you, I think your friends are just cautioning about the risks since they've probably seen it happen to other people (recent divorcees who had 'everything' but still end up in square 1).

I do think it's healthy to keep going on dates and to cut people early and often when you realize you aren't compatible or the thought of them doesn't make you smile after a few weeks/months.

[Adam1978]

Yeah you need to forget the nonsense about a right person. There should be hundreds of good enough people you can live a good life with or either something is wrong with you, or you have to high demands.

[kareka]

Fuck who say that..